To report what a comedian said to me 6 years ago

You haven’t overreacted. I would’ve felt and reacted exactly as you did, and that’s ok. It’s not an overreaction it’s how you feel.
It wasn’t SA so it’s not a police matter, and the hotel likely won’t care because it was so long ago.
I would strike it down to a bad experience and move on. You can swerve that hotel / group of hotels in future.
No you shouldn’t have felt flattered if that isn’t the kinda of commentary that makes you feel flattered. You’re not required to be appreciative of any attention simply because it came from a male.
If anything, your colleagues sound like a bunch of arseholes for not coming to see if you’re ok.

I think the complaint at the time should've been levied at a company who thought it was ok to book this for a work occasion, the male colleagues who engaged with sexually harassing you and the management who did nothing to follow up if you were ok. You probably would've had grounds for constructive dismissal.

This wasn't okay and you did not 'over react'.

Disgusting misogynistic unfunny and sad little prick of a bloke.

If he is still performing at that hotel I would definitely complain to the hotel in writing/e-mail and leave reviews on Google or whatever else as someone suggested upthread.

I hate those kind of shows where audience members are picked on and ridiculed whilst the audience laugh. Whilst it wasn’t nice, I think you should have complained at the time rather than years later. They won’t do anything, so i’d just try and put it behind you.

I would give him a review saying he was unfunny, really picked on people, mocked their appearance and made sexually offensive jokes about them and again, none of it was remotely funny and the audience hated it which made for a bad atmosphere and a crap night out . That will give other people who also hate that sort of thing a heads up and is honest and deserved. Your timescale is personal, you're ready to act now so do it!

OP , you haven't over reacted and never have to feel flattered by a disgusting pervert comedian who likes to make crude jokes to make himself look like the man !

I can relate to how you're feeling, OP, I can still remember when I was a student having some horrible things said to me and my friend by a comedian in a pub in Dublin (comments about our breasts, a 'joke' about raping us, he tried to pull us up onto stage to slap our arses but I absolutely refused to move and then he called me a prude). I should've said something to the venue on the day but I was too upset and just wanted out of there by the end of it. I don't know if that was this guys schtick (it was a pretty small room, he was one of four or five acts on that night), maybe it was just par for the course and if we'd been in the smartphone era I'd have Googled him and realised.

That being said, it's really up to you whether you report it - personally I would just leave a review somewhere and try to move on, but you may feel you need to do more than that for your own peace of mind.

What could happen is that they become more aware that this guy is upsetting some of their guests, and the next time someone complains, they take it more seriously.

OP, I absolutely think it is worth telling the hotel what happened. There won't be any 'outcome' as such, but it raises their awareness.

It has obviously had a deep and lasting impact on you, and it was bullying, misogynistic and just really fucking unpleasant.

If someone else comes forward in future and says the same, it gradually builds a picture. (Or, you never know, there might already be a history of past complaints that you are adding to).

Do you think reporting/complaining will help you emotionally?
The most important thing here is your emotional wellbeing. I'm pretty sure rhe hotel know exactly how disgusting this guys act is... Will they take a complaint after this time seriously? And an online review could be deleted .

Hopefully the ride is turning against this "comedians". If you have to belittle people, you aren't funny or talented, just a bully.

I think you should actually contemplate emaillling his agent and threaten to go to the media. This is absolutely not okay. Has anyone from work contacted you since? I'm so very sorry this happened to you.

Sorry this happened to you and your colleagues were so horrible. Interestingly the law on sexual harassment at work is changing and it’s no longer enough for firms to be reactive to sexual harassment type behaviour - they have to actively have a plan to try and prevent it. I had to do some e-learning this week.
Not much good now but that company could have been in breach if managers were aware you had been harassed in front of managers and not supported. Even if you didn’t complain at the time.
Definitely not one for the Police!

It might not be illegal but it wad very offensive.
Complain....even if it comes to nothing you will have let off some steam..I bet all the naysayers on here would complain about a lot less.

@Redspottyfrog

Of course you can report it. For all you know, a lot of other women have too and you would be adding to a history of complaints against him. At the very least you will feel you've done something. Write a calm factual account of what happened and send it to the hotel management. If you can find out who his agent is, send a copy to him too. He sounds vile-I am sorry this happened to you.

I think if I were you, I would write a stinking review of his 'comedy' either on the hotel website or on FB etc. I have done this and thousands of people see these reviews.

He sounds vile. If he's still working at the hotel you could write to them and say what happened. You don't need to mention when it was. Give your feedback to add to other possible complaints/feedback and eventually they may consider booking someone else. Also reviews if he has any social media. He sounds like a misogynist who enjoys humiliating women - that feedback is pretty blunt but true and there's no reason he shouldn't hear it, as should the people who pay him to do it.

This is a good idea. Have a chat with someone who can help you put it in perspective ❤️

That’s revolting OP and I’m disgusted none of your colleagues stood up for you. I would have been mortified if this happened to me, and it would have played on my mind for years. I cannot beleive those men ‘joined in’ by getting on stage- talk about herd mentality. As a manager (and colleague!) I’d of complained myself if this had happened to a member of my staff!!!

It’s likely too late to complain and without evidence (unless it’s in his weekly gig!) it’d be hard to prove. Perhaps you could send him a message but it’s unlikely to change anything.

Im sorry that happened to you.

Unfortunately this is the sort of thing that comedians do at work dos. A number of years ago my work had a famous (female) comedian who who was shockingly crude - most of the company loved a rude joke, but this woman left everyone's jaw hanging open. I was near the front with my DH (who also worked there) and she chose me to pick on a lot and it was horrible.

But I really don't think you can complain. The hotel won't have hired him it'll have been your company who did - and I doubt they knew he'd be that bad.

You didn't over react at all

He was disgusting

But you needed to complain at the time

You chose not to (and I understand why) but its too late now

I'd learn from this and should something similar happen again - roar!

He was vile to humiliate you like that.
You did not overreact at all and I’m glad you walked out.
You might start by getting advice from a sexual abuse helpline as it still upsets you so much. He didn’t touch you but his words were a kind of violation.

Honestly, what do you think the hotel will say now about it? other than saying to the OP contact the police genuinely what outcome do you think actually will happen?

Gosh how awful. Personally I would report it to the hotel, just for my own peace of mind, and to have it on the record somewhere. You can just be factual and matter of fact about it. And as long as you aren't tied to a specifc outcome, why not. Proof is not really the point, it's honouring yourself and making a stand. Good luck.

It sounds like he was the sort of 'comedian' who told those sort of 'jokes'. There were several of them around back then, unfortunately. Most of the audience would be expecting it so I don't think complaining about it would help.

I don’t think you can report it. Doesn’t sound illegal just not nice and what would a hotel do about something from 6 years ago.

You’re not overreacting at all. I would find this incredibly upsetting. You could contact the hotel to say, “I’m not sure if this is still part of his act, but this happened years ago and still really upsets me.”