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Cousin copied dds name

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pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:27

Dd is Amalie, cousin is she’s naming her daughter Amelia.
DC are close and see each other regularly.

AIBU to think that’s basically the same name? Im not going to say anything and so will have to get over it but just think it’s really weird.

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RoundSquareWithTriangles · 20/02/2025 16:50

I don't see the issue. Everyone should be free to choose whatever name they like for their own child.

Redfred00 · 17/02/2025 14:13

They are different names. The are spelt and sound different. My cousin and I actually have the same name. I'm big Fred and she's little Fred. It's not a big deal and it is what it is.

Sheknowsaboutme · 17/02/2025 14:09

pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:27

Dd is Amalie, cousin is she’s naming her daughter Amelia.
DC are close and see each other regularly.

AIBU to think that’s basically the same name? Im not going to say anything and so will have to get over it but just think it’s really weird.

OP. You’re an adult. Grow up FFS. You sound like you’re in the school playground

Spirallingdownwards · 17/02/2025 13:27

InTheWild · 16/02/2025 19:02

They might look similar written down but they sound different, Amelia has more syllables.

They are cousins, I think it’s a non- issue.

I actually have cousins with the same name, who are a year apart. No one thought it was strange.

They are not even cousins - they are children of cousins so second cousins at best.

x2boys · 17/02/2025 10:19

My mum had a brother and a step brother with the same name they were adults when thru becsme step siblings but it used make for some interesting conversations between my Grandma and( step) Grandad
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x2boys · 17/02/2025 10:14

Spidey66 · 17/02/2025 00:05

I'm from a large Irish Catholic background. The amount of Theresa/Mary/Denis/Patrick/Michael etc etc amongst my cousins, aunts and uncles is unbelievable. And that's just first cousins!

So true !

Spidey66 · 17/02/2025 00:05

I'm from a large Irish Catholic background. The amount of Theresa/Mary/Denis/Patrick/Michael etc etc amongst my cousins, aunts and uncles is unbelievable. And that's just first cousins!

Catza · 16/02/2025 20:56

My mum's cousin is named after my grandmother, I was named after my great great mother. We have two cousins with exact same name - one male, one female and another set of two males with identical names. My grandmother had two brothers with the exact same name (one died in infancy). Not to mention multiple family friends whose children born around the same time sharing a popular name at the time. It's really all quite common and nobody cared back in a day. When did this obsession with "name stealing" become a thing?

MrsPepperpotsCat · 16/02/2025 20:35

Trabbling · 16/02/2025 20:33

We had a Tony (male - big strapping chap) and much younger Toni (female, petite). They were known as Big Toe and Little Toe.

Nobody got confused, and nobody got the hump 😄

😂

CaptainMyCaptain · 16/02/2025 20:34

MintTwirl · 16/02/2025 18:28

It’s fine and not even the same name. I had cousins with the actual same name growing up and nobody cared.

So did I. Two Johns. Nobody even thought it was odd.

Trabbling · 16/02/2025 20:33

We had a Tony (male - big strapping chap) and much younger Toni (female, petite). They were known as Big Toe and Little Toe.

Nobody got confused, and nobody got the hump 😄

MrsPepperpotsCat · 16/02/2025 20:33

pileduphigh · 16/02/2025 18:49

If she'd asked (which obviously she doesn't have to) I would have said it isn't a problem

I guess I was expecting her to at least lightheartedly acknowledge how they were so similar.
I was told over text so had time to react and decide not to mention it but just thought it was a bit weird.
I will get over it though

They're not the same, you'll sound silly if you start saying that to family members etc.

Inastatus · 16/02/2025 20:26

You’re being ridiculous OP.

Deadringer · 16/02/2025 20:24

We have an Ava, an Eva, an Eve and an Aoife (e-fa) in our family, who cares?

Cakeandusername · 16/02/2025 20:24

I think it will be fine as it’s a different name and also a very different style. Amelia is a very popular name. I can understand you being put out if it was an exact copy with same spelling or even Amalie & Amelie but it’s a totally different name.

Redbone · 16/02/2025 20:22

Two different names and, as is oft stated on MN , nobody owns a name.

JessyCarr · 16/02/2025 20:21

JanglingJack · 16/02/2025 20:00

Amalie?

Nobody is copying that name. You've taken the beautiful French name Amelie and driven a common sledge hammer through it.

Or taken the Germanic name Amalie and spelt it correctly.

adviceneeded1990 · 16/02/2025 20:09

MintTwirl · 16/02/2025 18:28

It’s fine and not even the same name. I had cousins with the actual same name growing up and nobody cared.

This. I have the same name as one of my cousins. Big age gap, huge family but spent time together - no one has ever given it a thought.

Ladamesansmerci · 16/02/2025 20:08

Even if it was the same name, who cares. In the 90's every other kid was Jessica, Hannah, Laura or etc

user2848502016 · 16/02/2025 20:02

Except she hasn't has she because they're different names?!

TheFairyCaravan · 16/02/2025 20:01

My cousin named her son the same as DS2, I couldn’t give a toss tbh. When DS2 was born, his name wasn’t popular, by the time my cousin’s son was born it was in the top 10 and had been for ages so it would have been ridiculous to be precious over it.

Neurotoxic · 16/02/2025 20:01

The thing is she may have liked the name before you used it and dreamed of naming her future baby that. If it were me I wouldn't let the similarity get in the way just because someone else got there first.

JanglingJack · 16/02/2025 20:00

Amalie?

Nobody is copying that name. You've taken the beautiful French name Amelie and driven a common sledge hammer through it.

GargoylesofBeelzebub · 16/02/2025 20:00

Not the same name.

x2boys · 16/02/2025 19:55

Well the kids are second cousins and its not the same name
I come from a big Irish family I have a seventies double barell name so say "mary -ann " and my actual cousins name is ann we have two other cousins with very similar name Emma and Gemma it's not a big deal.