Being naked in front of DP/DH

Some people have standards.

Nope, I'm very uncomfortable being naked at all tbh. Even if I'm on my own I wouldn't be and have always but I am very unhappy with how I look especially since I gained some weight. It has nothing to do with how I feel towards my partner at all

@RebelStarChild
Many people's value systems prize privacy, modesty and dignity. There's nothing sad or wrong with that.
Pretty sure the posters were referring to women saying they were embarrassed/ashamed/scared their dp would leave them if they saw their baked body.

Nothing about that is to do with being modest or having dignity. And yes. Feeling ashamed of your body or that your dp will leave you over it is sad. No idea how you could think it was anything other than sad.

I think you have more issues with your mum that her being naked given how you speak about her, I get it I have issues with my own. Curious, would you have felt the same way if she had been skinny?

I don’t think being able to walk around your own home in front of your children is wrong. I do think it’s a fine line topic though with where do you draw the line on body confidence and not being ashamed of the naked body to forcing your self on others.

Ive always been comfortable I front of my DH, however I wasn’t as comfortable in front of my ExH and I had a far nicer body then. Age and being less ashamed of myself has made me this way, as well as having a supportive DH who dosnt make be feel any body shame. Yes I’m very very fat!

As for my DCs we’ve never been ashamed to be naked in front of them, but have always been open in telling them they can talk to us and share their feelings. Also being naked at home is one thing, being naked in front of strangers is something completely different.

My oldest DD told me when she was 11 she didn’t feel comfortable getting undressed in front of DH any more and didn’t like seeing me naked. Wishes we absolutely respected. Then she came into our room wanting my immediate attention when I was naked, I pointed out I was in my room with the door closed so it’s on her if she sees me naked, she’s fine with that and seems to not have issues with talking to me while I’m naked anymore. DD 2 once walked in and said ewww naked boobies, I gave her the same option, I will be naked in my room if they don’t like it they learn to knock and wait. DD 2 is also at a point now where she wants more privacy around DH, absolutely fine.

That says everything about your experience of crap men rather than what most people may or may not think.

Also, there are various sources, if you google the subject, saying that people who sleep naked need to wash their bed linen more often than the Decent Folk among us who sleep encased in winceyette! 😂

Translation: Your beds are dirtier.

And do NOT get me started on animals sleeping in human beds, especially dogs, who go out with their naked paws on the streets and then wipe them all over your sheets!!!!!!

Whatever works for you, where you are

Ha! I knew sleeping naked was gross!

https://sleepopolis.com/education/should-you-sleep-in-the-nude-heres-the-naked-truth/#:~:text=%E2%80%9CA%20major%20drawback%20to%20sleeping,gas%2Dpassing%20can%20collect%20quicker.

Drawbacks of Sleeping Naked
While all of those benefits sound great, what are the cons of sleeping naked? Let’s dive in.
Bedroom Sanitation
Sleeping naked may not keep your sheets as clean as they should be. “A major drawback to sleeping nude is that now your mattress and sheets are the first line of defense against moisture and bacteria,” says Marchetti.
When you have no barrier between your skin and bedding, dirt, dander, dust, oil, sweat, and even fecal particles from nighttime gas-passing can collect quicker. (18) “People tend to wash their pajamas more frequently than their sheets, so sleeping in loose-fitting pajamas may be the preferable choice,” says Marchetti.

😂 Thanks, I'll...um...make an appointment!

Everyone's underwear contains microscopic bits of faeces and urine, but we change it every day. Not so the bed sheets, unless you want a ton of extra work every day.

I stand by my comment about the yuckiness of sleeping naked! Forego nightwear if you must (and get the bedding all sweaty and hairy) but at least wear a pair of pants!

Men don't blot their penises after a wee, do they? So if they go to the loo before bed or in the night, and then get into bed, guess where the urine drops are? 🤢

It's sad because these women are thinking so badly of themselves and they shouldn't do. It's one thing to say you prefer modesty and completely another to say you fear your husband would leave you if he saw you naked.

