I hate Sundays

I hated sundays as a child. We had to have a roast dinner even when it was really hot. My granddad would create arguments. He had to be right about everything. He would get moody if someone expressed a different opinion.

I've always hated Sundays simply because the next day is Monday and I can't help feeling sad about it. I even preferred Fridays at school coz Saturday was coming!
Sundays with a period are particularly bad.

Reading your update about feeling lonely op, could you get a regular baby-sitter for a couple of hours on a Sunday morning or afternoon which would allow you and your dh to reconnect a bit?

I love Sundays. No pressure, no rushing, no stress. Just the freedom to wake up whenever we like and do whatever we like.

I am sure your childhood did have a large influence on how you feel about Sundays now op, and therapy is always an option, but I would first try and instigate some changes that turn the emotion of sadness in to action .

Two things op;

• structure

• doing something with the dc that YOU enjoy!

I found that weekends with dc went a lot better if they followed a plan, usually involving getting out of the house reasonably early on at least one of the mornings, and putting the dc in a sports class, or going for an interesting walk, and then coming home to lunch is much more enjoyable. And then everyone is far more likely to chill. A family tidy up hour is also good.

And I realised far too late that every single weekend was attuned to my dcs’ choices and I was a much better mother if my choices were allowed a little daylight on Sundays! So I used to drag my dcs’ horse-riding and they used to complain mildly on the way but always ended up enjoying it when actually there!

Is there something you would really like to do op that you enjoy and you are missing? Can you weave it in to a family activity?

The alternative is that you and your dh each give each other a couple of child-free hours on Sundays when you are alone to pursue your own interests.

If you work all week and your weekends become totally child focused; where is there any room for you? Mothers need to recharge too! Take the opportunity with both hands op because I realised too late that if you don’t, no one will offer it to you! And your children will benefit from having a re-energised mum.

My mum still hates Sundays. She was a teacher and it was maybe it was because of that, but even though she's retired she still hates them.
She's just back from Tenerife and she hated Sunday over there too 🤦‍♀️

Oh the Sunday scaries! Yes, can relate. It's the back-to-work, deadline, school run, treadmill feeling. Ugh.

Does anyone remember the Boomtown Rats song?
They should change it to Sundays!!

Anyway, I've said my piece so I'll shut up now

In fact, I've already decided that if one day I move abroad (in retirement), I would not be able to move to a little town, for example, that slows down too much on a Sunday. I couldn't bear it. It needs to be reasonably lively so that it doesn't carry Sunday vibes.
OP, your hatred is possibly mild compared to mine

I read your title and then your post and thought, hang on, did I at some point change my username and write this?
I have NEVER liked Sundays and it goes all the way back to childhood too.
On Saturdays, I'll wake with a smile on my face. On Sundays, I'll groan.
It is hands-down the most depressing day of the week.

OMG I could have written this myself, word for word!

I like Sundays now because I don't work Mondays but otherwise, yes to all of it.

Antiques Roadshow and Songs of Praise can still bring the feelings back a bit for me.

Maybe that’s why? It sounds like you do a lot of the jobs you wish you could avoid on a Sunday. Can you spread them out? Do some of them less?

I wonder if you might struggle with the lack of structure on Sundays? I remember not liking them as a kid, partly, I think because I would no doubt have some undone homework hanging over my head and partly, I think, because I liked routine.

I wonder if it would work for you to try to knock this one the head - Try a couple Sundays where you have some kind of routine and a couple where you've planned something really fun and come home tired, ready for showers and bed.

As a child, after the boredom of Sunday School or church on Sunday mornings, and then a good lunch (my mother was a great cook) my parents usually entertained relatives or friends on Sunday afternoons - or we went to their house - for tea. Often it was my best friend and her parents, so Sunday afternoons were great fun.
As a teenager we'd moved house to a different part of the country. No more church - I'd get up late, then the afternoon and early evening was spent doing the homework I'd put off until the last minute, while listening to John Peel and the Top 40 countdown on Radio 1. By the time I was 15 I had 3 essays to write every weekend, so Sunday was kinda stressful.

Not keen on Sundays. Hated that back to school feeling as a kid. Bath and hair wash then our mum drying our hair with a red hot hairdryer. When I was working I hated Sunday beginning and would hope everyone stayed in bed as long as possible because once the day started the sooner it’d be Monday and another week of going somewhere I didn’t want to go. I’m retired now so it’s better but Sundays will always have an odd feeling

Yes, mine was a bit rubbish too. By the time heartbeat was about I was indeed older and in my power to have the sort of Sunday I'd want. Mondays not so much, so heartbeat was a last hoorah.

Like a lot of people on this thread I used to hate Sundays and vowed that.i would make Sundays less "sundaylike" when I had kids. So no homework on a Sunday.and do something nice in the afternoon. Go to the cinema or see friends. It really helped and I quite like Sundays now.

I now live in Germany and Sundays are still like this. I quite like it. It's a quiet day where you know you won't be disturbed, no errands can be run. So we stay home, play in the garden, playdoh, paint, watch some TV. Get some house stuff done. It's a very chilled slow day

I think if you were a young adult watching heartbeat you weren’t having the ‘back to school dreads’ although still possible you didn’t enjoy your work or whatever you were doing on Monday.
I’m 40, the theme tune of heartbeat signified going up to bed and the next time I’d be coming down the stairs was to go to school, something I didn’t really enjoy, having probably spent all weekend at home doing nothing!
I had a bit of a bleak childhood 😂

I've called them suicide Sundays for years. It's even worse at Easter with what feels like 4 Sundays in a row

Used to dislike Bank holidays as a child
Closed shops and James Bond films are all I can remember

I can't believe so many people hate Sunday. It's my favourite day of the week and was when I was little and everything was shut. A day to completely relax, make a roast, listen to my favourite radio shows, bake cakes and play games or watch a good Sunday feelgood film. Love Sunday.

One really important thing is to stop berating yourself for anything you do or feel.

Yeah you feel that way now, it's ok, you can make changes and that ok too.

Berating yourself is bad, guilt serves no purpose, it doesnt help you at all. Stop it - in any form.

Loathed Sundays as a kid. We had to drag our sorry Catholic arses the several miles to mass and back in all weathers. Silent streets, closed shops, kids not allowed out to play - then school the next day with the mental nuns whacking us with rulers - shudder.

Oh yes I remember these Sundays. That heavy feeling OP describes. I had to go to chapel or Sunday school too, sometimes both. And that hour between 6pm and 7pm when there was nothing but religious programmes on the telly.

I got the Sunday blues throughout my working life even when in jobs I loved. I’m retired now though and love Sundays. Evenings are bliss knowing it’s not the last bit of relaxation before another working week starts.