Child ear piercing gone wrong - help me with what to say

Oh my god, just stop seriously

My daughter had a Claire’s style piercing (but not Claire’s) and her ear lobe swelled up and swallowed the ear ring. She needed to go under GA to have a minor operation to remove it. I refused to take her ever again lol but last year relented but took her to a needle piercer recommended to me locally. She had no problems and they healed quickly.

I’m absolutely reeling at £68. I don’t think it’s a problem. “Unfortunately one earring was faulty and fell out. dd is understandably reluctant to be repierced until her ear is completely healed and doesn’t want to be walking around with one earring so I will require a full refund.” There will be a policy - they will apply it. You may have to argue but you paid for her to be pierced and they’ve done half a job. I don’t think elaborate wording is going to help you.

I pierced dds ears with a needle during lockdown and she didn’t like the placement so took it out and it healed really quickly with no scaring and I redid them later. I forget how long - Covid was strange.

My point is that the attitude of “her body, her rules” is incredibly damaging, and that lack of parenting only leads one way.

Good idea. And next time do it at the start of the summer holidays so she doesn’t have to deal with having micropore put over her ears every time she does pe at school .

My daughter has hers done last June on her 7th birthday.
I went to a reputable tattooist’s that also did piercings. For young children they have two piercers (one for each ear so they’re done at the same time) and they do it with a sterilised needle.
They were so good with DD and gave her so many chances to change her mind, they explicitly asked her for consent, explained the pain, practiced yoga breathing with her and did little chants once the needles were in and counted down from 10 which was long enough to get the earrings in.

I’d had my “seconds” pierced by the same women 2 years before and I didn’t get any of that special treatment 😂

I think if your DD is highly distressed, take both earrings out, let them heal properly (12 months plus) and take her to a proper piercer (usually at a tattoo studio). x

Also if you do not think there is a diff between sleeping around, piercings and tattoos then i think there may be a bigger problem.
i don't think its with the op as thats quite a shocking thing to say about a child.

As a child you are not capable of making that decision no matter how much you want it.

There is also a big difference between 8 and 12.

I also knew from a young age i wanted my ears pierced. I asked every single year. My parents gave in at around 11/12as i never stopped asking ( they also were very strict).
i don't see this as a bad age at all. Its easier before she starts big school.

No, I’m not upset, but this is exactly why some parents cannot be trusted.

Even now she still doesn’t think she needed to do any research because “everyone does it”, and even now she still thinks “her body, her rules” in regard to an 8 year old child.

Mum has not learnt anything here.

I try to educate people on going to a piercer rather than using a gun, would i berate them and say they hadn't put their child's safety first? No.
unsure why this is upsetting you but op made a mistake. Her child is not injured by it.
her child is upset at losing an earring.
op will know better next time.

When she’s calmer take the other one out and let them heal. When she’s older she can go somewhere more reputable.

I briefly worked at Claire’s as a teenager during the holidays. I’d been there two days and had zero training when I was asked to pierce someone’s ears with that gun. I refused. That’s how much they value their customers. It’s just £££.

Sorry, slightly off topic I suppose, but if Claire's and Blue Banana are so bad, WHERE do you go and how do you know that they will do a good job?

No, I’m not angry or upset.

I’m very concerned for the child you are unable to parent or protect, though.

To me, an unpierced person, sounds like excellent customer service

Politely, it isn't your place to keep having a go at the OP, she is very aware of the consequences of what has happened today.

Your constant badgering of her serves no purpose.

Being disappointed is fair enough, anyone of any age would be disappointed if this happened.

What I mean is, your description of your DD’s distress at the physical repercussions of it falling out suggest she’s not ready for this. E.g. panicking at the blood, reluctant to let you look at her ear etc. And I think that’s what a lot of posters are picking up on.

There are often complications with ear piercings. And they’re uncomfortable and painful. This is one of them. And it seems like it’s been too much for your DD.

By all means request a refund and try again in 6 months but even getting it done by the best most professional ear piercer won’t completely eliminate the risk of infection or it getting caught on something / falling out.