I am! Flannel nightie buttoned up to my chin and none of that funny business! 😂

Oh this thread makes me sad

Mine wasn't...he fainted. 😃

It's turned into a bit of a 'one upmanship' thread imo.

Everyone is different, both in body shape and opinion.
Some gorgeous looking woman will be shy about showing their bodies, some fatter, bonier, less perfect looking women are comfortable in showing it all.

I think the point is ,no man should make a woman feel self-conscious about her body....if you are good enough to allow someone that close, they should be good enough to appreciate what you look like.... no matter what age or shape you happen to be.

Birth is such a personal thing. You don't have to have him in the delivery room you know.
Sending hugs.

Same. And it is sad because it’s controlling how you see yourself and how you show up in the world

It makes me feel sad that anyone feels shame about their bodies. Sure maybe they’re not as toned as you’d like or you’d like to be fitter but they’re amazing things that have brought you this far. Anything in our lives could change in an instant so shouldn’t we just be content with what we’ve got?
Urgh I feel like shame over bodies is a made up thing made to control us :-(

Gosh, you are giving yourself a hard time.. We all have our own version of being beautiful ❤️

I prefer not to think of my own body as indecent

That is your experience of men. It is not mine.

This isn't due to insecurities as you'd see if you'd read my posts. This is straight from the horses' mouths (men).

Until men began to offer me their opinion on me and my body, I had no issue. Now, I'm not giving any of them the opportunity to tell me what they think of me.

It's so teenagerish to dub any thought process that differs from one's own as "sad."

Many people's value systems prize privacy, modesty and dignity. There's nothing sad or wrong with that.

@AnAltogetherDifferentSortOfThing

Whatever women tell each other, men don't find the confidence attractive if you don't have the body to back it up. Whether they tell you so or not, they arethinking negatively.

I appreciate that you can’t help your own insecurities around your appearance, and I’m sorry that you have to live with those hang-ups. But could you please not project your issues on to the rest of us? It’s bad enough that you’re telling yourself this, but it’s even worse to tell other women who are confident about their variously sized/aged/shaped bodies that their partners don’t fancy them.

I don’t like my own body at all. Even when I was younger and slimmer than I am now, I had cellulite, a bit of a belly, wobbly thighs, chunky legs, stretch marks on my hips and the side of my boobs. I’m also exceptionally pale with very dark hair, so any body hair is all too apparent within about an hour of shaving! I don’t really like seeing myself naked in the mirror.

But despite this, I know that none of the men I’ve slept with have been even remotely put off by any of the things I don’t like about my body. They’ve all been abundantly enthusiastic about it. They’ve all wanted to look at it during sex. They’ve all given me compliments. I’ve never tried to hide my body, and I’d hate it if they tried to hide theirs, and none of them have been repelled. I absolutely loathe my bum and cringe when I see it in a mirror, but (TMI) my DP likes sex in the doggy position specifically because he likes looking at my bum!

I’ve also been told, by most of the men I’ve slept with, that one of the things they enjoyed about sex with me was that I didn’t want the lights off and didn’t want to hide my body from them and didn’t care about whether positions were ‘flattering’.

I’ve also had conversations with with groups of friends where women have been joking about body insecurities and the men have been baffled that we’d think they care. One of them didn’t know what cellulite was and when we explained it was that dimply flab on a bum or thighs he was genuinely stunned that women were worrying about it because it had never occurred to him to think it was unattractive.

This has to be one of the saddest threads I’ve ever read 😔

I’ve literally doubled in size since me and DH got together, he sees me naked pretty much every day and he’s not shy about staring appreciatively.

Although I wasn't talking about fat or overweight people, you're the one who has assumed that's what people are talking about when discussing unattractive bodies.

Yes. I'm a size 10/12. Always have been apart from a difficult period after my dad died when I was a 14.

Still been criticised.

"unless you find fat attractive, and many do, then seeing your fat naked spouse wandering around in broad daylight is unlikely to be something you find attractive"

But your spouse chose you, and pursued a relationship with you, so of course they find you attractive? We're not talking about what the general public find attractive.

Although I wasn't talking about fat or overweight people, you're the one who has assumed that's what people are talking about when discussing unattractive bodies.