Being naked in front of DP/DH

Disagree with this.
I have never felt comfortable with my partner seeing me naked and walking around. And I have what could be considered a decent figure.
Just not me and no reflection on my feelings for my partner 🤩

Ha, the hardly any hair on pubes!
I deeply suspect that all my pube hair, eyebrows and head hair is migrating to my nostrils since menopause.

But at least I don’t need to shave my legs now.
just shaving nostrils is a bugger
And I do mourn my eyebrows- they were quite lovely once upon a time 😢

Married for 26 years, late 50s. I’ve always been happy being naked around DH, walking or otherwise 😂. We sleep naked too, can’t be doing with night wear.

Don't be so hard on yourself 🙏

We were high school sweethearts and broke up in 1983, got back together in 2007 when my first marriage broke up. He saw me at my youngest, thinnest, finest and never saw me give birth. I've had open heart surgery and other surgeries (gallbladder, kidney stones) and he's been by my side all through. Everything on me is scarred, drooping, wrinkled and old and at 64, we still shower together. I am more comfortable naked than he is, but that's in general. Around just us, neither of us cares.

I don't like the idea that someone could be called "unreasonable" over something as personal as how they interact with their partner. But I'm really on the YABU side--I like the idea that people are going to be completely accepting of their partner's body, and of their own body when they're with their partner. That's because if you don't accept yourself, you're not giving your partner the chance to be accepting either. One doesn't wish to become all soppy about this, but there's something in the concept that "husband and wife are one flesh".

"He thinks this says something fundamental about our relationship"--well yes, I'm afraid I agree with him. He knows there's something missing.

I live on my own. I don’t walk around naked in front of me even 🤷🏼‍♀️. Honestly it makes me feel uncomfortable

I don’t think it says anything about your relationship with your partner if you do or don’t. In my case it massively proceeded my marriage, kids and all that. I was physically sick at thought having to undress and shower at school in front of other girls (50 plus years ago). I used to take sickies on games or swimming days. Till mum cottoned on and then I just found the whole thing mortifying and left me scared for life 😥

sometimes I wonder whether women that grew up with sisters are better at getting naked in front of other people? I just had brothers so didn’t share a bedroom or get naked in front of anyone except, in my own bedroom, with my mum if needed. Dad never bathed me as child, don’t think he changed nappies either according to mum (60 years ago and tbf he worked till past our bedtimes) Not that I was shamed or anything, brothers were older and by time I was reaching point of 5 or 6 I certainly was already deeply conscious of my body. Anyone care to comment on that- those that are more comfortable, did you have sisters growing up?

so nope, when married I did not walk around naked. If I was in mood for sex I might have stripped of in bedroom, but I couldn’t stand to be just looked at naked. And I certainly never naked in front of kids after I popped them out (2 boys tbf ).

oddly breast feeding I was ok with- I think I saw firmly that I was feeding kids and had job to do and, it wasn’t least bit sexy, and I used to be able to cover up most of boob anyway. Only time I ever got my boobs out in public other than with medical staff! Bloody hate doing it at breast screening now I’m old.

I've never been able to understand how anyone can have a partner, who they have sex with, often someone they have children with, and yet they can't be seen naked by them. My DH was 10 years younger than me, and not overweight, which I am, but him seeing me naked didn't bother me at all. It's sad that some woman feel they have to hide their bodies. I just can't imagine it.

Very strict upbringing so very shy when we married. We shared baths but I liked pretty nightwear for a romantic night in. He could take it off of course. For the births he was resolutely at the head end.

I did go topless on the beach abroad because a friend did.

Walk around naked no probs, no thinking about it

Nothing bad would happen at all if he did see it. You have just been conditioned to believe you aren't beautiful. It's just a body.

I didnt know which way to vote. I'm perfectly happy to walk around naked, but there's nothing wrong with wanting to cover up. Everybody is different. Also - partners are different too!

The nurse showered me after the birth of my baby... although I would have preferred my husband to do it!

