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DH not happy

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Babyitscoldoutside1 · 16/02/2025 18:57

I have just entertained DMIL DFIL and all the family for a roast dinner. We had a bottle of bubbles when they arrived. I cooked and served a full roast. Then we went for a walk, we have 4 under 5.
When we got back I did teas and coffees for everyone. Cleared, unloaded and reloaded the dishwasher etc. As well as breastfeeding a baby.
Had a quick dance party to tire kids out.
during which DH commented I was drunk and should stop dancing.
We have now put the kids to bed.
Have poured a glass of wine out of what was left from DMIL and DFiL bottle they left with us. Fully thought I earned it but maybe not. Am I wrong.

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Hedgingmybetching · 16/02/2025 20:36

pelargoniums · 16/02/2025 20:31

Ooh, let’s make MIMOSAS!

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She could sellotape a novelty paper umbrella to her tit. (Although it might set off @BatchCookBabe that you have a eye gouging beach sized parosol near the babies face) 😂

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 20:35

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 20:32

Of course there are some. I have no idea if this applies to the OP's Husband, though, in this instance. He could have very legitimate concerns, regarding the OP, and her alcohol consumption, in general.

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If OP is telling the truth in regards to what she has drank today. OP's DH has no need for concern.

3 drinks, the last one hours after the first 2 with a big meal between, is a non issue.

User21012025 · 16/02/2025 20:35

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:19

Of course alcohol enters the breast milk!!! It stays for several hours. Stop posting dangerous misinformation! FGS!

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Calm down. It's not misinformation. I have heard many times 'if you can hold the baby, you are safe to breastfeed'. If someone is co-sleeping, that is a different story. Back in the day they used to prescribe Guinness or something to breastfeeding mothers for God's sake!!
Get ready to clutch your pearls, because I drank when breastfeeding my babies and they are perfectly healthy, beautiful toddlers.

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:35

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:34

I do when I'm right yeah. (Like I am on this thread.)

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I see. Interesting. sips wine and consults notes

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:35

Oh dear.

Justalittlehandhold · 16/02/2025 20:35

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 19:51

FFS! 🙄

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Is that your answer? Very enlightening!

Kitkat2065 · 16/02/2025 20:34

Babyitscoldoutside1 · 16/02/2025 19:22

Wow the breastfeeding and drinking haters with no scientific proof are out in force today. Fml. I guess u can join my husband in the bin

My midwife told me that having a glass of wine whilst breast feeding was like trying to warm up a swimming pool with a hot cup of tea. I didn't have bottle after bottle but if I was out for lunch would have a glass of wine whilst baby was on the boob, always made me laugh those that clutched their pearls. If he's that worried, express some and tell him to get up for the night feeds tonight, after all you'll be sleeping off a hangover 🤔🤣

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:34

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:32

Further to my sheeple question, do you ever end a Facebook or Mumsnet post with the word ‘FACT’ written in capitals? Or perhaps the phrase ‘Rant over’?

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I do when I'm right yeah. (Like I am on this thread.)

TagSplashMaverick · 16/02/2025 20:32

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:26

Go and have a lie down if facts are making you so tired.

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Further to my sheeple question, do you ever end a Facebook or Mumsnet post with the word ‘FACT’ written in capitals? Or perhaps the phrase ‘Rant over’?

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 20:32

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 20:28

Right.

Because no man is ever an arsehole.

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Of course there are some. I have no idea if this applies to the OP's Husband, though, in this instance. He could have very legitimate concerns, regarding the OP, and her alcohol consumption, in general.

TicklishReader · 16/02/2025 20:32

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:26

Go and have a lie down if facts are making you so tired.

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It's also a fact that apple seeds contain cyanide. Does this mean children should never eat apples? No. That would be a silly overreaction because the FACT is it would take hundreds of apple seeds to cause any harm.

OP having 3 drinks will not harm her baby. You sound foolish.

MixedBananas · 16/02/2025 20:32

And where was your "DH" with all these tasks?

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:32

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 16/02/2025 20:30

Perhaps he should have helped her out with all the hosting and cleaning up after his family visiting, or taken care of his children, and she wouldn't have needed the drink at the end of the day.

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Not a good look though, to be drinking multiple glasses of wine because you're stressed. Especially when you're in charge of a baby and breastfeeding.

pelargoniums · 16/02/2025 20:31

Hedgingmybetching · 16/02/2025 20:25

The alcohol content of breastmilk when a mother has had an entire bottle of wine will be less alcohol content than freshly squeezed orange juice if that helps you visualise it.

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Ooh, let’s make MIMOSAS!

theyreallyaredicks · 16/02/2025 20:31

@BatchCookBabe have you been drinking, because you seem quite illogical and angry in an irrational manner- classic drunken symptoms.

You seem to have VERY generous pours and essentially serve ‘doubles’ of wine. Are you in denial about your drinking habits? Do you call it ‘one’ glass of wine when you’re really having a third of a bottle. (A THIRD of a bottle! To yourself! In one go!)

I really think you should have some hard reflection on your alcohol consumption- it sounds really out of control.

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 16/02/2025 20:30

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:30

You would think if he lived there too he would share the load while cooking for his own parents, or hosting, or cleaning or looking after the children?

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Snap.

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 16/02/2025 20:30

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 20:25

Or maybe he knows what is actually going on, seeing as he lives with the OP.

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Perhaps he should have helped her out with all the hosting and cleaning up after his family visiting, or taken care of his children, and she wouldn't have needed the drink at the end of the day.

Completelyjo · 16/02/2025 20:30

LadyKenya · 16/02/2025 20:25

Or maybe he knows what is actually going on, seeing as he lives with the OP.

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You would think if he lived there too he would share the load while cooking for his own parents, or hosting, or cleaning or looking after the children?

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 20:29

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:28

A poster said clearly further back that alcohol doesn't end up in the breastmilk. I quoted it. So yes people ARE saying this. Try reading through the thread properly

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One person said that.

Not people.

Newone2021 · 16/02/2025 20:29

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:26

Go and have a lie down if facts are making you so tired.

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What facts mate.

pelargoniums · 16/02/2025 20:29

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:25

Well I know that 'alcohol doesn't enter your breastmilk' is utter bollocks. It DOES. So many people spreading misinformation on here, it's terrifying. And no WAY does any bottle of wine have 5-6 glasses worth in it LMFAO! 😂

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I used my parents’ old wine glasses, very small, tasteful, ordinary table wine sort of glass – like you might have in a French cafe at lunch when you’re not really drinking, just French lunch drinking. You could probably get about 10 glasses out of those easily. You’d be hard-pressed to get the baby drunk even if you fed it directly from the glass. Not all wine glasses are the cavernous modern goblet sort you’re drinking from.

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BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 20:28

MumCanIHaveASnackPlease · 16/02/2025 20:27

Nobody is saying it doesn’t. What we are saying is that the scientific evidence shows that you would need to be paraletic, on the floor, stomache pumped level of drunk before the level of alcohol in your breastmilk would be such that it would be harmful to your baby.

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A poster said clearly further back that alcohol doesn't end up in the breastmilk. I quoted it. So yes people ARE saying this. Try reading through the thread properly

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MrsSunshine2b · 16/02/2025 20:28

ClairDeLaLune · 16/02/2025 19:21

One small one in a day. Not 3 of whatever size we don’t know.

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You would have to be comatose for your milk to be as alcoholic as orange juice.

Shush.

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