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Cousin copied dds name

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pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:27

Dd is Amalie, cousin is she’s naming her daughter Amelia.
DC are close and see each other regularly.

AIBU to think that’s basically the same name? Im not going to say anything and so will have to get over it but just think it’s really weird.

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Vaxtable · 16/02/2025 19:22

It’s a completely different name stop making an issue when there is none

8misskitty8 · 16/02/2025 19:17

She has not copied your DD’s name.

They are different names, and are not pronounced the same either.

JaneBoleynViscountessRochford · 16/02/2025 19:16

Almost every male in my family has the same name and if it isn’t their first name then it’s their middle one. It’s fucking weird but it does mean I can’t get worked up about cousins being called similar names. As others have said, you will come across a lot of children with the same name as your daughter.

LindorDoubleChoc · 16/02/2025 19:16

Oh dear! I gave my son the actual exact same name as a cousin's ds. I have 11 cousins and she's my closest one too (as in the one I spend most time with). The age difference between the two boys is probably about 8 or 9 years.

Luckily she doesn't seem to hold it against me.

Hwi · 16/02/2025 19:12

Probably showing my age - but there was a whole episode in SATC - 'she stole my name! Bitch!' So idiotic, they made it into a comedy!

SouthLondonMum22 · 16/02/2025 19:09

Different names and they are only cousins. No biggie.

Popular names at the moment too, especially Amelia.

SlaveToAGoldenRetriever · 16/02/2025 19:09

Get over yourself OP.

mathanxiety · 16/02/2025 19:09

They're second cousins, and the names are pronounced quite differently, so I'd try to just move on if I were you.

Your child is going to meet a lot of other little girls with her name or names that are similar as she progresses through school - Emily, Amelia, Amalia, Millie, and Emilia are all very popular. It's one of the downsides of choosing a name in the top ten.

Gonners · 16/02/2025 19:08

I have four cousins called Peter and three called Martin, all on my mother's side of the family (children of her many, many sisters). They all have different surnames and somehow survived to adulthood without confusion. Goodness only knows how many Peters and Martins there are in the next generation ... in fact, they are old enough to be grandparents by now so we need to consider the generation after that too. The horror, the horror!

Whatevershallidowithmylife · 16/02/2025 19:08

On a totally different note - by your daughters name and your user name if you are from a small town in Scotland and are a hairdresser I know who you are. If you’re not - even better.

PandaTime · 16/02/2025 19:08

All names share letters with other names. Amalie and Amelia sound nothing like each other. Even if it was something like Alisha and Alicia, it's still fine for someone to use a name they like. It's not about you.

VickyEadieofThigh · 16/02/2025 19:06

MintTwirl · 16/02/2025 18:28

It’s fine and not even the same name. I had cousins with the actual same name growing up and nobody cared.

My partner is British Greek. If you've ever seen 'My big, fat Greek wedding' - specifically the scene where the Greek dad introduces the whole Greek family to the wasp American parents (Nick,.Nick, Nick,.Nicky...) - it's quite an accurate representation of how the same names tend to be used in Greek families because children are named in a sequence after their grandparents.

marylou25 · 16/02/2025 19:06

Oh for goodness sake they are different names and even if they weren't so what! I have first cousins who have same first name and same surname, it's not exactly impossible to live with! Other than having to say 'the other Mary' the odd time when they are together it's not a big deal.

Chuchoter · 16/02/2025 19:03

Good grief! Not even the same name!

InTheWild · 16/02/2025 19:02

They might look similar written down but they sound different, Amelia has more syllables.

They are cousins, I think it’s a non- issue.

I actually have cousins with the same name, who are a year apart. No one thought it was strange.

BusyMum47 · 16/02/2025 18:58

@pileduphigh

It's not the same & no-one owns a name anyway?!

When spoken, they sound different enough.

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 18:57

pinkdelight · 16/02/2025 18:56

I'm pregnant (probably why I'm being sensitive) and in the process of choosing names and actively dismiss names similar to child relatives we expect to see.

Oh go on, call your next DC Emilia or Emile if it's a boy. Just to up the ante and assert dominance.

Cross post! 😆 Yep, just copy her @pileduphigh !

BatchCookBabe · 16/02/2025 18:57

pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:55

Yes my dd is already here, her's will be soon.
I am pregnant with DC3.

Call your baby No 3 Amelia then. (Copy her DD's name.)

pinkdelight · 16/02/2025 18:56

I'm pregnant (probably why I'm being sensitive) and in the process of choosing names and actively dismiss names similar to child relatives we expect to see.

Oh go on, call your next DC Emilia or Emile if it's a boy. Just to up the ante and assert dominance.

NiftyKoala · 16/02/2025 18:56

TwinkleLights24 · 16/02/2025 18:28

It’s a different name. People are so bloody precious.

It's a totally different name.

Original poster
pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:55

Yes my dd is already here, her's will be soon.
I am pregnant with DC3.

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LIZS · 16/02/2025 18:53

Are either even born yet?

PrincessOfPreschool · 16/02/2025 18:52

Jesusisking23 · 16/02/2025 18:42

Is your dd supposed to be Ameliè? Your way is spelt wrong for a start

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😂 The irony! That's the wrong spelling too. Amélie.

RampantIvy · 16/02/2025 18:52

RaspberryScrubs · 16/02/2025 18:29

We had Big Tom and Little Tom cousins when I were a nipper, we still call them that now, in our 40s and 50s, lol.

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Similar here.

Honestly @pileduphigh no-one cares.

RitaFromTheRanch · 16/02/2025 18:50

Amalie is much nicer so I wouldn't worry about it.