To feel annoyed DH cooked something he knows I don't like

I hate fish. DH knows I hate fish. He'd never, ever cook me fish for a special (or any) dinner. If all he could cook was fish he'd get me a takeaway. And frankly I'd rather he bunged a Happy Meal on my plate than serve me fish.

She didn't know what he was going to cook, and only said it was delicious afterwards. It's not something she'd previously said she liked.

Couldn't say that better.

"Put me off cooking". 🙄

It's just fucking food, anyway, at least to me.
Something to fuel the machine!

For a couple of weeks you could try Gousto or Hello Fresh who deliver all the ingredients for your choice from a wide range of meals. They come with detailed instructions that are easy to follow. Both companies usually have offers on for new customers.

Are you fussy about food? Or is the no tomato sauce thing the main thing you dislike? It makes a difference to whether he was unreasonable or not. If it's the one thing you don't like then he was pretty ridiculous. But if you're fussy about all manner of things he might have found it hard to think of something you'd actually like.

I think it's worth encouraging the stew thing though, if he's up for learning that would only be a good thing.

Why bother, making out he's doing you a big favour, by cooking the only thing he knows how to cook (which is poor, one thing) , which he knows you don't like. Twat!

Or he can learn to cook you something you do like. Cooking is a basic skill.

That's pathetic of him. But why say it was delicious when you both knew you were lying? This is why men get away with shit. Speak up.

If you tell him it’s delicious then how is he supposed to know you don’t like it? If he rarely cooks then he may have forgot. You aren’t helping the situation by saying it’s delicious tbh

Really?

So, if you know your wife specifically doesn't like tomatoes, and the only dish you know how to make is something that includes tomatoes, you'd just go with it? How thoughtless.

He's an idiot for getting to what we age he is and only capable of cooking one dish and you must have been in shock to be sitting their meekly and eating something you don't like and he was fully aware you don't like it!

He has no excuse! Does he not have female relatives?

When my sister broke her leg, I went round and supervised him making a birthday cake for one of their children at his request. He was adept at cooking but hadn't much experience making a cake.

Why couldn't your husband have asked for help even if it were over the phone or via messages etc?

Plenty of step by step tutorials for free on eBay.

I can't imagine not caring about someone to the extent of cooking something they don't like and even acknowledging they don't like it as they drop the plate Ian front of you!

I don't like tit for tat usually but this really does call for it.

Why does he only know how to cook one thing that his wife doesn't like?
That's quite pathetic. My DH isn't much of a cook, but he can manage more than one dish.
It's not a gift to give someone something you know they don't like.

So you told him you liked it to spare his feelings when he clearly doesn’t give a shit about yours. Ok.

When I cook, I make an effort to cook things that firstly people like, secondly cooked to their preferences, crispy, well done, soft scramble.

I wouldn't have eaten it at all op and I wouldn't be cooking him anything ever again.

If he can read he can look up a recipe online and follow the instructions, he is lazy and has no respect for you.

Urgh, choosing to cook haggis sounds like a deliberate act of sabotage to me. Offal is such a divisive choice of food and most amateur cooks would steer clear.

As it was his treat for Valentines he should have made an effort to try something new, if he messed it up at least he tried.
My (late) DH was an excellent cook but he would make this chicken liver risotto that I found hard to take taste and texture wise. But he loved it and didn't cook it often. So the once or twice a year he made it I ate it. I didn't say anything like 'it's delicious' but he knew it was not on my top ten (or even 50). But it was like how I occasionally watched a footie match (drew the line at cricket) to be companiable. He also did the same for me - tolerated something because he knew I loved it. If it's not frequent then no issue. The problem here is he WAS making it especially for the OP.

You shouldn’t have to be grateful that he cooked you something when he knowingly cooked something he knows you do not like. Seriously who does that?

I just don’t pay that much attention to this stuff 🤷 if my hubby only knows how to make one meal and it’s one I don’t like I’d just crack open the champagne and tuck in.

@Devianinc
‘Most people don’t like egg thing.’

Egg Thing?

Not quite the point I know, I wonder if you agreed some Gousto recipes together, and he only used what is in the box? No random add ins. Just what is on the photo card.
People have to start somewhere, there are money off codes for first time users too. Train him to clean up as he goes along!

