I hate Sundays

Thanks to someone on here I changed my mindset about January years ago and it has stayed with me ever since.

@likerocksfalling

Closes at 2 on a Saturday, wow! Thought we were hard done by 😂

That's what I love about the internet, finding out all the things that aren't 'just you'!

I too hated Sundays as a younger child. Nothing to do as our playmates 'down the road' always went to church on a Sunday morning then their grandparents after that for the rest of the day...every Sunday all year. So I was left with only my brothers for company (didn't get on with them), dinner, Heartbeat, homework and bed. 😴

I then started a hobby when I was about 12/13 that then meant almost every Sunday I was competing and so Sundays became I day I looked forward to at the end of a shitty week at shitty school.

My own DC will never know Sundays as the shit, boring day before school that I did because
a) they're home educated and
b) we still have the same hobby that I started as a child so virtually every weekend through the year we're having fun competing as a family 🙂

Sundays can feel very melancholy. As a kid, the highlight of the day was going to the chocolate vending machine in our village😃. I can still remember how utterly boring Sundays were and the dread of school the next day.

I think the key is the mentally decide that Sunday is YOUR day. What would you like to do on a Sunday now? Just do that, every week and it’ll become habit and something to look forward to. I’ve had to make a mental switch about it too. One thing I really love is a lonnnnnng soak in the bath for example but I never ever had time. Now I schedule it in every Sunday - just lying in mine now. I put the roast in, send the DC to play for an hour and DH happily catches up on his footy TV. Then I do a self care routine, feel lovely, get out and have my dinner all relaxed. No rush at all. I used to rush around trying to fill the day with extra activities but I was soon too tired to keep it up! In the summer I’ll be outside in the hot in doing similar in the garden. Do YOU!

I don't like Sundays either; somehow they epitomise all the sadness in my life. My mum died when I was a child and it was incredibly sad and lonely. Somehow, Sundays seemed worse than the other days. Perhaps it was because it seemed that everyone was having a happy family day. Then when I had my child, I became a single parent soon after. Sundays reinforced the intense loneliness of single parenthood; all around me seemed to be full of couples with babies/young children/GPs.
Now, my adult child has gone completely off the rails and we are estranged.
Sundays seem to magnify that sadness too. I look forward to Mondays as it is the start of the new week and in the deepest part of my heart, I allow a ray of hope to flicker

Yes - agree. Maybe hate is too strong but it has a sort of heavy sad feel.
for me it was associated with going back to school and homework and nothing being open (no Sunday trading) and bad TV - religious boring tv for a child.

I think you can get something so ingrained in you by repetition as a child the feeling sticks.

It sometimes is, especially if you forget to buy wine and they close at two on Saturdays and that’s it for the weekend. 😂 You get used to it though.

I love Sundays and have a nice set up. But I can't travel Sunday evening as takes me back to leaving for boarding

@likerocksfalling

I do think it means it's a mad rush to get everything done on a Saturday and traffic is bad but I do like a lazy Sunday. (Though when I visit the uk I forget things are open and I can go shopping!)

I remember as a kid there would always be the eastenders omnibus on tv and sometimes a Sunday roast and then between 4pm and 7pm I'd be in my room listening to the top 40 charts trying to record my favourite song on to a tape 🤣

I remember they moved the eastenders omnibus to a different day and that felt so wrong haha

Same where I live. I don’t mind.

My friend grew up in a place where Sundays were taken very seriously. No activity except church, no gardening, no social gatherings, no sport, no shops, definitely no pub. Even the children's playground was locked up.

After a Saturday night with a sick bug her mother once did a load of washing and hung it out on the Sunday to dry and to smell fresh. Two elders from the kirk came round to have stern words.

She has moved far away and is free of the stranglehold of an austere religion.

I love Sundays myself, there are always fun or interesting things to do.

