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School is asking children to say ‘peace be upon him’ anytime Mohammed is mentioned

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Kitkat189 · 15/02/2025 16:55

My child’s teacher asks the class to always say ‘peace be upon him’ if the prophet Muhammed is mentioned in RE, for example. Used in a sentence it would be something like ‘Muhammad peace be upon him is the founder of Islam’

The teacher explained that this is to show respect to the Muslims in the class.

This is the first time I’ve ever heard of this. Is there an expectation that non Muslims use this expression? Or is it more of a courtesy? I am guessing the latter?

And if it’s the former, should people be compelled to utter this phrase out of respect? To literally wish peace upon a prophet of a religion they don’t belong to? I realise this is not a problem for the majority of people but out of interest, would a devout follower of another religion have objections to this?

(This is year 6, teacher is not Muslim, there is one Muslim in the class whose family are pretty secular, he told the teacher he doesn’t use this expression himself.)

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ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 15/02/2025 22:01

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 21:54

..like so many things in school, then. Times tables??

I don’t think anyone has a belief system centred around the times tables.

There’s a big difference between rote learning and being forced into expressing something that fits with someone’s beliefs that you don’t share.

Friendproblem123 · 15/02/2025 22:00

Definitely inappropriate. This is the Uk, let’s not pander any more to Muslim minority

ArtTheClown · 15/02/2025 21:55

..like so many things in school, then. Times tables??

Times tables are factual. It's maybe not the best comparison.

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 21:54

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 15/02/2025 21:49

Absolutely nothing, if someone wants to wish someone peace.

It’s being forced / told to say it that’s the problem

..like so many things in school, then. Times tables??

ViolinsPlayGentlyOn · 15/02/2025 21:49

tonyhawks23 · 15/02/2025 21:15

I cant see why on earth that would be a problem! what is wrong with wishing peace?

Absolutely nothing, if someone wants to wish someone peace.

It’s being forced / told to say it that’s the problem

EasternStandard · 15/02/2025 21:40

FOJN · 15/02/2025 20:06

Is it religious education or religious indoctrination?

This is unacceptable and I would speak to the school to nip this in the bud now.

When did freedom of religion tip over into compelled speech for the rest of us?

Agree with this

tonyhawks23 · 15/02/2025 21:15

I cant see why on earth that would be a problem! what is wrong with wishing peace?

ArtTheClown · 15/02/2025 21:08

Apart from anything else I'd feel really silly wishing peace upon a long-dead historical figure that I don't have any personal connection to.

The bigger issue is it's not like making Diwali decorations, it's not just learning about another culture and religion and joining in a bit with an important festival. It's an utterance of belief, and that should be left to the believers.

ImTheOnlyUpsyOne · 15/02/2025 20:54

I'm wondering what makes this particularly a problem?

I've had a hard time on mumsnet before for expressing that my children learn about other religions but because of religious beliefs do not celebrate Xmas or take part in worship at school. Do you have a problem with the children making and lighting candle holder for Diwali for example, or singing a hymn in assembly if you're atheist?
Is it just THIS particular act of of Islamic reverence that is a problem?

mathanxiety · 15/02/2025 20:52

mugglewump · 15/02/2025 17:19

During my teacher training, and in any 'off the shelf' schemes, teachers are instructed to say PBUH after the prophet's name when teaching Islam in RE. This is just a matter of respect and I think it intregues the kids to use it too. The need to do this applies to 2 or 3 lessons in the whole school year and I don't see why the students shouldn't do this too. You would tell children to capitalise God, Christmas and Easter in their writing, so why not ask them to write (pbuh) after the prophet Mohammed?

What about religions that avoid saying the name of God? Should a RE teacher avoid using that word and make sure all the students did too?

What about children who are atheists - should they be encouraged to venerate religious leaders?

Or children who take their own religion seriously? Christians, Buddhists, Hindus, etc?

I'd argue that this mouthing of veneration actually teaches nothing of the spirit of the words, which is after all, the important element. If I were a Muslim I'd be cross about this bone headed exercise.

CassiasC · 15/02/2025 20:52

Winterwonders24 · 15/02/2025 18:05

You can respect without 'going through the motions': personally, I think not just going through the motions us more respectful

Exactly. Not sure why so many posters are equating uttering religious formulas and making the sign of the cross with respect or learning about a religion. Respect is not mocking beliefs, refraining from saying things likely to be unnecessarily offensive, falling in with rules when visiting religious sites - or not visiting them. It is absolutely not, for a non-believer, enacting religious practice, which the examples given in this thread are.

My OH is catholic and crosses himself in Catholic churches. I don’t, because the gesture is meaningless to me and I’m not going to pretend to others I’m something I’m not. I do behave respectfully, however.

BlueSilverCats · 15/02/2025 20:48

In the same vein, would you all protest, withdraw your kids from RE , from the school, complain to Ofsted etc. , after your kid came home and did some mandala/rangoli patterns? Or role played a sikh/buddist/hindu ceremony or ritual? Or mixed some sugar water? Or was chosen as Mary/Joseph/angel in the nativity and you're an atheist?

