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Being naked in front of DP/DH

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SnowflakeSmasher86 · 17/02/2025 15:12

Are you comfortable being visibly naked in front of your partner? Would you be ok with the lights on/daylight etc and walk around with nothing on?

Or would you have a towel/underwear/a sheet over you?

i’m not bothered about my wobbly bits on a daily basis, and felt just the same way when I was several stone lighter, so I don’t see it as a body image thing as such, I juat wouldn’t walk around naked in front of him. He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship.

YABU - I think its normal to feel 100% at ease walking about naked in front of my DP/DH

YANBU - I’d rather keep some things undercover and feel self conscious naked standing up and walking about the bedroom/house.

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FrenchandSaunders · 17/02/2025 16:48

I used to but I’ve put on weight and feel self conscious now.

Queenofthejabs · 17/02/2025 16:47

Didn’t take long for the naturists to find the thread, 😂

Winterscoming77 · 17/02/2025 16:47

no problem at all. Including start jumps and stupid dances. I’m not super slim either haha

TagSplashMaverick · 17/02/2025 16:47

Absolutely. But I am a gym fiend, so I work hard to look how I look. And I m proud of it.

Chuchoter · 17/02/2025 16:46

At times I am a naturist so yes I walk around naked a lot.

Often in my garden when it's warm weather although I always wear footwear!

MintTwirl · 17/02/2025 16:46

I don’t walk around naked full stop.I’m happy for him to see me changing, in the bath etc, I’m just not someone who walks around naked.

Simonjt · 17/02/2025 16:45

We’re a fairly naked family, if I’m not naked I’m usually just in a pair of shorts. But we’re both from cultures where nudity is both fairly normal no matter the body type you have.

hereismydog · 17/02/2025 16:44

My DP washed my actual arse crack after my C section because I couldn’t do it myself, and you’re fretting about being naked???

Exasperated24 · 17/02/2025 16:44

SnowflakeSmasher86 · 17/02/2025 16:39

I’m so sorry, thats awful of him. It is hard to let something like that go tbh. My DP has said things in the past about my weight, always dressing it up as concern for my health etc but “its just a fact, you are overweight and you have a higher chance of xyz, its not a judgment, just data shows etc” Its very hard to unhear that stuff, even when said in an argument, so I do feel for you. I don’t know how you get past feeling like that.

I think I’m more sensitive to it with this DP than previous ones a) because he’s so skinny and b) because it wasn’t his babies that made me look like this!

With XH I was really ok because I figured he’d seen me grow these babies in my body so he couldn’t be surprised by the toll they took on my shape.

My next DP had his own weight issues so he would never have pointed it out.

Current DP feels very offended when I say I didn’t feel so self conscious in front if exes, as he insists it isn’t him mentioning it thats upsetting me, its internal, so it must be how I’ve always felt about myself.

I guess its a bit of both, but the worst thing is him insisting I must be lying when I say they didn’t make me feel like there’s something wrong with me, because <gestures at my body> obviously they could see what I look like.

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Christ he sounds horrendous OP!

You deserve so much better.

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SnowflakeSmasher86 · 17/02/2025 16:44

Queenofthejabs · 17/02/2025 16:39

What do you do for sex then, get undressed under the covers and then dressed again under the covers? Or do you wear a nightie or something? I can’t work out how it works if you don’t let your partner see you naked.

Its not pitch black, but I’d rather a low level lamplight. I will usually leave my knickers on, get into bed and they come off when I’m ready. Afterwards I’ll ask him to grab my towel or wait until he’s in the bathroom to get up. If i get up first I’d sit on the side of the bed and put pants and t shirt on, not stride across the room butt naked. I’m not like “close your eyes I’m getting up!” I just try and be a bit modest.

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Devilsmommy · 17/02/2025 16:42

checkingocd · 17/02/2025 15:28

I’m really surprised the results are 25% wouldn’t!!! What?? Madness to me. He’s seen me have a baby, I’m really not bothered if he sees me getting changed 😂😂

I used to be self conscious about being naked in front of my DH right up until he saw me give birth. After seeing that there really isn't anything to be embarrassed about is there😂😂

sleeppleasesoon · 17/02/2025 16:41

I’d happily be naked all the time if I didn’t feel the cold so much.

Im comfortable with my DH or my DC’s seeing me naked.

