To be devastated about this minor thing...

Im not sorry that i had him young no regrets at all i enjoyed every bit of it.
I bounced back quite fast after a c-section lost my baby weight and got on with it.
It worked out for me i now have no responsibility only for me my son as moved out and getting on with his life.
Im free so no regrets and i would never look down on anyone that as had a baby young and choose to keep it.

The person she’s responding to (it’s in the quote history) said Im 38 and my child is 22 in may

38-22 = 16

(Also, 55 - 29 is actually 26.)

Read the thread. it was lighthearted. In the same way me and other posters are “devastated” that no-one asks for ID any more ;)

🤦🏻‍♀️ The poster this person is responding to is 38 and has a 22 year old.

It made my day when someone on the bus, bemoaning her age said ”wait till you get to 70”
I said, I’m seven years older than you!

Eh? You do know that 55 minus 29 is 21? I mean 21 is young to have a baby these days but saying that you’re sorry OP had a teenage pregnancy? Wtf?

FWIW my parents were 20 and 23 respectively when they had me and my sister. That was the norm back then.

The last person who said I didn't look my age was a chap who was running alongside me at running club in the dark ie. he couldn't actually see my face!

I took it.

I'm 54 - pretty sure my face and hair says exactly that. I am in good physical shape. I have a 25 year old and I pretty sure no one questions whether I'm his Mum or not. I also have a 15 year old and sometimes feel like 'an older Mum' when I'm with him.

Oh actually, someone was really surprised I was over 50 (she saw a race result where I was in the female vet 50 category). That was quite nice as it was genuine and just off the cuff.

Even if you look 5 years younger than you are, it's still not particularly shocking that you could have a 29 year old.

Just how young do you think you look?

I am also one of your people OP 🙋🏻‍♀️, I get why it has stung, I don’t get the shocked face of disbelief anymore either and it felt like it happened literally overnight, a bit like when Kevin (Harry Enfield) the angelic little boy went to bed and woke up as Kevin the teenager, except when I woke up one morning I had morphed into my elderly mother, I do try to be grateful for reaching my late fifties but when you are used to looking young and lovely it can be quite upsetting when you are no longer seen that way, I’m doing my best to be grateful for still being alive but it is a difficult adjustment, in the words of Kevin, it’s not fair! 😂

Really?
Well it seems to have elicited quite a lot of posts revealing that how old they look, or not, is important to a lot of posters. And they certainly don't read as tongue in cheek.

Devastated? Really?

I wish I had so little to worry about

You'd think so

I got ‘you don’t look your age’ until I was 50.
Now I get silence and it’s just life.
The only comment I got recently off someone in their twenties was a question…
Do you not get Botox and fillers? When I said I didn’t she remarked…
God, you’re brave!

It’s just so rude! 😆

But that's because you were incredibly young when you had your son. When I was 38 I had a two year old.

I'm sorry you had a teenage pregnancy.

Ha! Op the same is happening to me. Last summer I was still getting ID'd in supermarkets, I'm 32! I moaned but secretly I enjoyed it

Maybe they weren't good enough at mental maths to work out if it was shocking or not. Have you quizzed them on their maths abilities to check?

I had my kids in my early 20s so always had gasps when I was 20s/30s when asked how old the kids were, definitely noticing the gasps have reduced as I near 40 😂

Times have changed! People don't say that stuff anymore (thats what i tell myself!).

I like to think i don't look my age (40) but I've only had one person insist on giving me a youth discount for under 25s in the last year! 😆 I definitely don't look that young but it was nice to have the compliment!

What were they meant to say though? If they think you only look 45 and you say your son is 29, they are not (out of politeness) going to make a remark such as you must have had him very young or that you don't look old enough.

I'm 54 and I constantly get told I look like I'm in my thirties. When I point out that my oldest is actually in her thirties, and show evidence to prove it, they say she looks like she's in her early twenties. Then I show them a picture of my youngest who is 18, they say she looks like she's 14.

I've decided that most people are blind .

I am 34, and when I go out with my sister people often think I'm her mum. She's 33! Now that is bloody sad.

Exactly this! In this situation I'd be aware that any show of surprise could be taken as a negative judgement about young mothers/motherhood.

The comment "You don't look old enough to have a son that age" could absolutely be interpreted as having the unspoken follow up of "you must have been far too young to have made a responsible choice about having a child".

It’s tongue in cheek.