AIBU to consider giving birth alone?

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mumofboysinlondon · 13/02/2025 18:50

I am pregnant with my third child, two existing kids are 1.5 and 4.

My problem is - what do I do with my kids when I give birth?

Family support is either non-existent, too elderly or too far away to be helpful.

We live in an area of London where people tend to move on quickly and sadly we’ve lost our really good local friends in the past couple of years. We have acquaintances, but no one I’d ask to take my kids in the middle of the night, if it came to it.

I’m planning a home birth and my hope is either the kids will be out at childcare or it will happen overnight (and quickly) so they won’t know anything about it. This is what happened with #2 so no problems.

At this stage I think it would be less stressful to plan for my husband not to be there. I just have no idea what we’ll do if the kids are at home and I need to go to hospital.

Anyone else ever done this/ in the same boat?

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Nonsense10 · 13/02/2025 18:58

I've given birth 3 times by myself. Plan on giving birth to my forth alone too.

Husband had our other children. First time I had to go into theatre, 2nd and 3rd he had our children.

Favouritefruits · 13/02/2025 18:58

I think it’s your only solution to be honest, people don’t understand not having family support… it tough! Good luck I hope it happens at the perfect time!

ToKittyornottoKitty · 13/02/2025 18:58

Completelyjo · 13/02/2025 18:56

Where do you expect your husband to go while you’re labouring or giving birth at home?

Edited

I think you’ve misunderstood really.

Completelyjo · 13/02/2025 18:56

Where do you expect your husband to go while you’re labouring or giving birth at home?

TickingAlongNicely · 13/02/2025 18:54

That was my plan but a neighbour (that had a similar aged toddler) offered to have DD last minute.

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