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School is asking children to say ‘peace be upon him’ anytime Mohammed is mentioned

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Kitkat189 · 15/02/2025 16:55

My child’s teacher asks the class to always say ‘peace be upon him’ if the prophet Muhammed is mentioned in RE, for example. Used in a sentence it would be something like ‘Muhammad peace be upon him is the founder of Islam’

The teacher explained that this is to show respect to the Muslims in the class.

This is the first time I’ve ever heard of this. Is there an expectation that non Muslims use this expression? Or is it more of a courtesy? I am guessing the latter?

And if it’s the former, should people be compelled to utter this phrase out of respect? To literally wish peace upon a prophet of a religion they don’t belong to? I realise this is not a problem for the majority of people but out of interest, would a devout follower of another religion have objections to this?

(This is year 6, teacher is not Muslim, there is one Muslim in the class whose family are pretty secular, he told the teacher he doesn’t use this expression himself.)

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SerendipityJane · 16/02/2025 12:06

we do not live in a country where religion is so entwined with life

That doesn't mean there aren't people who would like it that way

and there is freedom to express views without fear

Er, you are aware of the culture of fear that is being pushed by some lunatics in pursuit of their poppycock about people being able to change sex which makes

"not having to pray/say grace/acknowledge who a person is in relation to God/a god"

look like a disagreement over brands of toilet paper.

Moll2020 · 16/02/2025 12:06

Kitkat189 · 15/02/2025 16:55

My child’s teacher asks the class to always say ‘peace be upon him’ if the prophet Muhammed is mentioned in RE, for example. Used in a sentence it would be something like ‘Muhammad peace be upon him is the founder of Islam’

The teacher explained that this is to show respect to the Muslims in the class.

This is the first time I’ve ever heard of this. Is there an expectation that non Muslims use this expression? Or is it more of a courtesy? I am guessing the latter?

And if it’s the former, should people be compelled to utter this phrase out of respect? To literally wish peace upon a prophet of a religion they don’t belong to? I realise this is not a problem for the majority of people but out of interest, would a devout follower of another religion have objections to this?

(This is year 6, teacher is not Muslim, there is one Muslim in the class whose family are pretty secular, he told the teacher he doesn’t use this expression himself.)

Absolutely not, 100% NO. I work in a very multi cultural primary school and no way would this be allowed. If anyone wants a particular faith to be singled out then find a school of that faith and send your kids there or in this case the teacher can get a job there.

SerendipityJane · 16/02/2025 12:02

I can['t believe no one thought of this ?

Parlezz · 16/02/2025 12:00

Anonym00se · 16/02/2025 10:12

Why on earth would you be having an RE lesson in the workplace??

It’s a RE lesson. They’re basically ’role playing’ at Islam to teach the children the customs of a particular religion. They’ll only be expected to do that within that lesson. They won’t be expected to continue it, or to convert to Islam!

There’s nothing crazy about it at all.

It's a lot like MFL teachers expecting pupils to answer in the target language, when they have the knowledge and are ready.

NeverDropYourMooncup · 16/02/2025 11:57

Feelinghurt2 · 16/02/2025 11:50

It's only appropriate if 1) when Jesus Christ is mentioned, the whole class has to say "Our Lord and Father the Most High Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, the Lamb of God, Son of the Most High and 2) if God is mentioned, the whole class has to say Praise Be to God or Shalom, depending on whether it's the Christian God or the Jewish God that has been mentioned in that particular instance.

Seriously though, I think that this is actually offensive to the Christians or other religions in the class and against their religion, if they have one! Imagine if the situation were reversed. There would be outrage.

It's the same God for all three.

Parlezz · 16/02/2025 11:56

If this is included as a matter of course in writing (which is the main form of assessment for the subject) it shows understanding of what's been learned about the religion.

It's hardly an objectionable sentiment, much like naming someone who has passed and following with 'may s/he rest in peace'.

HRTQueen · 16/02/2025 11:56

Dkdndndw · 16/02/2025 11:03

Isn't it just be respectful to other religions?

It’s acknowledging who they are on context of the religion

if I don’t believe in God how can I acknowledge that I believe someone is the prophet of god

I lived in a Muslim country it was expected there and I kept my views to myself, on the odd occasion I spoke about being a non believer I was met with sympathy and astonishment rather than scorn but it was easier to keep quiet l. I have family who are Muslim there isn’t an expectation from them again they think one day I shall see the light and believe

we do not live in a country where religion is so entwined with life and there is freedom to express views without fear and that to me is also not having to pray/say grace/acknowledge who a person is in relation to God/a god

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 11:53

Allwillbewell2 · 16/02/2025 11:10

Do atheists not use the expression Rest in Peace? - genuinely interested. I'm Catholic and wouldn't have a problem with it, I do wish peace on Mohammed I wish peace for everyone. If the teacher was getting them to recite the Shahadah then I would have an issue but this is literally saying for someone who died a long time ago to be at peace - isn't it?