My husband sees me naked all the time, I hate the way I look and I'm not skinny and I was very self conscious about it in the beginning of our relationship. I have no problem being naked in front of him now, he always smiles when he sees me and I know he loves me the way I am, and he made me feel comfortable early on in our relationship.

Not a huge fan of this because of putting on weight as the years go by. I still walk around naked from the shower to the cupboard, but I wouldn’t deliberately stand there and have a conversation starkers. DH covers up a bit more. I don’t mind that we are slightly less show pony than before.

I'm very comfortable being completely naked in any light in front of my husband.

But I don't think its wrong to not feel comfortable naked either. Maybe a bit sad that you can't be totally comfortable in your own skin, but it isn't an unusual way to feel or anything. Your partner is being daft.

Ah what an amazing thing to look back on.
It is so beautiful to look at our younger bodies as we age.

I recently stumbled on some old photos and all I can think is how full of life I looked, i was gorgeous in my own way, but I was so self conscious at the time.

It reminds me to live in the moment and that I will never again be as young as I am right this second.

of course i wouldn't say things to make them feel shit or comment to say so!

but if my DP had a new wart i'd comment until he got it looked at or if he needed a hair cut etc. If he stopped being neat or fell out of his routine or looking after himself especially as its outside the norm. I generally assume good faith with anything my partner says because they don't hate me?

I'm happy to walk around naked in front of DP, and actually am happy to pootle around the house naked (if no-one is here- my sons started getting uncomfortable with nudity around age 11 so I respect that).

But then DP has always made it perfectly obvious that he finds my body very attractive (and vice versa, I have to say- I love seeing him naked!)- even now, when I'm a couple of stone overweight, his attitude to my being naked hasn't changed in 8 years.

If he made negative comments I would just stop being naked in front of him. And then the sex life would start to dwindle. And then we'd be over.

I don’t feel like I relate to either of those statements - I did vote but shouldn’t have as have changed and can’t remove it now 🙈

I don’t feel uncomfortable naked in front of my DH but I also personally wouldn’t casually walk round naked because .. I don’t know I just wouldn’t! In front of anyone or on my own, but get some people do and that is ok!

overall I would say YANBU as I think your DH is wrong to say it is something fundamental in a relationship, it’s just personal preference in this case I would say!

I don’t do it. I’ve got no problem being naked during sex or getting changed infront of him. And to be honest my body is in much better shape than his! But there’s something about being naked and moving around that I can’t stand! I think it’s the feel of it, and thinking about it I don’t really like wearing skirts or dresses without tights for the same reasons. Guess I just like being covered up. No one has the right to see you naked anyway.

We both happily wander around naked.

That's brilliant. 😀

Odd how some people freeze in front of a camera. My son is really confident, handsome, and has few hang-ups....but, as soon as someone points a camera at him, he gurns more than freezes. The result is, I don't have any pics of him looking normal.

I've never given it a second thought, really. I do dislike being photographed, though - clothed, naked, whatever - though with my back to the camera is okay, I suppose! I just freeze and my face goes rigid - no idea why. As a result of this combination, the best photo ever taken of me was by an ex- from many years ago and is of me walking stark naked out of the shower on holiday. The moment I saw the camera, I instinctively raised my hands and covered my face, so absolutely everything else is on full display. A couple of years back he was sorting through his old slides and sent the one of that to me, along with the only print. I have kept the print, because it is really quite flattering! 😄

He's threatening you because you won't walk around naked in front of him, which is controlling and abusive. By threatening, I mean by bringing up the concept that there's something deeply wrong with your relationship because of it, which opens the door to it ending. Because you won't parade naked in front of him. By making it such an issue, he's trying to coerce you into stripping and being naked in front of him. That's despicable.

When he says there's something fundamentally wrong with your relationship because you won't do what he tells you to do - which is what he is saying - the only answer is a cool "Well, you'd better leave me then, hadn't you."

This is a great example of why I SO can't be arsed with committed relationships. They're so full of control, and the only way to maintain balance is to be ready to live without them at a moment's notice, which rather ruins the entire point of trying to form a stable relationship.