Blanked him after he cancelled our date, AIBU?

I wouldn’t have pretended I hadn’t seen him.. I’d have gone over to him and told him to jog on and stop wasting my time.

YANBU as long as you follow up by ending the relationship. Repeatedly fobbing you off like that tells you that he doesn’t care about you as much as you do him, and it isn’t the sort of behavior that improves as a relationship progresses.

But within the context of a relationship, one partner pretending the other is invisible when they’re angry is just toxic. So don’t choose to stay in a relationship where that sort of thing seems like your best option - if you stay in this then your behavior is unreasonable.

It was a childish move on your part OP. Maybe he genuinely felt bad this morning? It sounds like it’s part of a pattern though, so if it’s not working, stop trying and end it. Life is too short to be miserable.

He could have invited you there if he was tired etc and just bought breakfast for home. I would be disappointed too. I would see how he plays it now and makes up for it. But offering day/time you can’t do is unrealistic. I feel your pain I have the same juggle with kids, life and feel I end up making more effort.

Would you be gutted if he doesn't contact you?

Yes I think throw this one back. The blanking him wasn’t necessary but I understand why you did it. Now to have a conversation to explain you want to end things and why. Just be factual and not accusing. Who knows what is going on his head. But you can only respond to what you see ie his behaviour. You can end it with dignity and move on. You deserve better.

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Tell the berk to f**k off

It's hard to know whether this is an issue of both of you having such busy lives that you haven't got enough time to devote to the relationship or whether he doesn't really care enough.

Fair enough, but a couple of evenings ago OP was on her way to meet him and he cancelled because his brother wanted a favour of some kind. This kind of behaviour is not limited to him being optimistic about how much he can get done in the morning. And this was supposed to be their valentine's day celebration.

Just send him packing for his low ball effort.

Not first time he's done this.

He's telling you by action how much he respects you and your time.

He's used to you being completely accommodating to his flakiness, so I bet he's had a bit of a shock at you just strolling on!

I would ignore him until he messages you and then say he has let you down twice in a week and you deserve more, I would guess he wont send you flowers tomorrow and you deserve more than being told he feels like shit,

Him cancelling your date when you were already on your way over is bloody rude. And the emergency was a favour for his brother? Nope.

All he deserves is a text to say that you're done. You really don't need to have a conversation about this.

Cut your losses - it won't get any better. I would say - I don't think this relationship is working for me . You don't need to give him anymore of an explanation than that. If he wants to know say - you're a bit unreliable - I have started to find that irritating - it is early days so time to draw a line under it.

I think it's called breadcrumbing if I'm not mistaken. just giving you enough to keep you involved. He doesn't seem worth your time tbh

The had to something with his brother is particularly rubbish. I’d he seeing other people? Keeping his options open?
I’d get rid. He doesn’t care enough.

Dump him, you will be happier and block him straight after

While walking off and blanking him wasn't the most mature, effort (by both parties) at the beginning of a relationship very much indicates the real amount of keenness and how things are likely to be down the line (and things won't get better). I think with the cancellations, you've got your answer, really.

Blanking him in the street was really rude. Just have a grown up conversation with the guy.

The multiple last minute cancels would drive me to distraction! I dont think you wbu , it’s not like you deliberately set out to blank him, it was just the best course of action in the moment. I’d say he’s had his chance and I’d cut it off now. It doesn’t really matter whether he has genuine reasons or he’s just not that bothered about seeing you but it doesn’t work for you to be messed around this much.

If you're at the point of ignoring him in the street already, I'd say you're not really in much of a relationship.

she just needs to realise he isn't that bothered and she doesn't need to keep making an effort.

OP have you ever had a relationship where someone made you feel great?
It does come over as if you accept the crumbs rather than the full loaf.

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I think you'd find reading Women Who Love Too Much by Dr Robyn Norwood useful.

He text me later on saying he'd look out for me on my way home from work.
Well when I did see him and he started to walk over to me I just carried on walking, I know he clocked me and will probably think I've been really rude.

Oh dear.

You sound as bad as each other.

I don't know what you mean by him watching out for you, clocking you, and you ignoring him- was he hanging around the street or your place of work?

Whichever, you both sound like kids and not ready to date anyone.

He sounds lazy and you sound childish with poor boundaries.

Just end it and do yourselves a favour.