I think because my mum was comfortable being naked, it’s one reason I’m comfortable in my own skin and fairly body confident. I thank her for that.

socks1107 · 17/02/2025 16:41

I quite often wander around naked in our bedroom and hotel rooms when we're away.
I'm two stone heavier than when we got married but it doesn't bother me in the slightest and also wanders around naked in our room too

Richandstrange · 17/02/2025 16:41

I think it's an entirely personal thing and says absolutely nothing about your relationship OP, it's purely about you and your feelings. Your DH is taking it personally when it's not about him at all, how we feel about this stuff is far more about our upbringing and/or life experiences than any kind of reflection on our intimate relationships.

Queenofthejabs · 17/02/2025 16:40

And why are you with him if he makes you think “there is something wrong with you”

ninelovelygranchildren · 17/02/2025 16:40

DH and me are happy to be naked in front of each other - we sleep naked, sometimes share a shower or bath & often wander around the house in a state of undress.

I love him despite the paunch & man-boobs that he has developed. He loves me despite my mummy-tummy, saggy breasts & bottom.

No-one can expect to have a perfect figure at our ages (neither will see 60 again) 😉

Queenofthejabs · 17/02/2025 16:39

What do you do for sex then, get undressed under the covers and then dressed again under the covers? Or do you wear a nightie or something? I can’t work out how it works if you don’t let your partner see you naked.

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SnowflakeSmasher86 · 17/02/2025 16:39

Archive · 17/02/2025 16:17

I used to happily walk around naked with him around. He, however, decided to call me fat during an argument a few months ago so that has very much changed. I know he regrets it but he can never take that back & I can never kid myself about how he seems me again - my hatred of my body is made worse by being heavily pregnant and I’m dreading him seeing me giving birth 😔

I’m so sorry, thats awful of him. It is hard to let something like that go tbh. My DP has said things in the past about my weight, always dressing it up as concern for my health etc but “its just a fact, you are overweight and you have a higher chance of xyz, its not a judgment, just data shows etc” Its very hard to unhear that stuff, even when said in an argument, so I do feel for you. I don’t know how you get past feeling like that.

I think I’m more sensitive to it with this DP than previous ones a) because he’s so skinny and b) because it wasn’t his babies that made me look like this!

With XH I was really ok because I figured he’d seen me grow these babies in my body so he couldn’t be surprised by the toll they took on my shape.

My next DP had his own weight issues so he would never have pointed it out.

Current DP feels very offended when I say I didn’t feel so self conscious in front if exes, as he insists it isn’t him mentioning it thats upsetting me, its internal, so it must be how I’ve always felt about myself.

I guess its a bit of both, but the worst thing is him insisting I must be lying when I say they didn’t make me feel like there’s something wrong with me, because <gestures at my body> obviously they could see what I look like.

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MaryGreenhill · 17/02/2025 16:38

H0P · 17/02/2025 16:26

He checked my piles the other day. No issues with nakedness here 😂

We are the same here, it's nothing.

ginasevern · 17/02/2025 16:37

I'm a widow but didn't mind getting changed in front of my DH and I wouldn't be horrified if he walked into the bedroom/bathroom to find me naked but it's fair to say that I'd rather he didn't. I definitely wouldn't saunter around deliberately naked (with or without a partner). I would feel uncomfortable. I never liked stripping off in front of other women at the gym or swimming either though.

EmeraldShamrock000 · 17/02/2025 16:37

Not really.

I would change clothes, or have sex with light in the room, but not walking around the room.

I was brought up in a prudish household.

MaryGreenhill · 17/02/2025 16:36

I wander around naked in front of my DH and my DDs. They don't with me though, thinking about it ,they laugh at me and think it's sweet l think . It certainly doesn't bother them and it doesn't bother me that they don't follow me tbh . Each to their own.
Live and let live l say .

BettyBardMacDonald · 17/02/2025 16:34

H0P · 17/02/2025 16:26

He checked my piles the other day. No issues with nakedness here 😂

😳🫣

BettyBardMacDonald · 17/02/2025 16:33

Archive · 17/02/2025 16:17

I used to happily walk around naked with him around. He, however, decided to call me fat during an argument a few months ago so that has very much changed. I know he regrets it but he can never take that back & I can never kid myself about how he seems me again - my hatred of my body is made worse by being heavily pregnant and I’m dreading him seeing me giving birth 😔

He doesn't have to see you give birth if you don't want him to.

TyrannasaurusJex · 17/02/2025 16:32

AGoodDayToDie · 17/02/2025 15:33

prob realise how gross i am and find someone else😄

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this is one of the saddest things I've read on here 😔

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