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DH not happy

264 replies

Babyitscoldoutside1 · 16/02/2025 18:57

I have just entertained DMIL DFIL and all the family for a roast dinner. We had a bottle of bubbles when they arrived. I cooked and served a full roast. Then we went for a walk, we have 4 under 5.
When we got back I did teas and coffees for everyone. Cleared, unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher etc. As well as breastfeeding a baby.
Had a quick dance party to tire kids out.
during which DH commented I was drunk and should stop dancing.
We have now put the kids to bed.
Have poured a glass of wine out of what was left from DMIL and DFiL bottle they left with us. Fully thought I earned it but maybe not. Am I wrong.

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BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 19:51

Justalittlehandhold · 16/02/2025 19:46

What’s the problem with that?

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FFS! 🙄

paddyclampster · 16/02/2025 19:49

The OP hasn’t done anything wrong!

Newone2021 · 16/02/2025 19:49

Of course three glasses is fine! If you're safe to look after a baby you're safe to breastfeed (but no no, sure we need more ways to shame women/mothers!) It's pretty outdated advice that drinking=unsafe to breastfeed. I'm also teetotal btw so am not saying all this to justify anything to myself, it's just the way it is

The bigger issue here is that OP you seem to have done so much for everyone and your husband hasn't helped and is in fact being quite horrible to you.

Enjoy your wine, and keep the husband in the bin.

BobbyBiscuits · 16/02/2025 19:49

I would not be having that whatsoever. It would make me want to punch him in the face.

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/02/2025 19:49

"You should stop drinking"

"If you pulled your finger out of your lazy fucking arse and actually helped me, maybe I wouldnt need to".

Achyarms · 16/02/2025 19:48

All PP being silly about the amount of wine and breastfeeding need to do their research!!! It’s not the same as being pregnant and drinking.

sure you can’t down a bottle of vodka and breastfeed but if you are mainly okay eg standing upright walking and talking then you’re not lying on the floor drunk etc. the amount OP is quoting is fine

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 19:48

DorothyStorm · 16/02/2025 19:43

Hmm i was yanbu but you do sound tipsy, argumentative and three glasses is over half a bottle. When breastfeeding that really is a lot.

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Doesn't sound tipsy at all to me.

It's AIBU, plenty of people argue on here. Are 99% of AIBU constantly tipsy?

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 19:47

sugarspiceandeverythingnice12 · 16/02/2025 19:47

Either you've had issues with alcohol in the past, and he's anti you drinking because of that

Or he's a miserable, lazy cunt

I mean based on what they each physically contributed to the day I think we can guess which one.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 19:47

What’s with all the probation posters crawling out for this thread??

sugarspiceandeverythingnice12 · 16/02/2025 19:47

Either you've had issues with alcohol in the past, and he's anti you drinking because of that

Or he's a miserable, lazy cunt

GrandpaFlump · 16/02/2025 19:46

I get the weird vibe that there’s more to this.

Goldengirl123 · 16/02/2025 19:46

I think by this answer you have probably had enough and you should think of the child you are breastfeeding

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 19:46

Goldengirl123 · 16/02/2025 19:44

Not a good idea to drink when in charge of young childre

I’m fairly certain parents don’t give up alcohol until their children are 18.

Justalittlehandhold · 16/02/2025 19:46

Goldengirl123 · 16/02/2025 19:44

Not a good idea to drink when in charge of young childre

Her DH is there for that.

Justalittlehandhold · 16/02/2025 19:46

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 19:06

Drinking alcohol and breastfeeding?

Sure.

What’s the problem with that?

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 19:45

DorothyStorm · 16/02/2025 19:43

Hmm i was yanbu but you do sound tipsy, argumentative and three glasses is over half a bottle. When breastfeeding that really is a lot.

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100% this. ^

Goldengirl123 · 16/02/2025 19:44

Not a good idea to drink when in charge of young childre

DorothyStorm · 16/02/2025 19:43

Babyitscoldoutside1 · 16/02/2025 19:22

Wow the breastfeeding and drinking haters with no scientific proof are out in force today. Fml. I guess u can join my husband in the bin

Hmm i was yanbu but you do sound tipsy, argumentative and three glasses is over half a bottle. When breastfeeding that really is a lot.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 19:43

YABU to be boozing heavily whilst breastfeeding. Ignore the posters telling you it's fine. It's not.

Also....

YABVU to call it a 'bottle of bubbles.' 🙄

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 19:41

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 19:10

She's on her third....

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Over the space of about 6-7 hours it sounds like.

crumblingschools · 16/02/2025 19:41

How much cooking, clearing up etc did DH do?

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 19:39

BleachedJumper · 16/02/2025 19:02

Could he be worried about you breastfeeding?

He has 4 kids under 5. Assuming she isn't breastfeeding for the first time, he should know it's perfectly fine to drink whilst breastfeeding and as long as you aren't off of your head drunk, it's safe.

Justcallmebebes · 16/02/2025 19:39

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 19:23

I disagree.

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Disagree all you like, you're wrong

Ddakji · 16/02/2025 19:38

Of course you’re not wrong.

Why on earth would you think that you are?

BellissimoGecko · 16/02/2025 19:34

What's the point of your h? Is he just a disapproving fun sponge?

What was his role when you were cooking, clearing, doing the dishwasher, breastfeeding and entertaining your dc?!

What a twat.

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