You may wish peace on everyone, but I note you didn't write PBUH when you referred to the prophet Mohammed. Nor should you if it's not your religious practice.

When I refer to Jesus Christ, I never refer to him as "our Lord" or "our saviour". Christians do.

ArtTheClown · 16/02/2025 11:52

Do atheists not use the expression Rest in Peace? - genuinely interested. I'm Catholic and wouldn't have a problem with it, I do wish peace on Mohammed I wish peace for everyone.

The people of their choosing, presumably, like offering condolences to someone who has recently had a loved one die.
I don't have any particular burning desire to wish peace on any long-dead historal figure. I mean who next - Napoleon? Henry the 8th?

Feelinghurt2 · 16/02/2025 11:50

It's only appropriate if 1) when Jesus Christ is mentioned, the whole class has to say "Our Lord and Father the Most High Jesus Christ, the Good Shepherd, the Lamb of God, Son of the Most High and 2) if God is mentioned, the whole class has to say Praise Be to God or Shalom, depending on whether it's the Christian God or the Jewish God that has been mentioned in that particular instance.

Seriously though, I think that this is actually offensive to the Christians or other religions in the class and against their religion, if they have one! Imagine if the situation were reversed. There would be outrage.

SerendipityJane · 16/02/2025 11:44

ZebedeeDougalFlorence · 15/02/2025 22:53

I can't help feeling that Op has been a bit mischievous in the way they have framed this. I bet it is not as sinister an exercise as they make out in their post.

Quite possible. However that doesn't prevent a civilised debated about the issues it raises, surely ?

Admittedly, if there is ever going to be a solution to the question relationship various religions have with the ongoing secular life of Britain it's unlikely to be on MN on a Sunday morning. But that's not reason not to try.

Hopefully someone reading this will learn that tiny bit more they can use in their daily life. For example one poster quoted direct from the Koran about forced observance being directly against Islam. Fact rather than imaginings.

A lot of Islamophobia stems from rather strident Muslims browbeating ignorant non Muslims with a stick of "our book says this". A trick they may have picked up from Christians. Rather than slinking off muttering about "muslemics" and letting ignorance fester, it can be illuminating to dig a little and discover that actually. No. It doesn't say that. Or (more often) it does say that in the middle of a bit where it makes it clear there are other considerations.

And if you can't find it our from reading, why not ask ? Generally most folk are more than happy to explain what their believe in.

Being somewhat of an atheist, I have no time for the conceit of religions with supernatural beings dishing out favours. Obviously that is a complete crock. However they have lead to cultural artefacts that remain in society.

Only today I read of the House of Commons looking to scrap morning (Christian) prayers. With the added irony that a Muslim MP is opposed. And even as an atheist I think having a few moments private reflection before the start of business in such a privileged and powerful role may not be inappropriate. Just make it "however you pray"

Just for balance really aggressive atheists can piss me off too. Especially the dim ones. And there are plenty of them about too.

Allwillbewell2 · 16/02/2025 11:10

Do atheists not use the expression Rest in Peace? - genuinely interested. I'm Catholic and wouldn't have a problem with it, I do wish peace on Mohammed I wish peace for everyone. If the teacher was getting them to recite the Shahadah then I would have an issue but this is literally saying for someone who died a long time ago to be at peace - isn't it?

Dkdndndw · 16/02/2025 11:03

HRTQueen · 16/02/2025 10:40

Because it’s acknowledgement of Jesus being a prophet

Mohammed is not a prophet to Christians or to non believers so it’s just words without any sentiment

empty words

my dad says grace before a meal I do not I don’t believe in God (upsetting for my dad) but I bow my head but I will not say empty words it’s a lie and should not be encouraged to please those that do believe

Isn't it just be respectful to other religions?

HRTQueen · 16/02/2025 10:40

Dkdndndw · 15/02/2025 23:41

I mean Muslims would also say "peace be upon him" when talking about Jesus or Moses etc. What's the issue?

