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To be annoyed that vegan options have replaced vegetarian?

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Sacredhandbag · 13/02/2025 09:34

It's only a silly gripe in the grand scheme of things but it's bloody annoying.

I've been a vegetarian my whole life but since veganism has become more popular and more and more people are becoming part of the movement (and good on them!) it's like restaurants, cafes and hotels have skipped adding vegetarian options and thought "well vegan options covers both so we'll just add a few of those"

No! I am not vegan. I am vegetarian. I still want my eggs, my cream, my cheese, my butter. I want a stilton and broccoli bake, not a grilled bit of cauliflower!

Afternoon tea (I'm a fan and have one as often as I can) is the worst for it. There's an ordinary menu and then there's a vegan menu and that's it. You order one or the other. I don't want chicken or fish sandwiches but I sure as hell want my scones with proper clotted cream! So I have to be specific about the sandwiches and say I want some from one menu and some from the other. Bloody annoying.

Any other veggies feel the same?

OP posts:
JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 10:06

tropicalroses · 13/02/2025 10:01

Because a restaurant wants to give choice. So rather than one veggie, one vegan; they usually do 2 vegan which then gives the illusion that you have options.

A restaurant should cook food people actually like and want to eat, based on market research (like any business), not food we're forced to eat because it's the only thing on the menu because chefs are genuinely scared to try anything else because they don't know how to cook vegetarian/vegan food (anymore). A UPF shitburger isn't a good choice for anyone, veggie or vegan or omnivore. I think veggies are just too tolerant of this whole situation and that's why it's been allowed to creep up on us. As I said, I'd be happy with all vegan options if it wasn't just the UPF "plant" burger. That's not a choice.

Lentilweaver · 13/02/2025 10:05

It's not vegans' fault. The fault of restaurants. For instance, a nearby restaurant had a lovely aubergine curry. Naturally vegan and suitable for everyone! Now they have replaced it with a fake meat curry. Not sure why.

Ineedcoffee2021 · 13/02/2025 10:05

Rainplops · 13/02/2025 10:00

Don't be silly. Why would what some randomer on the internet say MAKE someone consume more meat? If someone wants to go vegan, they aren't going to NOT go vegan because some other vegan was forthright on Mumsnet.

Its more the 'holier than thou' attitude most dont want to be associated with by going vegan
Not just here but most vegans have no issue getting in someones plate, talking down or belittling people who not vegan and their food choices

Their attitude keeps people who may be interested away

LookSerious · 13/02/2025 10:04

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 10:01

Well I just Googled and 5-7% are vegetarian in the UK vs 1-2% vegan so maybe veggies should have more of a say here instead of the tiny minority who shout the loudest... where have we seen a tiny noisy minority trample all over people before? 🧐

As a vegan who is GC, the two don’t compare. I stand up for women and children, I stand up for animals.

Sacredhandbag · 13/02/2025 10:03

FaeryQueen · 13/02/2025 10:03

Indeed - the vegans are in this thread already trying to guilt trip the veggies!

And yet I'm being accused of bashing! 🤣

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FaeryQueen · 13/02/2025 10:03

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 10:01

Well I just Googled and 5-7% are vegetarian in the UK vs 1-2% vegan so maybe veggies should have more of a say here instead of the tiny minority who shout the loudest... where have we seen a tiny noisy minority trample all over people before? 🧐

Indeed - the vegans are in this thread already trying to guilt trip the veggies!

LookSerious · 13/02/2025 10:03

YoureLightning · 13/02/2025 09:45

Feedback to the restaurants, cafes and hotels, that’ll help you more than complaining on mumsnet. This will just turn into the usual vegan bashing thread but maybe that’s the aim. There was a sub on reddit where people talked about pretending to be vegetarian on forums to moan about vegans, in order to appear fair when slagging vegans. Odd, but these threads always put me in mind of that.

Yes, this.

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 10:01

TheElvesLongSleeves · 13/02/2025 09:59

It's not "lazy putting everyone into one box". It's cost and practicality.
Small part of customers eat these items so it does make for many businesses sense to have x versions. So to prevent food waste and money waste, the item is made edible for bigger market.

Well I just Googled and 5-7% are vegetarian in the UK vs 1-2% vegan so maybe veggies should have more of a say here instead of the tiny minority who shout the loudest... where have we seen a tiny noisy minority trample all over people before? 🧐

tropicalroses · 13/02/2025 10:01

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 09:57

I don't know why it's so hard for everywhere to offer one veggie option and one vegan option as a basic standard and ideally 2 of each if they find those are popular. It wouldn't take much. I really wouldn't mind having to eat vegan if the food was good quality and actually a plate of decent vegetable-based food but it's always a fucking "plant" burger that's UPF and probably never saw a real plant in its life!

Edited

Because a restaurant wants to give choice. So rather than one veggie, one vegan; they usually do 2 vegan which then gives the illusion that you have options.

Rainplops · 13/02/2025 10:00

ExercicenformedeZ · 13/02/2025 09:58

It's attitudes like that one which drive people to go omnivore, not vegan.