SnipSnipMrBurgess · 15/02/2025 20:46

Wind em up and watch em go eh OP?

mathanxiety · 15/02/2025 20:46

Some religions avoid using the name of God - is this to happen in the classroom too?

mathanxiety · 15/02/2025 20:45

What is expected of the students when other religions are mentioned? The sign of the Cross? Bowing heads?

Sounds as if the teacher hasn't thought this one all the way through.

FOJN · 15/02/2025 20:45

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 20:31

How is it disrespectful to show respect? Losing the will to live here. I have Buddhist friends do from other countries who out their hands together and pray in an Anglican Church a s a sign of respect that they acknowledge Christian’s’ belief. I taught RE thirty years ago and pbuh was standard. nothing new here.

I imagine it's their personal choice to both perform that ritual and to enter an Anglican church. If it's a choice freely made by them then it's no one else's business.

If they were to insist that other people, who may not share their belief in what constitutes respectful behaviour, did it then it would be a different matter.

Freedom of religion and belief is freedom to believe or not to believe. I would never disrupt anyone else's religious practice but I don't feel it's disrespectful if I don't join in.

Naunet · 15/02/2025 20:36

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 20:31

How is it disrespectful to show respect? Losing the will to live here. I have Buddhist friends do from other countries who out their hands together and pray in an Anglican Church a s a sign of respect that they acknowledge Christian’s’ belief. I taught RE thirty years ago and pbuh was standard. nothing new here.

Would it be respectful towards atheists, to make everyone religious say "Gods dont exist"? Being respectful doesn't equal forced speech, being respectful means allowing others to believe what they wish without harassment, and that goes in all directions.

BlueSilverCats · 15/02/2025 20:35

@vi0letfemme what form does this forcing take?

What did the teacher actually say?

Is there a consequence for not saying pbuh? Do they get told off? Their answer ignored until they say it properly? Miss play time?

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 20:33

Cryingatthegym · 15/02/2025 18:38

I'm white British and not religious in the slightest but I would always say PBUH if I happened to mention the prophet Muhammed, not that he comes up in conversation often. I thought it was just polite. This wouldn't bother me at all.

A thoughtful and considered response.

Superhansrantowindsor · 15/02/2025 20:32

It is not appropriate. Just like it wouldn’t be appropriate to make kids say amen or similar if not a religious school.
RE should be about teaching what people believe and how they worship etc. you should not have to participate in any aspect of any persons religion. If a kid in the class wants to say it then that’s absolutely fine imo.

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 20:32

NZDreaming · 15/02/2025 18:34

I remember talking about Islam during RE class in yr 5 back in the late 90’s. The teacher explained about the Quran being placed higher than any other book as a mark of respect, so the copy she brought in to show us was placed up high and covered with an ornate cloth. She explained about saying peace be upon him, she said this every time she said the name but I don’t recall the children being asked to do the same. A basic understanding of Islam was taught just as Christianity and Judaism was. This was in a very white southern English village, no one was upset or outraged.

I know people in America and was really surprised that RE is not taught as standard in most schools (state dependent) so kids get no understanding of different beliefs and cultures which I think is a massive shame, it just leads to ignorance of others.

Personally I think you are overreacting, look at it as saying ‘peace be upon him’ as his surname if it makes you feel better. No one is indoctrinating or pushing beliefs, it’s just education.

Totally agree

mrpenny · 15/02/2025 20:31

HoppityBun · 15/02/2025 20:05

But @Anonym00se who are you praying to? Religion is about sincerity, not pretending. I think of it as being disrespectful and insincere to go through the motions.

How is it disrespectful to show respect? Losing the will to live here. I have Buddhist friends do from other countries who out their hands together and pray in an Anglican Church a s a sign of respect that they acknowledge Christian’s’ belief. I taught RE thirty years ago and pbuh was standard. nothing new here.

LoveFridaynight · 15/02/2025 20:25

NeverDropYourMooncup · 15/02/2025 19:46

I didn't even take RE for GCSE (there was far too much emphasis in the syllabus upon Christianity in my opinion), but I already knew this was the appropriate way to refer to him, which means at the very latest, we would have been taught this in Spring 1986.

Maybe at some schools but we absolutely didn't learn this at my school. The GCSE was very new at my school too (we were the first year able to take RE at GCSE). Plus I remember doing a lot more about the moral than the religious side. It is possible for the curriculum to change.

LilacLilias · 15/02/2025 20:25

Zebedee999 · 15/02/2025 17:19

Report to OFSTED, it is not appropriate to force the veneration of the founder of such a misogynistic religion.

I was just having visions of what RE class would look like if every time any religion was mentioned they acted briefly like a devout observer.

Edit - sorry no idea how I quoted the wrong post! Was replying to pp talking about pupils crossing themselves.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 15/02/2025 20:24

Not quite the same, I know, but quite often when I go into a dark room and switch on the light, I say (to myself),

"Let there be light, and there was light."

and, I have to admit that inside, I feel quite pleased with myself. 🤫