Being naked in front of DP/DH

I can only speak from my own personal experience.

I'm a bit meh either way on this. I am not wild about wandering around naked, largely because my slightly hippyish mother used to when we were children and I hated it. I don't feel embarrassed being naked in front of DP, it is just a functional part of living with someone. I have no problem stripping off to get changed in a single sex changing room either, I'm definitely not cowering behind my towel. But that doesn't mean I'm like Naomi in Wolf of Wall Street either. I'm just kind of cracking on with my nudity as a small part of my life.

For any woman worried about how their body looks - have you seen a cock and balls?????? No wonder we need pheromones, oxytocin and a whole load of snogging and foreplay!

I like walking around in my underwear. I get changed in front of him and he likes looking at my body. However, I feel uncomfortable naked, not sure why. I was brought up with quite prudish mother, maybe that's it. DH likes me to sleep naked but I prefer to sleep in my knickers, I feel somewhat vulnerable naked but then I've always been shy too 🙍

Oh my, seems I’ve also stirred the hornets nest. I didn’t say if you aren’t fully shaved with full set of white teeth decent boobs and of a certain height you need to hide.

and I’m not even going ti dignify the rest of your rant with a response.

What I find sad on this thread, are all the people in supposedly happy relationships who won't let their partner see them naked. This is someone who loves you for you. He married you not some perfect image you have in your head. Unless he has shown you otherwise he loves you just as you are.

If being with someone who constantly put me down has taught me anything, it's that the ones who call their wives/partners fat etc are the ones that are no oil painting themselves. My ex called me fat when I was 11 stone,he called me fat when I was 12stone and he was 25st! He gave me massive body image issues that I never had before, but over time the little voice is being silenced.

The two men since my ex, who saw me naked had no complaints and maybe they're the ones I should pay attention to.

@AnAltogetherDifferentSortOfThing

Whatever women tell each other, men don't find the confidence attractive if you don't have the body to back it up.
Also what are you suggesting? That men don't find confidence attractive on a less than A.I. Perfect body? That they'd prefer you to be shuffling about frantically covering yourself with towels and bathrobes and dashing from bathroom to bed in a panic, radiating self disgust and loathing and embarrassment?

Yeah. No one finds that attractive.

@AnAltogetherDifferentSortOfThing

Whatever women tell each other, men don't find the confidence attractive if you don't have the body to back it up. Whether they tell you so or not, they are thinking negatively.
I'm sorry you've had such bad experiences. But surely even you can realise that you don't and can't speak for what all men are thinking.
Not even a man can speak for all men.

I know for a fact that my DH loves my body. He loved it when I was 25 and he loves it now at nearly 60. He's loved it skinny and fat. Pregnant and post babies. He can't get enough and he worships every inch of me.

I hope you can find someone to treasure you

@Queenofthejabs Another one going against the tide. like me 😁

@AnAltogetherDifferentSortOfThing Thank you for all your posts, we're definitely of like mind!

@Queenofthejabs

I think many people find confidence attractive, but i feel you are deliberately misunderstanding what the poster wrote. The truth is, unless you find fat attractive, and many do, then seeing your fat naked spouse wandering around in broad daylight is unlikely to be something you find attractive. No matter how confidently they strut their stuff round the living room.
Generally people find small noses on women attractive. And decent sized boobs. Good white straight teeth. Lack of body hair and being between 5'2" and 5'7" is ideal apparently.

So according to you if you do not possess these you should ensure lights are dim lest your partner is repelled

Has it never occurred to you that people who genuinely love their partners do not find your 'flaws' unattractive? How do you think people with facial deformities or physically disabled bodies find people to love them. And they do. Are you suggesting they are with people with kinks

That's not really representative of how most women look naked though is it? Anymore than saying all skinny women look like supermodels.

It's psychological really isn't it?

I know it doesn't make sense but I think that if you're fully illuminated, it's like saying "Look at me! I think I look great!"

And low lighting (eg lamps and candlelight) are more flattering generally.

So you think everyone^^ not skinny looks good naked?

