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DH not happy

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Babyitscoldoutside1 · 16/02/2025 18:57

I have just entertained DMIL DFIL and all the family for a roast dinner. We had a bottle of bubbles when they arrived. I cooked and served a full roast. Then we went for a walk, we have 4 under 5.
When we got back I did teas and coffees for everyone. Cleared, unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher etc. As well as breastfeeding a baby.
Had a quick dance party to tire kids out.
during which DH commented I was drunk and should stop dancing.
We have now put the kids to bed.
Have poured a glass of wine out of what was left from DMIL and DFiL bottle they left with us. Fully thought I earned it but maybe not. Am I wrong.

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IchiNiSanShiGo · 16/02/2025 20:28

pelargoniums · 16/02/2025 20:21

Gave the baby shots of flaming sambuca.

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🤣🤣🤣 just spat my wine out! Dammit, now I’ve only got 2 or possibly 5 glasses left in the bottle.

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 20:28

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 20:25

Or maybe he knows what is actually going on, seeing as he lives with the OP.

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Right.

Because no man is ever an arsehole.

MumCanIHaveASnackPlease · 16/02/2025 20:27

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:25

Well I know that 'alcohol doesn't enter your breastmilk' is utter bollocks. It DOES. So many people spreading misinformation on here, it's terrifying. And no WAY does any bottle of wine have 5-6 glasses worth in it LMFAO! 😂

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Nobody is saying it doesn’t. What we are saying is that the scientific evidence shows that you would need to be paraletic, on the floor, stomache pumped level of drunk before the level of alcohol in your breastmilk would be such that it would be harmful to your baby.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:27

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:25

I mean standard measures are incredibly easy to work out.
If you can only get 3 glasses from a bottle of wine perhaps you have a problem with binge drinking?

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AT least I'm not binge drinking and breastfeeding. Wink

SpareBoxRoomForEmergencies · 16/02/2025 20:26

Justcallmebebes · 16/02/2025 19:10

It's perfectly OK to breastfeed and have a glass of wine

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She's having three.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:26

Newone2021 · 16/02/2025 20:25

Bloody hell you're exhausting 😆

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Go and have a lie down if facts are making you so tired.

AlertCat · 16/02/2025 20:26

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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Because we’ve shown that what you quoted means the amount of alcohol needed to have even a tiny effect on the baby is enough to make most people unconscious so the mother wouldn’t be nursing anyway.

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 20:25

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 16/02/2025 20:17

My guess is she was having fun? How dare she. He sounds like such an arsehole.

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Or maybe he knows what is actually going on, seeing as he lives with the OP.

Hedgingmybetching · 16/02/2025 20:25

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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The alcohol content of breastmilk when a mother has had an entire bottle of wine will be less alcohol content than freshly squeezed orange juice if that helps you visualise it.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:25

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:23

A statistician, she ain’t.

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Well I know that 'alcohol doesn't enter your breastmilk' is utter bollocks. It DOES. So many people spreading misinformation on here, it's terrifying. And no WAY does any bottle of wine have 5-6 glasses worth in it LMFAO! 😂

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:25

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:23

Perhaps you need to educate yourself then. NO bottle of wine has 5-6 glasses in it FFS!

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I mean standard measures are incredibly easy to work out.
If you can only get 3 glasses from a bottle of wine perhaps you have a problem with binge drinking?

Newone2021 · 16/02/2025 20:25

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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Bloody hell you're exhausting 😆

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:25

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:23

Perhaps you need to educate yourself then. NO bottle of wine has 5-6 glasses in it FFS!

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Are you really not understanding that a bottle can hold five or six smaller glasses in it? You just pour less? It’s really not our fault though if you only guzzle great big goblets of wine.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:24

PyongyangKipperbang · 16/02/2025 20:15

Sorry to be "that" person but a pub measure of a small glass is 125 ml, so any wine bottle of 75cl has 6 small glasses. Then you have medium of 175 (and I cba to do the maths on that) and then 250ml, large, gives you three glasses.

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Not sure what you think you’re correcting? We know that at a minimum 4 glasses came from the bottle of wine as OP had 2 and her in-laws had some to. Most likely OP and her in-laws all had 1, OP stopped, her in-laws had a top up while OP worked away to serve everyone and clean up and OP had the remaining glass hours later after a walk and the kids were in bed.

Tiegs · 16/02/2025 20:24

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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Yeah I don’t know why people are saying it’s fine I breastfeeding my baby and I woukdnt drink because I know it goes into the milk supply

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:24

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:23

Perhaps you need to educate yourself then. NO bottle of wine has 5-6 glasses in it FFS!

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You’ve said that a few times. Can I just ask, have you ever used or written the word ‘sheeple’? 👀

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 20:23

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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Because it isn't correct.

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:23

pelargoniums · 16/02/2025 20:22

Because we understand data, evidence and statistics and you don’t?

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A statistician, she ain’t.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:23

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:16

Perhaps you need more self control then?

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Perhaps you need to educate yourself then. NO bottle of wine has 5-6 glasses in it FFS!

MumCanIHaveASnackPlease · 16/02/2025 20:22

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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Because it’s scientifically untrue.

Hope that helps.

pelargoniums · 16/02/2025 20:22

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

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Because we understand data, evidence and statistics and you don’t?

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:22

Tiegs · 16/02/2025 20:19

You shouldn't drink and breast feed though it will go into your milk supply

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Yes this. This! Why are people not getting/accepting this?

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 20:21

Tiegs · 16/02/2025 20:19

You shouldn't drink and breast feed though it will go into your milk supply

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It's a tiny drop in the ocean.

As someone has posted above, for a baby to be mildly sedated due to a breastfeeding mum drinking alcohol, she'd have to have around 15 drinks.

Pretty sure OP and baby are safe.

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:21

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:21

Does anyone really fancy a wine now?

Yep. Going to crack into a Pouilly Fume.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:21

Does anyone really fancy a wine now?

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