Getting a reward for "trying" if they, in actuality, did not is not going to end well. Even if it takes a long time to brew, the blast will come out eventually.

Forgive me, for I am about to rant and it's embarrassing and personal. Not outing though because no one else know but me and DH.

Mine kept buying me a box of chocolates for every occasion. I don't really like chocolate. I would say thanks in a lack lustre manner, hoping he'd take the hint. I told him outright on many occasions away from the gift giving moment how I don't really like chocolate but he always seemed to "forget". Nothing ever changed. He'd just end up eating most of them.

It came to a head on Christmas lunchtime. At midnight, he had presented me a large box of chocolates.
"They're Thornton's", he exclaimed with a slight nod to the box and a flourish, looking pleased with himself for upping me from a box Dairy Box or Milk Tray. He appeared to be expecting a gushing round of applause. We have a lot more spare cash than last year, you see so he could justify the extremely extra four pounds. He'd wanged it in the trolley because they were on special offer at a tenner, down from fifteen, I presume). My face went dead. I keep myself contained and my voice even as I simmered underneath before going to bed. My rage grew as the time crept towards morning. He slept peacefully. I did not. "Just be grateful. Be polite. Don't be grabby", I told myself all night and through breakfast. I waited to see if anything else more suitable was going to appear. Maybe something more suitable for a FUCKING RECENTLY DIAGNOSED FUCKING DIABETIC WITH TOTALLY UNCONTROLLED BLOOD GLUCOSE LEVELS. Maybe something like the £300 worth of new clothes I'd got him. But no, the only thing he got me was the Ta-Da drum roll please....Thornton's. A lovely big box of SUGAR for a diabetic who is still awaiting the second blood test before the GP will provide anything to aid in the control of bmy insanely high blood sugar levels. It got to 1pm. Three hours of, "what's the matter. I know somethings the matter". Ooh...ooh...I forgot. There was another "gift". I forgot that for a moment there. He put thirty pounds in a Christmas card on top of the chocolate box. I'm HOUSEBOUND with the serious heart condition, the drugs for which triggered the diabetes. So, the £30 went straight back in his wallet because I can't go out to fucking spend.

I cracked at the point he expected me to start yummng on the choccies.

I put one in my mouth and started to chew it and the sugar just blasted me and I spat it out and burst out crying. What the fuck was I doing, risking hospitalisation to make him feel less of an evil cunt.

The fight that ensued had to be seen to be believed. I remember there was a lot of "you bought an unmedicated DIABETIC a box containing half a pound of FUCKING SUGAR"!?!

The rotten cunt had watched me taking my blood glucose and cutting out all sugar from my diet that I could for three months at that point.

He ended up with all the chocolates, apart from the one I spat out, in the end. I'm not sure he enjoyed receiving them much though, considering he received them all in one go as I launched the open box smack in the middle of his face. He wasn't too keen on picking them up of the floor to eat them, rather strangely.

Tackle it. Don't let it fester. Despite the momentary feeling of deep satisfaction as that full box of chocolate smacked DH square in the centre of his mush, I have to say I'd rather not have had the experience at all. Let them know or it will never charge.

Yep, gift giving to themselves when it’s for someone else is piss poor. The phrase it’s the thought that counts springs to mind and in this case there was f all thought for the op

At least he remembered you don’t like it 😂 on the rare occasion my dh cooks (which is ok, I enjoy cooking and have more time etc) he makes one of the two foods I can’t eat, and seems genuinely confused when I tell him. We’ve been together for 20 years now

He’s just lazy. Anyone can cook who tries. He hasn’t tried. My dh didn’t cook when we married, did that strategic incompetence thing and cooked shite, I said I expected to marry a capable adult and capable adults who can read can also cook. The op failed once in happily cooking for 3 years for a man who couldn’t be arsed, I’d say from now on he cooks every Saturday, following a recipe exactly, and if he wants to throw some totally random stuff in there there won’t be any more cooked meals for him weeknights, it’s so disrespectful. Recipetineats is an AMAZING blog for new cooks as well as experienced ones- she does videos and lots of notes about what’s ok to change and what’s important to do exactly as said. Pick him a recipe, and tell him to get cooking.

Are you going to do the same thing to him for his birthday?