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Child ear piercing gone wrong - help me with what to say

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formula3 · 15/02/2025 20:30

DD8 had ears pierced today at Claire’s. All went fine, until we got home and she said “my earring has fallen out” and after initially telling her that was impossible l looked, and sure enough there was no earring in right ear. She hadn’t fiddled with them in the 3 hours they had been pierced and we got home, and I found the earring itself in the hood of her coat, no sign of the back so assume it was loose from start and is still somewhere in the shopping centre.
she was very upset, obviously, as she’s 8 and was panicking due to some blood around hole. I called Claire’s and explained what happened, the lady I spoke to sounded very shocked and said she had never had this happen and she needed to call her senior. She called back to say they were very sorry, that it must have been a fault with the earring (though it looks fine) and all that can be done is to leave it a week to heal over and they will pierce it again and as an apology not make me pay again!

I was too shocked to really process it other than to say that I didn’t think she’d want to come back there given she’d been brave to get it done in the first place and was now very upset, and said I had to go as had a very upset little girl to sort out but Could someone senior get back to me. That didn’t happen by the end of the day.

what do I do now? Contact head office? I spent £68 on good quality piercing earrings and about £15 on the piercing aftercare which for me is a lot but it was a special occasion that has gone really wrong. I’d like a refund because I feel I’ve paid for a service that has been poor (be it the fault of the equipment, or staff not checking the back was secure). My daughter is upset she only has one earring (fair enough) and I will try and encourage her to get it re-done elsewhere but right now there’s no way she’d agree to being pierced again.

I don’t write very well- could someone help me word an email and what I should say/ask for? I mainly want to stop this happening to someone other child but I’d also like my money back, not just free new piercing which can’t be goof
for her ear after a week? ☹️

thank you X

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IHopeYouStepOnALegPiece · 16/02/2025 19:10

Oioisavaloy27 · 16/02/2025 18:18

Did you put the earring back in with a new back bought from elsewhere? Or was that to simple a solution?

Did you read the thread or was that too simple for you?

formula3 · 16/02/2025 19:08

Oioisavaloy27 · 16/02/2025 18:18

Did you put the earring back in with a new back bought from elsewhere? Or was that to simple a solution?

no I couldn’t get it back in, the back of her ear didn’t look like there was any hole left and i could feel resistance after only 1/4 of the post was in. It was bleeding out the front and I felt I was liable to do more damage to the tissue so stopped. Not sure how that was simple, but then I’m not a professional piercer sooooo🤷‍♀️🙄

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Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/02/2025 18:43

Ladies, please....

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 16/02/2025 18:39

Oioisavaloy27 · 16/02/2025 18:18

Did you put the earring back in with a new back bought from elsewhere? Or was that to simple a solution?

If you'd bothered reading OP's posts you'd see that she tried but you do realise that might not be possible even if her daughter hadn't been upset? Fresh (and some older piercings) can close up very quickly.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/02/2025 18:39

dementedpixie · 16/02/2025 18:28

You can highlight only the OPs posts and that will give you the relevant info. Then you don't have to make rude comments to her

Oh, the irony....😂

dementedpixie · 16/02/2025 18:28

Oioisavaloy27 · 16/02/2025 18:26

FFS we DONT all have the time to sit around and read every post!

You can highlight only the OPs posts and that will give you the relevant info. Then you don't have to make rude comments to her

Audiprettier · 16/02/2025 18:27

SheRaaPrincessOfPower · 15/02/2025 20:36

I'd go back if you can, with your proof of payment and say 'as you know, unfortunately the earring that Claire's pierced Jane's ear with was faulty and as a result of that Jane hasn't got her ears pierced. I know you said on the phone when you said that the earring must have been faulty that you would be able to repierce the ear but that's not what we want. I'd like a full refund'.

This 100% !
What a shame DD has had to experience this. Definitely insist on (& expect) a full refund due to the faulty gun/jewellery.
I agree with OP in waiting a week or two for healing & then DD can get them done maybe in a reputable salon & not back at Claire's. Better safe than sorry. Hope next time is a success for her! 🤞

Oioisavaloy27 · 16/02/2025 18:26

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FFS we DONT all have the time to sit around and read every post!

dementedpixie · 16/02/2025 18:20

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Oioisavaloy27 · 16/02/2025 18:18

formula3 · 16/02/2025 13:21

Email sent to head office thanks to your helpful wording - will update outcome when I hear back.

Did you put the earring back in with a new back bought from elsewhere? Or was that to simple a solution?

Sirmagoo · 16/02/2025 18:10

CaroIus · 15/02/2025 20:39

The drama 🤣🤣🤣

Just disinfect the earring and put it back in.

Yep and ice it to numb it.

