Blanked him after he cancelled our date, AIBU?

End it without the drama - it's not working so I don't want to continue with the relationship.

I’d have probably dealt with it same as you . If he can’t be bothered to make the effort it doesn’t bode well . I’d bin him and find someone who’s actually interested in spending time with you .

It sounds like he needed some time for his own wellbeing/mental health.

He explained.
He suggested an alternative day.
He didn't demand/assume you could do an alternative day, he asked.
He suggested an alternative plan for you as well because he didn't want you to be disappointed at missing out.
He apologised.

There was literally nothing more he could do, outside of maybe sending flowers but he probably had that planned for Valentine's anyway.

I don't think there's anything bad here and if you hadn't thrown all your toys out the pram you'd be looking forward to breakfast with him tomorrow.

It says more about you than him tbh, if you react like that every time a plan needs to be rearranged.

I'd bin him, and have done so for less

Do you want a casual shag who you see when you can both be bothered or do you want someone who adores you and would walk over broken glass to spend some time with you, especially if he wasn't going to see you again for over a week.

I couldn’t imagine anything worse than going out for breakfast between the school run and starting work!
Either way it’s fine to move on if it’s not working for you but yeah to just blank him going forward does make you a dick.

In a year's time he will be putting in even less effort, I know you're feeling sad but it's best to let it go and move on from him.

I agree you shouldn’t of blanked him that was childish of you but a convo needs to be had.

Whar sort of conversation do you mean. You need to end it. Not try to get him to treat you better, thay doesn’t work and he won’t respect you for it.

Match his energy!

I’m telling you as a mum who also suffers with anxiety and low moods that he isn’t into you the same you are him. Regardless, you always make the effort or want to see your partner. Of course they’ll be occasions like being sick that cant be helped. But he isn’t into you enough to make the effort.

Cancelling on your girlfriend just before you’re meant to meet because you basically cba and would rather chill at home… he obviously hasn’t got time for a girlfriend yet and mentally needs to be alone.

If this isn’t the first time either I would probably end things.

6 months is more than enough time to know if a relationship's working for you.
It isn't, so the sooner you bin him off, the better.
If he expects you to explain why, he's even worse than he seems, so I'd just go with the "this isn't working for me" line.

He's into you when you are there with him but he doesn't want to put in effort to get you there, he wants you to do the work, you aren't a priority, put yourself first and get rid of him.

Neither of you seem particularly fussed. He couldn't meet today, you then childishly blank him when he does walk over your way.

Don't think this is going anywhere so call it a day

You sound like a 5 year old. It's clearly not working out.

Yeah I'd find that negativity and low effort/energy and general attitude quite a turn off, I don't blame you for feeling unappreciated

If he was really into you he would have made it happen this morning. I couldn't be bothered with him, cannot stand flaky people.

I'm not sure I would ever feel like a "valentine's breakfast" though but knowing that am highly unlikely to ever arrange one.

He text me later on saying he'd look out for me on my way home from work.
Well when I did see him and he started to walk over to me I just carried on walking, I know he clocked me and will probably think I've been really rude.

This ^ does sound really childish, and it makes you somewhat unreasonable.

But I would be really angry at him cancelling regularly, when there wasn't an actual emergency.
YANBU to be angry with him and give some real consideration as to if this is the way you want to be treated the rest of your life.

I dumped someone once because he was constantly late. I certainly wouldn't put up with someone cancelling because they 'couldn't be bothered' on a regular basis, when we'd made an arrangement to meet up.

YANBU to be upset by his behaviour but YABU to ignore him as a way of signalling your annoyance.

He can't be arsed to make the effort so you need to just tell him this isn't working for you and you don't want to see him again.

Hoping he will get the message by ignoring him is a bit childish and not taking responsibility for yourself.

You can't change him but you don't have to put up with being treated like this. Calmly tell him it's over, mean it and move on.

Could you both not do Friday night? I do wonder if he’s a bit lacklustre because it seems like you are too busy too? No idea only you know. I wouldn’t think breakfast on a Thursday morning very romantic. Whatever the reason it seems a mismatch

He is showing you how a future with him would be so either put up with it or end it. It really is that simple. Act like an adult and tell him it is over and be truthful about why if he asks.

I think he behaved badly he’s not making an effort and can’t be bothered, that’s never nice to experience, but I think it was immature and petty to ignore him. Instead of having a grown up conversation. You both need to end it, it clearly doesn’t work.

Oh God I hate it when men do this. It's an instant ick for me now!

He has form for cancelling at short notice because he is tired or can't be bothered?

Six months in having a friend or partner who would rather sit on the couch at home than see me because he can't be bothered is not a partner or friend I would want to spend much more of my time on.

I wouldn't have blanked him but I don't blame you for doing it. If you are angry with someone it's best to get some space and perspective than have a row in public - and dumping someone in the street leading to a dramatic scene out of Corrie would be the worst.