Because it’s acknowledgement of Jesus being a prophet

Mohammed is not a prophet to Christians or to non believers so it’s just words without any sentiment

empty words

my dad says grace before a meal I do not I don’t believe in God (upsetting for my dad) but I bow my head but I will not say empty words it’s a lie and should not be encouraged to please those that do believe

ZebedeeDougalFlorence · 16/02/2025 10:27

maddening · 15/02/2025 23:02

Regardless - answering the op at face value does not make people responding islamaphobic and the casting of that accusation at pps is fucking ridiculous at best - even if we can agree on a definition of islamaphobia (noting that what is being pushed at the moment is driving at making it blasphemous to even criticise the religion) - I have not seen anything islamaphobic on the thread.

Excuse me...where in my post do I mention islamaphobia?

Anonym00se · 16/02/2025 10:12

DetectiveSleuth · 16/02/2025 09:57

😮 😮 That’s crazy and I can’t believe the school are facilitating this, can you imagine the uproar if this happened in a workplace?!!

Why on earth would you be having an RE lesson in the workplace??

It’s a RE lesson. They’re basically ’role playing’ at Islam to teach the children the customs of a particular religion. They’ll only be expected to do that within that lesson. They won’t be expected to continue it, or to convert to Islam!

There’s nothing crazy about it at all.

DetectiveSleuth · 16/02/2025 09:57

😮 😮 That’s crazy and I can’t believe the school are facilitating this, can you imagine the uproar if this happened in a workplace?!!

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 09:53

liquoricetorpedoes · 15/02/2025 17:04

I teach RS and explain that Muslims say it as a mark of respect and write (pbuh) after the name of a prophet. I do model it when teaching Islam and suggest they do the same when writing, but don’t insist on it especially when speaking.

Why should non-Muslims do it when writing in RE?

Would you have done it if you had mentioned the prophet Muhammed on this thread? Why?

It is a sign of respect within Islam. It is completely unnecessary outside that religious context.

Hekett · 16/02/2025 09:23

Fine in an RE class.

We did this 25+ years ago. It’s not new.

BeJollyNewt · 16/02/2025 09:11

Kitkat189 · 16/02/2025 02:54

you took that somewhat out of context, I specifically said that this will not be a problem for most people, and that I was interested in the perspective of devout followers of other religions and how they would feel about this. My understanding of ‘peace be upon him’ is that the person uttering the phrase is not just going through motions, it is an expression of a genuine wish. For someone religious, would this be a problem? That would have been interesting to understand.

I am not outraged and I have not even considered raising this with the school, you are confusing my posts with what others have written here. My child is ten years old, of course there is a fair chance that there has been a misunderstanding. That’s why I spoke to some of the other parents, and that’s why I asked here, on this public forum. It helps me if I understand a) what actually happened in our school, and b) what is happening in other schools in this regard. It’s been helpful to read all the replies here and I have nothing further to say on this topic

Edited

op, obviously your first reaction drew the 2 different perspectives and am glad you are not that what looked like in your first post.

some dc are more sweet and they remember what is taught in RE, and them who actually spread the love and piece by reflecting outside the school.
great boy!

BeJollyNewt · 16/02/2025 08:57

UrsulaLongshanksTheFlamingo · 16/02/2025 02:12

? sorry, I don't understand your comment. I don't think the teacher should be asking kids to say 'peace be upon him' ever.

So what happens if they say so for a couple of times a year? will they get brain washed ? isn't that parents does by making these kind of statements?

DoItBetter · 16/02/2025 08:51

liquoricetorpedoes · 15/02/2025 17:04

I teach RS and explain that Muslims say it as a mark of respect and write (pbuh) after the name of a prophet. I do model it when teaching Islam and suggest they do the same when writing, but don’t insist on it especially when speaking.

Do you know it's what Muslims want though? Or are you just assuming that they would like non-Muslims to say it.

WhatDaHell · 16/02/2025 08:23

Oh no, absolutely not

Hoppymclimpy · 16/02/2025 07:39

Retired secondary teacher here. I taught GCSE RE for a number of years. All text books had (pbuh) after Muhammad's name, I'd explain why and use it myself but never expect the students to. It is seen as a sign of respect/deference. When writing, students did put (pbuh) as this was a requirement within the GCSE course- understanding why he's seen with this respect within Islam x

ChompandaGrazia · 16/02/2025 07:13

Kitkat189 · 16/02/2025 02:42

Still here. Really tiresome that you and some other posters see racism in my post. I had a genuine question about something I didn’t fully understand and thanks to some of the replies I am now satisfied with the situation. I wanted to know whether this happens in RE in other schools, particularly as I’d never heard of this with my older children, and it seems the answer is yes. That’s all I wanted to know. If people want to read outrage and racism into my post I can’t change that

Edited

You have made it very clear that you are not racist or have a problem with it. However you must have seen that this would set other people flying off the handle. A cynical person would think that you did this on purpose.