Blanked him after he cancelled our date, AIBU?

By being so accommodating you have let him believe he can always prioritise his own wants and needs without any negative comeback on him. He's probably going to think your reaction today is a you problem and you are being unfair to him because how is he supposed to know him cancelling on you this time was such a big deal. Blah blah blah. If you want this relationship to continue, you need to tell him how you expect to be treated. If he can't do that, then he is not the one for you. You need to know your boundaries and not be afraid to express them. Because unless you speak up, people will continue to treat you the way you allow them to treat you.

Any chance he cancels when there's no chance he can get his leg over op?

So first Valentines and he can't be arsed ( today was the compromise because Fridays are tricky for you)?
Anyone can spend money but it's time and thought that counts.

Someone on here always says it will be the thing that annoys you most about them in the beginning, is the thing that will break you up in the end.

I also thought it was a strange time of day, whose idea was it?

There are 3 doors here @Sadorpetty

Door A

Hi John. The repeated cancelling at short notice is getting old. I’m just not that into in you to be messed around in this way so I think it’s time we call it a day.

Door B

Hi John. I was upset when you cancelled again at short notice for no apparent good reason. I’m not prepared to go on in this way so over to you. Do you want to talk about this as if we’re going to continue to see each other this has to change.

Door C

Hi John. Sorry not to stop to talk this evening. In all honesty I was hacked off that you cancelled again at short notice but all good now. See you next Friday.

which one feels most inviting to you? Open that one and see where it takes you.

Dump him. He’s not as invested in your relationship as you are - it’s mismatched and unlikely to change later if he can’t put more energy in the first 6 months

"if he wanted to be there, he would have been"
I think that's applicable to so many different situations where we make excuses for people's bad behavior. It's rare for anyone to be too busy to do something they really want to do or spend time with someone they truly care about. It's rare for someone to be too broke to buy a gift or pay for something if it's really important to them. If a person wants something bad enough, they find a way. If they're only willing to do it when it's easy and convenient, then it's not important to them.

I'm sorry to read that you have or had such low self esteem to have continued this far in the relationship. Nothing wrong with being single, and someone who lacks basic decency should be dumped straight away.

Hope you can find a man who is better and is for you.

There is a pattern of me putting in more effort and energy than he does and I'm just tired of it.

The problem is OP, you aren’t tired enough of it, not quite yet. What will it take ?
If he came grovelling an apology, I think you would still want it to all just magically work out with one more chance given.
You admit he has form, so, let that be enough for you.
Have a proper conversation with him now you have calmed down, and resolve to end it decently.

Bin him off.

Yes get rid. I have done this recently for similar reasons. It was hard but also quite empowering! And easier to get out of the relationship earlier rather than later - when they show you who they are, believe them. This then creates space for the right person to come along. You deserve better OP. Sending love and hugs xx

If he wanted to be there, he would have been. Trust your instincts and don’t waste any more head space.

He isn't worth the time and energy it took for you to type out your post.
Life is too short, you deserve better, move on.

He also could have put SOME effort in still. He could have suggested they order some breakfast instead/he picks something up on way back from school run and spend time together at his house.

He could have spoken to OP about how tired he is and maybe she would have offered to grab some coffees and just go relax with him for a bit.

It was just a straight up “too tired, sorry” with no fucks given that he can’t see her for another ten days.

Then he shouldn't have asked her to breakfast

He also cancelled on her three days ago.

He suggested tomorrow as an alternative AND he tried to walk over to her tonight and was blanked.

He is clearly making some effort but none of it seems good enough for OP yet she is still wondering when she will hear from him. I would stop bothering after being blanked.

Twice in a week?? Bye! Cheeky sod.

It’d be a short text and block from me.

Ok but he was knackered and was dealing with kids and work. Yes it is disappointing, but it’s clear the ignoring him when he found you as he said he would was really shitty, I’d bin for that but not for the cancelling as he found be later.

i don’t think you’re going to end it, I think you’re going to try to explain and apologise so he doesn’t end it.

For me the short notice cancellation is annoying but potentially understandable as a single parent with school runs and work etc.

This situation is very different though. I think the fact that he literally cancelled because he just couldn’t be arsed and wanted to chill before work, knowing doing so also means he can’t see you for another 10 days, is a joke.

You have made him a priority and he has made you an option. Go find yourself a man that makes you the priority.

That’s fine but he shouldn’t waste OP’s time and potential to be with a person who’s ready to date. He should break up and stay single until he’s ready.

I agree a conversation has to be had.

I disagree. By childishly blanking him you have told him very clearly that you are done.

Should he get in touch, just tell him "this isn't working for me - I'm done".

He’s clearly burnt out and needed some time for himself - Nothing wrong with that at all.

You’ve acted unfairly by sulking.

If it’s not fun, it’s not worth it. It’s a new relationship OP, it isn’t going to be what you are looking for, better you know now.

That's fine if you don't work like that, but I couldn't be in a relationship with someone like you if a minor mood change means you'll cancel last minute on something I was looking forward to. Hence why I told op to find someone willing to put in the same effort, you would be a better match with op's boyfriend than her if you're happy that's acceptable behaviour. It's not acceptable to her, so she needs someone who matches her effort

Tell him you don't think this is working out so you think it's best to call it a day.

Then block him.