To think we overthink parenting these days??

fully agree. Spoilt, dramatic and entitled. Bet they will come crawling back when their parents are dead and want the inheritance.
NC used to be for the most heinous of 'offences'. Now people are going NC over silly differences of opinion (usually when a partner is involved)

I would argue that the comparison between parent/child and coworker relationship is closer than the one you made. That's because there actually is a relationship with someone you know and you will actually have to deal with the consequences of yelling. Nobody yells at a coworker to get them to do something, and if they do they will end up in HR.

Yes it was the Jesuits

I did cloth nappies and some "baby wearing" 10+ years ago and found a lot of the "attachment style" crunchy parenting in the fb groups ridiculously idealistic, guilt inducing and not very grounded in reality. Fortunately instagram was not a thing then (and I hadn't made it to a smart phone). I also worked with young people which gave me a lot of confidence in what were reasonable expectations of children and how to manage behaviour.

I needed to hear that today. Someone in a local mums group chat just suggested making a photo book of yourself and your baby nursing to gently wean them off breastfeeding and everyone was suggesting different books like “bye bye nursie” or something like that. I was beginning to feel like a terrible mother because we just stopped.

Is that Aristotle? I always thought it was the Jesuits.

I’m with you, OP. And laughing at “what’s your plan here?” When the child is teetering off the edge of a cliff, running towards stinging nettles, whacking their baby brother etc.

I am not arguing for it. But don't try and argue against it by saying adults do not yell at adults like someone has. Argue it from a perspective of what you think is right or effective.

And would you try and build a friendship with someone like that for example? If not, why and how are children supposed to continue put up with that from their main caregiver, whilst being totally helpless?

Although I often see things on here which make it clear the commenter has lived a pretty narrow life e.g. OMG the school are controlling when kids go to the toilet, no adult gets treated like this. When it is commonplace in minimum wage jobs to have to ask to go to the toilet and have restrictions.

I totally agree.

I used to research parenting styles and choices quite obsessively after my first child. Any decision I made would only come after hours spent on the internet, I thought this was a good parenting move.

It took me a while to realise that it was making me miserable. It seems impossible to make an informed decision when all the research and advice seems to contradict each other. Then there are some quite extreme methods and views out there which made me feel so guilty about being a normal, imperfect parent, which I imagine most of us are.

I try not to get bogged down in the research these days. I know my values and the values I'd like my children to have. I know firm boundaries help children to feel safe. I know that communication and unconditional love is key. Most of the time we do well. Sometimes things get a bit chaotic, sometimes there is a bit too much screen time, sometimes I'm a bit too shouty - but we always come back to our main family values.

I think learning to trust yourself is an important part of the process. Sometimes the overwhelming amount of information out there can mean you lose autonomy without realising. I also think we sometimes stop seeing the child who is in front of us when we rely too heavily on the internet for parenting inspiration.

It is pretty much part of the job. Sure people can get banned from the shop for example, but it is common place.

Or perhaps you don’t. If you think that shouting at people is acceptable.

And it's considered harassment.

There are ways to do gentle parenting but it needs to be combined with making sure you provide your kids with practical and emotional skills.
I'm not the perfect parents by any means but I have used some gentle parenting (never punish my dc, validate their feelings) with some authoritative parenting (have to help with chores, clean rooms, no rudeness tolerated) which has allowed a good balance where dc are well mannered, fair, with a good work ethic and good friends.
My eldest mentioned the other day that if I'd been more strict, maybe he would've done better at school like his friends who's parents go ballistic if they don't get an A. (He's doing fine at University so I'm not sure if it was one of those jokes of truth)
You can't win as parents

Sometimes parenting experts are simply famous people (or people who would like to be famous) with kids. It’s amazing how much attention and money they make out of that con.

Yanbu
Stop engaging with parenting accounts and spend some time teaching the algorithm what kind of stuff you want to see. Mine is recipes, gardening, funny pets and kids, fan pages of programmes I like.. Recently I got hooked on those Reddit story reposts so had to teach the algorithm not to show them.

Not allowing screens, though highly commendable, is definitely not normal! I literally don't know any children over age 2 who don't either watch some TV or have a tablet (usually both)

Those saying adults do not yell at each other have never worked with the public in a minimum wage job.

On what do you base this assertion?
I disagree - I know loads of people in their 20s and 30s who go on holiday with parents, phone them daily and have really good, close relationships. This wasn't really the case with gen x - you stopped going on holiday with parents at 16 and the relationship is generally more distant.
Going NC is an extreme - I don't know anyone of any age like that although you hear it on MN a lot

To be fair that depends entirely on the child. If you have one that plays quietly in their room that's great. One of mine used to wake up screaming hysterically. The options were either get up with him or lock his door and listen to him scream and try to get out for an hour. We don't have locks on the bedroom doors anyway so there was no way to make him stay in there. I think it's easy to be smug about your superior parenting when you happen to haha child who's biddable and will respond to what you tell them.

I doubt you are receptive towards this, but they go NC because they know their worth more than any other generation before. They know to leave behind what has caused them great pain and cannot be fixed instead of continuing a relationship and never being able to be truly themselves. In other words: they leave behind emotionally immature parents.

I think a lot of the "parenting experts" on social media have kids that are under the age of 5. I would be very interested to see what their kids are like as teens or as adults.

This generation of young adults are the most likely to go NC on their parents. The ones who were brought up with gentle parenting.

I don't think you know what abuse is.

Not criticising you personally but I don't think you can judge until they're adults. If they are 45, happy in life and career, and still wanting see you, you've done it right.