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DH not happy

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Babyitscoldoutside1 · 16/02/2025 18:57

I have just entertained DMIL DFIL and all the family for a roast dinner. We had a bottle of bubbles when they arrived. I cooked and served a full roast. Then we went for a walk, we have 4 under 5.
When we got back I did teas and coffees for everyone. Cleared, unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher etc. As well as breastfeeding a baby.
Had a quick dance party to tire kids out.
during which DH commented I was drunk and should stop dancing.
We have now put the kids to bed.
Have poured a glass of wine out of what was left from DMIL and DFiL bottle they left with us. Fully thought I earned it but maybe not. Am I wrong.

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PyongyangKipperbang · 16/02/2025 20:13

DorothyStorm · 16/02/2025 20:06

who said depriving? That is strong language to describe not having three glasses of alcohol.

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I dont drink glasses of alcohol, you rather gave yourself away there. I drink wine which contains alcohol. If I drank pure alcohol I would have been dead years ago! And sometimes I drink coffee, actually I drink A LOT of coffee but dont panic, its all decaff. Most of the time I drink OJ and lemonade, personal preference.

I used the word "deprive" because that is often how it is put across, as some sort of sacrifice. "I choose not to have more than one small glass because my child means more" or somesuch, it implies a sacrifice. They want it but choose to deprive themselves.

Dont forget to sing hymns around the organ.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:13

TicklishReader · 16/02/2025 20:12

Hmm. Three glasses of wine is a full bottle? How much do you pour into a glass?

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Maybe that’s her problem? She’s clearly been on the pints of wine today herself!

TicklishReader · 16/02/2025 20:12

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Hmm. Three glasses of wine is a full bottle? How much do you pour into a glass?

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:11

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A bottle of wine has 5 glasses, a bottle of Prosecco has 6.
One Prosecco and 2 wines does not a bottle make.
It’s not hard to count, it’s really not.

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:11

Why do women on here hate women so much? It’s such a shitshow these days.

MumCanIHaveASnackPlease · 16/02/2025 20:11

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It’s jarring for me because breastfeeding rates are so low in this country and part of the reason for that is the misinformation and lack of education that exists out there around it.

And then come along people like yourself bashing a mum for having a glass of wine in a Sunday treating her like she’s a scumbag.

Dolambslikemintsauce · 16/02/2025 20:11

Next time dh can fucking host his family....

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:11

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:10

Do posters honestly think that the OP poured herself a 250ml glass of fizz earlier?

Probably.

harriethoyle · 16/02/2025 20:11

He sounds a total bore @Babyitscoldoutside1 and you’ve more than earned that glass of wine!

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:10

Do posters honestly think that the OP poured herself a 250ml glass of fizz earlier?

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:10

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:10

You’re just quoting hugely incorrect information though. It’s made up that the OP had 9 units and a binge drink isn’t classed as over 6 units.

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Wrong.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:10

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:07

@FrannyScraps

@FrannyScraps

Ironic since the link confirms my opinion.

OP has had 3 glasses of wine= 9 units. Binge drinking is classed as more than 6 units in one session for a female.

Hey if that's what the morals you and the OP have, crack on. But I disagree and am freely able to do so.

100% this!

Hilarious that that particular poster posted a link to a breastfeeding article to try and make out boozing as much as you want whilst breastfeeding is OK, and the article says it's not! 😂And as for the poster that said her midwife said it was OK. That midwife needs sacking!

You’re just quoting hugely incorrect information though. It’s made up that the OP had 9 units and a binge drink isn’t classed as over 6 units.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:10

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Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:09

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 20:07

Home measures, not pub measures!

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You cannot assume OP is pouring massive glasses, there is nothing to suggest that is the case.

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:09

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 20:07

Oooh you're so scary!

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Not scary, just demonstrative. Posters like you are a scourge.

MumCanIHaveASnackPlease · 16/02/2025 20:09

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:07

@FrannyScraps

@FrannyScraps

Ironic since the link confirms my opinion.

OP has had 3 glasses of wine= 9 units. Binge drinking is classed as more than 6 units in one session for a female.

Hey if that's what the morals you and the OP have, crack on. But I disagree and am freely able to do so.

100% this!

Hilarious that that particular poster posted a link to a breastfeeding article to try and make out boozing as much as you want whilst breastfeeding is OK, and the article says it's not! 😂And as for the poster that said her midwife said it was OK. That midwife needs sacking!

I didn’t post the link to say booze as much as you like I posted it to dispel this utter nonsense that consuming any alcohol at all when you’re breastfeeding a mortal sin.

Praying4Peace · 16/02/2025 20:08

Imisscoffee2021 · 16/02/2025 20:03

Ah I hate that, nothing worse than being in a merry mood to have someone expose you and make you feel other than happy, tipsy or otherwise. You are a superwoman doing all that with 4 under 5, I have one 18 month old and couldn't pull that together!

Exactly this. You are an amazing woman OP.
Not sure why you had no help with washing up etc.
Enjoy your much deserved wine

allthemiddlechildrenoftheworld · 16/02/2025 20:08

@Babyitscoldoutside1 does he think he will be expected to empty the dishwasher for once??? does he know where everything goes in the kitchen? does he even know where the kitchen is in the house?????

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 20:07

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Oooh you're so scary!

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:07

@FrannyScraps

@FrannyScraps

Ironic since the link confirms my opinion.

OP has had 3 glasses of wine= 9 units. Binge drinking is classed as more than 6 units in one session for a female.

Hey if that's what the morals you and the OP have, crack on. But I disagree and am freely able to do so.

100% this!

Hilarious that that particular poster posted a link to a breastfeeding article to try and make out boozing as much as you want whilst breastfeeding is OK, and the article says it's not! 😂And as for the poster that said her midwife said it was OK. That midwife needs sacking!

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 20:07

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:06

A glass of wine is 2.1 units. Three glasses would be 6.3, not 9. A glass of Prosecco is even less so it likely came under 6.
It’s very simple maths … have you been drinking?

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Home measures, not pub measures!

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DorothyStorm · 16/02/2025 20:06

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/02/2025 20:04

Cant help thinking that the ones banging on about depriving themselves a second glass of wine "for my child" are the same who are appalled at the idea of taking the kids for a happy after a long day, or driving to school when its pissing it down when its "only a mile away, get good waterproofs!".

So many smug Perfect Penelope's on here sometimes.

who said depriving? That is strong language to describe not having three glasses of alcohol.

AlertCat · 16/02/2025 20:06

DorothyStorm · 16/02/2025 19:43

Hmm i was yanbu but you do sound tipsy, argumentative and three glasses is over half a bottle. When breastfeeding that really is a lot.

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But spread over the course of 6-7 hours and a big meal, and a walk. The body’s metabolising all the time, so the alcohol consumed in this way isn’t going to build up to any significant level.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:06

FrannyScraps · 16/02/2025 20:01

Ironic since the link confirms my opinion.

OP has had 3 glasses of wine= 9 units. Binge drinking is classed as more than 6 units in one session for a female.

Hey if that's what the morals you and the OP have, crack on. But I disagree and am freely able to do so.

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A glass of wine is 2.1 units. Three glasses would be 6.3, not 9. A glass of Prosecco is even less so it likely came under 6.
It’s very simple maths … have you been drinking?

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