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Cousin copied dds name

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pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:27

Dd is Amalie, cousin is she’s naming her daughter Amelia.
DC are close and see each other regularly.

AIBU to think that’s basically the same name? Im not going to say anything and so will have to get over it but just think it’s really weird.

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Notgivenuphope · 16/02/2025 18:50

Ridiculous. Two different names.

MissScarletInTheBallroom · 16/02/2025 18:49

YABU. It's not even the same name. Do you really expect your cousin (not even your sibling) not to use her favourite name just because it's similar to your DD's name?

Glad you're not going to say anything though. My SIL had a strop about something similar and it's ruined the family relationship.

Original poster
pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:49

If she'd asked (which obviously she doesn't have to) I would have said it isn't a problem

I guess I was expecting her to at least lightheartedly acknowledge how they were so similar.
I was told over text so had time to react and decide not to mention it but just thought it was a bit weird.
I will get over it though

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oakleaffy · 16/02/2025 18:48

My friend has a Whippet called Amelia - shortened to ''Mealy Worm'' 😆

Pinkychilla · 16/02/2025 18:43

I think it's weird to do that and I wouldn't do it as the names are too similar

Jesusisking23 · 16/02/2025 18:42

pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:27

Dd is Amalie, cousin is she’s naming her daughter Amelia.
DC are close and see each other regularly.

AIBU to think that’s basically the same name? Im not going to say anything and so will have to get over it but just think it’s really weird.

Is your dd supposed to be Ameliè? Your way is spelt wrong for a start

cgk · 16/02/2025 18:41

It’s a different name. Although they start with the same letter, Amalie starts with an “ah” sound but Amelia starts with more of an “uh” sound.

Forget it and move on.

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pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:40

Ok, happy to be told I'm being unreasonable!
and like I said would never consider mentioning it.
Just not something I would have done the other way round. I'm pregnant (probably why I'm being sensitive) and in the process of choosing names and actively dismiss names similar to child relatives we expect to see.

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BodyKeepingScore · 16/02/2025 18:40

Two different names... non issue

RazzzzzzzzzlllllllleDaaazzzzllle · 16/02/2025 18:40

@RaspberryScrubs my brother is called Tom and so is our uncle. They were always big Tom and little Tom and still are now - in 50s and 80s lol

SleepDeprivedButAlive · 16/02/2025 18:38

Different names, they sound very different, Amalie is spelled differently to the traditional Amelie which would make them remotely similar in spelling.

I don't get it. It's not the same name.

DisforDarkChocolate · 16/02/2025 18:37

They sound very different.

Fencehedge · 16/02/2025 18:37

I think the fact they're similar is actually very cute and a real compliment

Choose to think positivily. It actually doesn't really matter, eh?

Spirallingdownwards · 16/02/2025 18:37

Different names and it's not as though you even spell yours Amelie anyway.

LunchtimeNaps · 16/02/2025 18:36

Yeah it's similar but maybe she's liked that name for ages and you got in there first. TBH there's bigger issues to stress about.

LoveWine123 · 16/02/2025 18:36

You should not have posted here about this issue. Mumsnet’s motto is that you don’t own a name and you will get no sympathy. I’m with you on this…they could’ve picked something different.

WimpoleHat · 16/02/2025 18:36

They’re close enough that it would be odd if you had two children called Amelia and Amalie. But it’s fine for the children of two cousins, I’d have thought - the girls won’t even share a grandparent.

Savemefromwetdog · 16/02/2025 18:34

Nursery is full of Amelie’s, Amelia’s, Emilia’s, Amalia’s but they are different names

TickingAlongNicely · 16/02/2025 18:33

Isn't that the most common girls name still?

wafflesmgee · 16/02/2025 18:32

You should have picked a rarer name if you didn’t want this, I currently teach a class with 1 Amelia 1 Emilia 1 Amahlia and 1 Amalie
get over it

MarshmallowClouds · 16/02/2025 18:32

Different names and they are cousins, not siblings.

i have three cousins called John, two called David and numerous Uncle Franks - we never get confused.

Wanderdust · 16/02/2025 18:32

Wanderdust · 16/02/2025 18:30

As far as I know, it's pronounced Ama-lee so nothing like Amelia?

Apologies, just reread and realise Amalie is your DD's name! Is that how you pronounce it?

Fencehedge · 16/02/2025 18:31

It's not the same at all. They'll probably get shortened to Mills and Mels anyway.

TwentyTwentyFive · 16/02/2025 18:31

It's not the same name. Amalie and Amelia are incredibly popular so its not like she's only using it because it's inspired by your daughter's name. I honestly can't see why you'd be annoyed.

Wanderdust · 16/02/2025 18:30

As far as I know, it's pronounced Ama-lee so nothing like Amelia?