Aw I love Sundays but I can see why many of you don’t.

as a child I looked forward to Sundays because that was my day where I helped at my local riding stables, then after picking picked up at half five it was home for a bath, tea, antiques roadshow, songs of praise, chronicles of narnia/the borrowers/five children and it or whatever then reading in bed. I just found it a huge comfort, same routine etc, life wasn’t always great for me then.

even as an adult, it’s always been a quieter day for me (usually), it was my day to spend with my dc, then getting ready for the week ahead.

these days I try and have some time to myself, either crafting or going out. My kids are all nearly grown so it’s a bit easier.

the loneliness aspect that pp’s have mentioned does resonate a little with me though, I am on my own now, dc don’t want to do anything with me and all about me on Sundays everyone’s in couples or with their young children and even though people say oh you must go out by yourself and go to these places or to the pictures/theartre/country parks/country houses, in reality very few people actually are by themselves and then you either feel like an intruder or really self conscious. I find that feeling even worse in spring and summer

I used to feel exactly the same OP, until I reduced my hours, and now I don’t work on Mondays. So by Sunday evening I’m very happy and relaxed at the thought of having a day to myself the next day!

Sunday is my favourite day of the week! I always get up early and go for a walk & for a coffee. It’s much quieter than Saturdays.

If I want to go shopping I go at opening on Sunday, it’s much calmer and I can actually enjoy it and use the changing rooms without queuing.

I make sure the sheets are fresh and laundry done by Friday/Saturday, so Sunday is just for relaxing, we go for a meal out or get a takeaway. I always have a bath and do all of my self care, foot mask etc. I definitely see Sunday as my ‘me’ day ☺️

It's Antiques Roadshow theme for me! Meant school the next day and another anxious week in the classroom and worse the playground.

Not diagnosed (in late 50s) but I'm sure I'm autistic.

Sundays as a child were the worst! Grandstand and songs of praise, being told off constantly for messing around but not having anything to do. I didn't realise that other people also felt this way!

I do sometimes feel that emptiness creeping back in. I have a DC now so I'm trying to break the cycle in a lot of ways. I probably need to start naking more of an effort to make them special.

I love Sundays but have a very similar feeling about Saturdays? I have no idea why. It makes me feel sort on edge and empty? Sounds strange I know

@MrsMoastyToasty

It's like that where I live now (not the UK) and very little to do on a Sunday, but I quite like it as it's a forced day of rest.

Yes, it was wasn't it, especially because Jimmy Savile invaded our kitchen every Sunday ....

Don't like them either OP and you don't need therapy. I'm quite ancient so I remember Sunday being the day when everything was shut. Worse than that was the thought of going back to work on Monday, so Sunday was always counting down the hours and minutes. You could never really relax. A Sunday lunch was nice. Favourite day is probably Wednesday.

Sunday has become my favourite day of the week over the last few years - the kids activities of Saturday are done, the visiting friends or housework is usually complete on Friday evening and Saturday.

we do have a semi structured day, up and out - ds1 swims at 8:30, home to dh making bacon buns and coffee then we head out somehwere.

home by 1/2ish for late lunch and then wind down time; catch up on Saturday night tv (gladiators yay) grocery delivery arrives and then kids help prep for the week. (They’re 9 and 5) often a card or board game, dh has gone out now to play tennis - boys are watching a movie and I’m reading mn with a hot cup of tea. I like the chill, the no pressure day, it’s all about us and our little family unit on a Sunday.

I think you need to start organising something you are really looking forward to exclusively on Sundays for a while, even if it's something small. If it were me that would be some "me" time with coffee and a newspaper, or getting my nails done, or an exercise class, or meeting a friend. That may or may not be viable depending on your parenting situation, but try to carve out something - anything - for you, and over time it will become something to look forward to.

I cannot remember how I felt about Sundays as a child, I love them now, especially now that DS1 with SEN a learning difficulties is slightly more independent. I don’t fell guilty about going out for a run in the morning, taking my time cooking something nice, watching a film, or just chilling listening or watching my favourite podcasts!