Justalittlehandhold · 16/02/2025 18:07

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/02/2025 18:05

@formula3 fwiw I don't think I'd do "research" beyond asking friends where they'd gone. FGS, how many people just pop in on a whim? That's what I did when I was 14, skipping school and had a bit too much pocket money... et voila, a double piercing. 😂

In general I prefer personal recommendations, very often on line ones are manipulated.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/02/2025 18:05

@formula3 fwiw I don't think I'd do "research" beyond asking friends where they'd gone. FGS, how many people just pop in on a whim? That's what I did when I was 14, skipping school and had a bit too much pocket money... et voila, a double piercing. 😂

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/02/2025 17:19

Crazycatlady79 · 16/02/2025 14:27

You're being absolutely ridiculous, so I'm surprised your child is being melodramatic. She's 8, not 3.
When having body modifications for your children, it really is best to have done your homework, but clearly you haven't, so here we are.
Just email the head office, outlining what you have said here.
Any other advice will probably fall flat.

Any sincere person would've left it at that with advice. Instead, you posted again and again getting more and more mean. Jesus. 🤦‍♀️

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 16/02/2025 16:10

Crazycatlady79 · 16/02/2025 15:08

Please DON'T, OP, have your child's ear 're-pierced' within a week.
Give it time to heal and then another piercer can determine whether it's okay to give the go ahead on a new hole within the same space.

I don’t know why you’re replying to me, I’m not the OP and I didn’t suggest her daughter should have them redone in a week

jellyfishperiwinkle · 16/02/2025 15:56

I'd let it heal then get it done somewhere decent. Never get it done at Claire's. We went to a local salon, excellent care and white gold earrings for a little more than you'd pay at Claire's.

Mumtobabyhavoc · 16/02/2025 15:53

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That's such a cop-out. OP wanted help in how to complain. Instead, posts like yours are "carefully worded" attacks. Don't pretend otherwise.

Justalittlehandhold · 16/02/2025 15:11

formula3 · 16/02/2025 15:09

You absolutely called me an idiot which there’s no need for. Very carefully worded? I can’t imagine the non-careful version!
The piercer checked and said all looked good, then checked she was ok (both before and after it and that she was happy, she said yes) and I looked and saw 2 earrings with backs and no idea what else I’d check for?!
she didn’t fiddle at all, she knows not to touch wounds in skin risking infection, and from other experienced pierced people on this thread apparently it would be very hard to pull out a newly pierced earring as the clasp is clipped on so tightly by the gun, so she definitely didn’t do this!

I agree @Crazycatlady79 you called OP an idiot. You need to reread your “carefully” worded post!

formula3 · 16/02/2025 15:09

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You absolutely called me an idiot which there’s no need for. Very carefully worded? I can’t imagine the non-careful version!
The piercer checked and said all looked good, then checked she was ok (both before and after it and that she was happy, she said yes) and I looked and saw 2 earrings with backs and no idea what else I’d check for?!
she didn’t fiddle at all, she knows not to touch wounds in skin risking infection, and from other experienced pierced people on this thread apparently it would be very hard to pull out a newly pierced earring as the clasp is clipped on so tightly by the gun, so she definitely didn’t do this!

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Crazycatlady79 · 16/02/2025 15:08

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 16/02/2025 15:00

Why do some posters just want to give the OP a kicking? I presume they lead such sad little lives it's all they have to do.

OP, your only mistake was going to Claire's and, considering how many people go there, I don't blame you. I've had problems with piercings done at reputable piercing studios - I ended up at minor injuries once as the back had become imbedded in my ear! I wouldn't try and force anything through the piercing and let your daughter decide whether to remove the remaining earring and have them both pierced together or leave it and get the other one done another time. It might be worth asking a piercer how long she would have to wait to have them redone.

Please DON'T, OP, have your child's ear 're-pierced' within a week.
Give it time to heal and then another piercer can determine whether it's okay to give the go ahead on a new hole within the same space.

Crazycatlady79 · 16/02/2025 15:04

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PinkSparklyPussyCat · 16/02/2025 15:00

Why do some posters just want to give the OP a kicking? I presume they lead such sad little lives it's all they have to do.

OP, your only mistake was going to Claire's and, considering how many people go there, I don't blame you. I've had problems with piercings done at reputable piercing studios - I ended up at minor injuries once as the back had become imbedded in my ear! I wouldn't try and force anything through the piercing and let your daughter decide whether to remove the remaining earring and have them both pierced together or leave it and get the other one done another time. It might be worth asking a piercer how long she would have to wait to have them redone.

formula3 · 16/02/2025 14:46

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They looked fine to my non-professional piercing eyes 🤷‍♀️as in 2 earrings with backs were in. Not sure what else I should have checked? And not sure it’s ever ok to call someone an idiot. But cheers for the advice.

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Nanny0gg · 16/02/2025 14:36

formula3 · 15/02/2025 20:42

I thought 8 was old enough to be pierced, I didn’t know it was too young. Is there an age when this is less likely to happen or is it just a rotten luck one off?

It's bad luck.

But lesson learned. don't use Claires

purpleme12 · 16/02/2025 14:34

Claire's prices range from £20 something to over £100 because you choose the earrings you want. You're paying for the earrings.

So it's whichever price you choose