Being naked in front of DP/DH

I gave birth (and pooped in the pool whilst doing so) in front of my DH. If that didn't put him off then I doubt my wobbly bits would. Both of us walk around naked in front of each other.

I do think men walking around naked is a bit odd, just visually, like all the stuff is out there at the front (haven’t grown up around men too much)

When I had a partner no I didn’t feel comfortable

It’s a funny thing because I am much more comfortable walking around naked now at 12 stone and a size 12-14 than I was for the first 16 years of our relationship when I was 9 stone and a size 8. I would still walk around naked back then but would usually seek out cover but now I’m not self conscious at all. Maybe as a PP said, your perception changes once you’ve had babies!

I wouldn’t walk around naked but it’s due to my mum and how she was about nakedness. Luckily I am single and only feel like the cat looks at me weird if I’m naked.

Did you miss the bit where the op's body HASN'T changed? She was this size when he met her and started a relationship with her.

I am overweight and have no problem at all being naked in front of my DH. I mainly just wear knickers to bed and thats so i can quickly throw a long t shirt on if i go to the loo in the nighg and DD bf is here.

My DH has only ever treated me and my body as if we are amazing, even on the days i feel shit, i have no reason to hide away.

I even think its unrealistic to expect your partner not to comment on your weight. of course they notice as long as they're not being mean i would hope for honesty if asked. I don't associate being fat or putting on weight with being unattractive. it's just a change.

I notice if my partners body changes, if asked i'd comment or if i were worried or had an issue i'd bring it up. the same if he had BO or ear hairs.

Wow, what a nasty and compassionless person you are! We are all different. No need to put down someone else because they don't feel as comfortable as you.

Completely comfortable. Never thought about it.

We're all different, some of us like to keep our dignity despite the circumstances...

Re the wider discussion — For me this is about personal modesty, and about respecting boundaries, my own and other people's.

Sometimes I might feel comfortable naked, sometimes not; and both are okay. That's just by myself, no-one else present.

Similarly with one or more others present: sometimes I might feel comfortable naked, other times not; both are okay.

I also would never assume that others are, or should be, okay with my nakedness; much less at the exact same time that I feel like being naked in front of them.

Nor would I always or even usually want to see others naked; and I would prefer, appreciate, in fact expect to have a choice around this.

So assumption of nakedness feels presumptious, and like breaching a boundary to force it on someone, or to expect it from someone, in either direction. Even a long term partner. Especially a long-term partner.

There should always be choice, there should always be consent.

YANBU It is a fact that women are more self conscious and body image aware. Its normal and natural for women to be like that. Sorry but your 'D'P sounds like a real nasty pig and he is pressuring you and is basically bullying you. You said you took him back (this current DP?) but you shouldn't have because he is a bully who is pressuring you. What's to say that if you do go completely naked he won't point out some flaw? In fact, I wonder if that's his motive for this, he seems unusually keen and determined to pressure you, I wouldn't be surprised if that's his motive. If he continues to pressure and bully you I'd call it quits for good.

Wow. So this chump regularly neggs you about your weight and then, when faced with the consequences of his actions (i.e. you being self conscious) he tries to turn it around and make it your fault?

What are you doing with him op? He sounds like a thoroughly nasty piece of work.

FGS! Perhaps stop guilting women for how they feel and putting words in to their mouths 🙄😒

It’s not a problem in the slightest.

I have to be careful though because DS (11) is no longer comfortable with seeing me naked.

I don't make a habit of being naked but if I am, I don't care about DH seeing it.

Will probably end our days wandering naked round a care home after losing our marbles anyway.

Current DP 100% yes. We both walk around naked but he’s German - different upbringing. But a tshirt (preferably one of his) and knickers turns him on more!

Previous DP (English) wouldn’t like me being outside of the bedroom without a bra or without pyjama bottoms.
I feel so much more liberated at 50 and don’t care about my body anymore and am quite happy going naked in the sauna.

He's never seen your stomach? Bloody hell.

I don't walk around naked because I get cold easily. But I sleep naked when I've got company and happily walk from the bedroom to the bathroom naked to shower. It's no big deal for me - he's seen me naked when we're having sex, in much less flattering positions than standing up!

We used to play knockdown ginger as kids and targeted the same houses frequently. One guy got so fed up and obviously saw us coming and answered the door before we knocked, in just his pants. I can still picture it now, tiny little y front’s. Still makes me laugh to this day.

DH has always been tall and slim and I am not slim. I was skinny when we met but two kids and in my mid 40s I am not overweight but I am not fit and toned either.
DH has literally never ever said anything negative about my body. Ever. And always says very nice things even if I don’t always believe him. And yes I am frequently naked in front of him/change in front of him and vice versa.

Totally happy to be naked.

I cover up if there is any risk of DSs appearing in our room though!

Naked, it doesn't bother me.

Light dimmed when making love, only because I don't want to feel like I am being interrogated when overhead light is on and he is on top.

He checked my stitches after giving birth, I tended to a boil on his arse....all in a days work when you are married as long as us.😎