Not farting in front of DH

En-suite loos are emergency loos in my book. Only used when there's really no other choice. Not a waste at all, a back up.

It cost the same and use the same resources to use another one in the house, and it makes everyone's life more pleasant.

People do what they want in their own home, I am happy in mine!

Because it leads straight into our bedroom.

If you cannot understand, you cannot understand.
But it certainly is a courtesy that many women would acknowledge as such.

How is it a 'courtesy' to deliberately not use a toilet for 50% of its express designed purpose - even with the door closed and locked, if you prefer?

It just sounds like a waste to me.

We both try not to. DD farts with freedom
though, we are subjected to a lot of those.

We are married 30 years and would be very considerate and respectful of each other.

It may happen occasionally but we would absolutely apologise.
I cannot fathom an open loo door.
Absolutely not.

I think reading on MN how disgusting some men are has made me apple my husbands wordless courtesies.

He would never use our ensuite for a number 2.
We were away for a few nights recently and I noticed how he would use the main loos downstairs of the gorgeous hotel rather than our shared room.
I think courtesies like that cement a marriage.

I remember how a poster on here wrote after years of bad behaviour, her husband doing a number 2 whilst she was in the bath, despite there being other loos, was the final nail in the coffin.

I honestly cannot see how I would want to have sex with someone after this.

That would put me off from the first date!

We do fart-offs... sometimes we position ourselves strategically!

You want to try getting in a taxi when the driver has clearly been letting rip!!! 🤢🤢🤢 I'm a free farter, but seriously, there are limits and that was gross!!!

Not intentionally but sometimes it's hard to hold in!
We sleep separately now and I have to say a huge benefit is the option of farting as freely as I wish!

I would never intentionally fart in front of anyone else. That is just being considerate and polite, I'm glad my husband is similar.

For me it's not about being comfortable. It's that when I have sat in others people's farty rooms I have found it disgusting, therefore I don't want to create that in my own house. If I'm trying to relax i would find it hard to do that engulfed in a lingering fart cloud.

Im comfortable in that if one accidentally slips out, we'd laugh, but we wouldn't intentionally inflict something unpleasant on each other.

I don't have to fart often, when I do it's usually that I need the toilet so I'll just go for a shit, if that doesn't work I'll just let a few rip before joining company again.

I haven't for 12 years and its such a faff, i wish I did!!

Fell asleep on the couch the other night watching telly, in a curled up ball. Lots of pressure on the tummy, pushed a massive one right out and woke me up. DH sat up and looked me right in the eye and burst out laughing, I was mortified!
Ive given birth in front of him and I'm still embarrassed of a fart, its ridiculous really!

Same for us, it's a choice, not an expectation.

I think it's strange if you're not comfortable enough to fart in your own home freely (when you're not with outside company of course).

I couldn't imagine either of us needing a fart and either holding it in or moving to a different room - that's not natural.

I think some people in the thread are assuming that those who choose not to must be horribly embarrassed and pearl clutchy about it thus 'but giving birth / but food poisoning / but incontinence in old age' like it's a Gotcha.

My DH has seen me give birth, he's heard (and likely smelled) me have explosive food poisoning, I've come on unexpectedly and bled all over him, I've no doubt I fart in my sleep as does he, I've used the bathroom right after him, shared a small hotel room when he had a stomach upset etc etc, all totally natural and not at all embarrassing, and yet I still have absolutely no desire to sit beside someone on the couch of an evening and either of us be deliberately pumping out noxious air and faecal particles and thinking it's funny.

We do both think it's hilarious when the baby shakes the room with a tremendous series of farts, but he's only 8 months so gets a pass for now.

Again, it’s not an expectation from my partner or from me. I choose to do it for him as I find it unpleasant when someone farts near to me, and he feels the same way. It’s a mutual courtesy.

I really can't wait until you get old OP! Your sphincter is a muscle and like all muscles it weakens with age and farts pop out without warning.

Unless you spend your entire waking moments with your buttocks clenched you will fart... anywhere.

there is a difference between an accidental one and deliberately doing a loud one which you could keep in if you tried. I’m lucky that I don’t do loud ones, I I couldn’t force one out of i tried

@CheekyHobson there's a difference between farting on purpose and finding it funny, and just accepting it a natural bodily function that often can't be controlled.

I just can't imagine being expected to get up and leave the room every time I felt a fart brewing - your home is meant to be the place where you can unwind and not have to worry about social norms 🤷‍♀️

Well I can't hold in a fart. If it's on its way it's on its way so while not ideal it happens.

Not even a fanny fart OP?! 😂

Surely it makes it all the more embarrassing when you do have to deal with bodily functions at other points in life? We are currently looking after incontinent elderly parents who are wearing adult nappies and I was joking with my husband about when we might have to do this for each other.

@Anothernameonthewall I've suffered with these and changing my diet (cutting out sugar/carbs) has helped enormously

Each to their own; I found it miserable to be in a relationship with someone who thought it humorous to let a huge smelly fart rip right next to our child’s bed at bedtime and then exit the room, leaving me and the child to choke on it.

Many people seem to view relationships where you choose not to fart in front of your partner as some kind of oppressive expectation on each other, rather than the courtesy, willingly given, that it actually is… just a small polite thing that you choose to do for each other, like asking if they want a cuppa when you’re having one or popping each other’s teacups in the dishwasher when you’re cleaning up.

I really don’t find it the loveless hardship or anxious requirement that some seem to think it must be.

Not intentionally 😁. Odd one slipped out whilst asleep etc. The ex always farting with gusto. I do find it unattractive if its forced farting. My gran always said ladies go out the room to pass wind...so i try not to fart with folks around..its still ingrained in me.
Only time i couldnt help farting was after epidural...that ward was so freeing lol...cos everyone was tooting away and we were all meh.