No

I once read a meme that said skinny women look good in clothes, the rest of us look better without them. To a degree I think that is true, many of us look much better naked. Take a look in your local art gallery, don’t all the naked woman look gorgeous?

I wouldn’t generally walk about naked, not
becisse I’m a prude; but because it’s too cold in Scotland. When getting dressed or just out of the shower I’m sure I’m naked in front of DH, but I don’t think about it one way or the other

If the lights are low are you suddenly not fat?
The man is still exactly as much aware of your weight as he was before.

If he finds you attractive to want to have sex I can bet he would prefer to actually be able to see you during the sex.

Everything you've said just makes me want to give you the biggest hug.
I know that you feel what you are saying very deeply so I don't want you to think I don't understand where you are coming from. But the reality is you've either had the unfortunate misfortune of meeting a dickhead or you are doing this to yourself.

Heterosexual men like all different types of women, if you have any doubts about that make yourself a cup of tea and spend an hour searching for every horrible body trait you can think of and add the word porn on the end 🤣 you will find a customer for every taste.

Your body isn't beautiful because your tit's are perky or bum is nice and round, it's beautiful because it's yours, because he loves you and because that body just happens to be the vessel that contains the person he wants to spend his life with.

Obviously if you are with a man that is a dick things can go wrong, but that is about that person. It isn't a reflection on yourself. If you were confident before you can definitely be confident again.
You get one life and one body, don't wast your time hating it and hiding it.

Exactly.

Immediately prior to and during sex, it's not about them finding you attractive, it's about them wanting to have and having sex.

Many men are happy to ignore a multitude of sins if they're about to get laid.

I don't really like wandering around naked for long periods because I feel more comfortable in clothes, but my partner and I sleep naked, get up to walk to the bathroom or get a glass of water, change in front of each other etc. I like my body and I enjoy watching him admire it.

My mind is blown by the amount of naked families on here though. That's a big no from me and I'm glad my parents didn't subject me to that 😳

I think many people find confidence attractive, but i feel you are deliberately misunderstanding what the poster wrote. The truth is, unless you find fat attractive, and many do, then seeing your fat naked spouse wandering around in broad daylight is unlikely to be something you find attractive. No matter how confidently they strut their stuff round the living room.

sure in low lights, before sex, maybe, but very few people past that.

ive been fat and thin and everything in between, and my husband loves me what ever, but I know what my body looks like, and the general consensus is a healthy weight looks better naked, than an underweight or obese one. There has been plenty of studies on that.

now if you’re overweight and your husband is into that and finds you so attractive naked at whatever size, then lucky you, but fundamentally you just know it isn’t the norm. It doesn’t mean they don’t find you attractive or want to have sex with you, but simply the walking around starkers in broad daylight isn’t usually visibly appealing for both signficantly underweight/overweight bodies.

multipke studies are available to show most people find a healthy weight most attractive, with some outliers who like significantly underweught or overweight people.

The body they find attractive, I suppose.

I've been criticised on both ends of the scale - not being big enough and not being slim enough or I've been ok apart for this part of me or that part of me 🤷🏻‍♀️

My partner hasn't ever said anything critical (well apart from once saying I have 'sturdy' thighs and am built like a 'farm girl') but I haven't given him the opportunity either. So I'm going to just stick with that.

Very comfortable to walk around naked in front of my husband! Neither of us are perfect and we are often in fits of giggles jiggling our wobbly bits about. I don’t think I’ve actually ever stopped to think weather or not he finds me attractive or not when naked I dont think i would really cared if he does or not 😂

I'm happy to walk.around the house alone naked and my children grew up in a fairly naked house when it was just us.

So I've not always been this way. I've definitely learnt to though.

I have just read all your updates!! Have you dumped this man? If not please do…the reason you aren’t comfortable around him is because of him and his awful comments!

I'm sorry that you have had bad experience with individual men, but it's not fair to say that about all men. Plenty of men (and women!) find confidence attractive. Saying you need "the body to back it up"- what body? According to who?