Don't be silly. Why would what some randomer on the internet say MAKE someone consume more meat? If someone wants to go vegan, they aren't going to NOT go vegan because some other vegan was forthright on Mumsnet.

MumChp · 13/02/2025 09:59

Miaowzabella · 13/02/2025 09:54

I can't see the point of 'doing' afternoon tea for a vegan......what would you be able to eat?

I don't do milk (lactose intolerance) and gluten (celiac) and I have had excellent afternoon teas.
I have vegan friends and I have done great afternon teas with them. It's not that complicated.

TheElvesLongSleeves · 13/02/2025 09:59

It's not "lazy putting everyone into one box". It's cost and practicality.
Small part of customers eat these items so it does make for many businesses sense to have x versions. So to prevent food waste and money waste, the item is made edible for bigger market.

FaeryQueen · 13/02/2025 09:59

YoureLightning · 13/02/2025 09:45

Feedback to the restaurants, cafes and hotels, that’ll help you more than complaining on mumsnet. This will just turn into the usual vegan bashing thread but maybe that’s the aim. There was a sub on reddit where people talked about pretending to be vegetarian on forums to moan about vegans, in order to appear fair when slagging vegans. Odd, but these threads always put me in mind of that.

I do - frequently. Everywhere is vegan now and I hate the frankenfoods this means.

I've even got up and left when the only option on the menu is a lazy chef's choice of a vegan burger.

And whilst I'm on it, I resent paying £18 for a main course which is mostly cheap pasta when the meat/fish options are the same price. I'm also not doing that any more. They make a lot of profit on veggie food so they could at least make an effort.

ExercicenformedeZ · 13/02/2025 09:58

Rainplops · 13/02/2025 09:51

It's not YOUR eggs, YOUR cream, YOUR cheese, YOUR butter.

Those are products of animal abuse. They belong to the animals.

Just go vegan.

It's attitudes like that one which drive people to go omnivore, not vegan.

Rainplops · 13/02/2025 09:58

Dairy is a dying industry. You'd better get used to this fact.

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 09:57

I don't know why it's so hard for everywhere to offer one veggie option and one vegan option as a basic standard and ideally 2 of each if they find those are popular. It wouldn't take much. I really wouldn't mind having to eat vegan if the food was good quality and actually a plate of decent vegetable-based food but it's always a fucking "plant" burger that's UPF and probably never saw a real plant in its life!

Worldgonecrazy · 13/02/2025 09:56

Fake meat is rank processed crud. Absolutely agree with previous comment about vegan ‘cheese’ especially the fake mozzarella which looks like someone has done a ‘special’ on the plate.

Please can we have healthy vegetarian offerings, not fake meat.

Glitterbiscuits · 13/02/2025 09:56

If anyone is a member of The Vegetarian Society I also think they are going more and more vegan ( even though there is a Vegan Society)

MumChp · 13/02/2025 09:56

BetteDavisChin · 13/02/2025 09:46

I'd wonder why are you vegetarian?
For the animals? I'm sure you know about the horrible parts of the milk and egg industries.
I think it's great that there are so many vegan options. But then, I'm vegan, so I would say that. I'm vegan for the animals first, then for my health. For the future of the planet too.

It's none of your business.
I get so tired then vegans tell me off.

Neveranynamesleft · 13/02/2025 09:55

The mass produced vegan 'food' on offer in supermarkets is dire, one step away from plastic. How anyone can say they eat it for health reasons given the level of fat content in the majority of the stuff is mind boggling.

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 13/02/2025 09:54

Honestly can't say i've been anywhere and seen this. There's always a vegetarian option and rarely a vegan one. Especially for afternoon tea. If anything vegan options have declined lately.

I'm vegan and struggle still to find options. Veggie is easy. What annoys me more is all the fake meat rubbish now. I don't want a fake meat burger or fake steak or whatever. I miss the standard bean burger offerings.

SallyWD · 13/02/2025 09:54

I agree 100%. I think it's very lazy actually, lumping vegans and vegetarians together so the restaurant only has to provide one option. I actually love vegan food and cook it a lot at home but when I go out I want to indulge. I want cream and butter and cheese!

LavenderBlue19 · 13/02/2025 09:54

Yes, YANBU! I don't want to eat vegan food, especially when I'm paying for an expensive meal. I love cheese and milk and eggs and find the vegan replacements are usually horrible.

The worst is when you order the vegan burger, but they won't add proper cheese to it. Why not?!

Morally I am fully aware that vegans are right, but I could never be vegan myself. I do buy organic eggs and milk though, in an attempt to avoid the worst parts of the industry.

InTheRainOnATrain · 13/02/2025 09:54

tropicalroses · 13/02/2025 09:46

My boss was veggie for three years (so not long-term by any means), she's now gone back to eating meat in the last 2 years, because she doesn't like the vegan options and there's no choice for her as a veggie 😳

Same. And I was a veggie for 20 years!

Miaowzabella · 13/02/2025 09:54

I can't see the point of 'doing' afternoon tea for a vegan......what would you be able to eat?