Going all out for your kids on valentines day

The thing is it’s never too early to teach kids about subjects that matter and will help them to be a healthy minded, healthy bodied and responsible adult.

Things like healthy eating, looking after the environment, over buying wasteful products and animal welfare can all be taught in an age appropriate way.

Lots of people would rather go down the wasteful route and live a social media life or create lots of cheap dopamine hits for their kids.

It’s ok do what suits your family and your goals in life. We don’t have to say yes to every trend or everything on sale.

We bought our child a 90p bag of chocolate love heart coins and a card and he was made up. He made a card at nursery.

Is it that you’d like to do it but for a reason such as you can’t afford it, you don’t? Or is it you don’t think it should be a thing?

Personally, I think it’s a bit cringe, I saw so many tiktoks of mums decorating the whole house and giving so many presents as if it was their birthday and I was so baffled.

I will admit I do go a little overboard with some holidays like an easter basket alongside their egg (new outfit, easter book, new craft) and a christmas eve box (new pjs, choc, christmas book, christmas plate, crafts, 1 toy, teddy) but I think for Valentines it’s a bit ridiculous.

I would question if the friend is really a friend

Yay!!!!!😂

It's all chavtastic!

I hope no one on this thread criticising parents for doing things for their children on Valentine's day posts those awful Christmas pictures of their kids with a pile of presents under the tree filling the whole room. Because quite frankly if you do, you don't have a leg to stand on. It's just different iterations of dreadfulness.

We are not American. I think it’s because of the way that most of the mums don’t actually do anything, they “work” 4 hours a week as a yoga instructor or something and mostly live of their DHs money. They have nothing to do all day but spend it and shove pictures on Facebook making those of us that aren’t “perfect mummies” feel inferior

We are not American. I think it’s because of the way that most of the mums don’t actually do anything, they “work” 4 hours a week as a yoga instructor or something and mostly live of their DHs money. They have nothing to do all day but spend it and shove pictures on Facebook making those of us that aren’t “perfect mummies” feel inferior

There wasn’t a single thing on my news feed about parents doing things for their kids on Valentine’s Day. I’d be looking at who you’re friends with as all of my friends know this is ridiculous, hence we’re friends!

This is very normal to me. I use social media very sparingly, to update family and friends as I moved away. I can only ever get 13 likes as I have a private profile and 13 followers. Some of these people will be busy and not see or engage with my posts, so some probably have fewer than 13 likes. It has never occurred to me to even check!

Though I am also over 40.

Blimey, I’ve not seen a single post on my social media about parents doing valentines stuff for their kids!

DH is away and I got the kids a £4 Teddy and a pack of love hearts, a spontaneous thing from near the checkout at Tesco. They often get little teddies and/or sweets so that was just a fairly normal little treat.

Like getting pissed and having casual sex? I find that quite fun, as do many women I know (OK, knew 😀).

Applying anything to do with Valentines’ day to children is deeply inappropriate. The whole idea, which I’d never heard of before this thread, gives me the creeps.

Oh yuk! What spectacularly downmarket behaviour.

I’ll say what many may be thinking: is this a class thing? Or American? 🙄

I think it’s just symptomatic of the overly child centric society we live in, that children must not be excluded from anything that is fun for adults.

I would actually pity this woman!!

If anyone had tried to make me feel guilty about not roping my children into Valentine’s Day, I’d have told them that I think it’s totally inappropriate for an adult to send Valentine gifts to children, and sends a very mixed message about adult/child relationships.

Don’t let it get to you. If some people want to make a big show then they can, if others don’t it’s also fine.

my teenage dd and her boyfriend brought each other stuff with their own money from their part time jobs. I wouldn’t be getting involved in any of that. DH and I brought ourselves a box of chocolates to share and stuffed them down our faces in bed. Who says romance is dead eh? We don’t go in for a big show on one specific day.

for what it’s worth. Only one person on my social media feed appeared to go beyond the standard flowers and chocolates. They’re very much trying to become an influencer and live their Instagram life, so I didn’t give it any thought.

Just come off social media, I hadn't heard anything of this until someone mentioned it on MN. I don't know why you'd feel guilty - it's clearly ridiculous.

This!

I totally agree with you...but don't feel bad..just get off socials

Ooh fab I could get into that!

Talked to my 19 year old at uni and she said you wouldn't know it was Valentine's Day. I mean it's nice if you are in a romantic relationship but otherwise it's a non event.