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To be annoyed that vegan options have replaced vegetarian?

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Sacredhandbag · 13/02/2025 09:34

It's only a silly gripe in the grand scheme of things but it's bloody annoying.

I've been a vegetarian my whole life but since veganism has become more popular and more and more people are becoming part of the movement (and good on them!) it's like restaurants, cafes and hotels have skipped adding vegetarian options and thought "well vegan options covers both so we'll just add a few of those"

No! I am not vegan. I am vegetarian. I still want my eggs, my cream, my cheese, my butter. I want a stilton and broccoli bake, not a grilled bit of cauliflower!

Afternoon tea (I'm a fan and have one as often as I can) is the worst for it. There's an ordinary menu and then there's a vegan menu and that's it. You order one or the other. I don't want chicken or fish sandwiches but I sure as hell want my scones with proper clotted cream! So I have to be specific about the sandwiches and say I want some from one menu and some from the other. Bloody annoying.

Any other veggies feel the same?

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Kingsleadhat · 13/02/2025 10:41

Antsinmypantsneedtodance · 13/02/2025 09:54

Honestly can't say i've been anywhere and seen this. There's always a vegetarian option and rarely a vegan one. Especially for afternoon tea. If anything vegan options have declined lately.

I'm vegan and struggle still to find options. Veggie is easy. What annoys me more is all the fake meat rubbish now. I don't want a fake meat burger or fake steak or whatever. I miss the standard bean burger offerings.

Agree with all of this. I thing veganism had a moment a couple of years back and supermarkets and restaurants offered a fair amount of options, but the moment seems to have passed and it's now back to Beyond burger or something tasteless involving boiled butternut squash. And sorbet, sodding sorbet

user1498572889 · 13/02/2025 10:40

My daughter complains about the same thing.

Lentilweaver · 13/02/2025 10:40

I am definitely eating out a lot less these days as the quality of food has nosedived and prices gone up. We now eat out once a month perhaps, and it used to be weekly.

Bromptotoo · 13/02/2025 10:39

Works both ways. I've lost count of the times my vegan partner and son have been told items x, y or z on the menu are vegan but when you look at the detail they contain dairy or eggs.

Suffolker · 13/02/2025 10:39

FaeryQueen · 13/02/2025 09:59

I do - frequently. Everywhere is vegan now and I hate the frankenfoods this means.

I've even got up and left when the only option on the menu is a lazy chef's choice of a vegan burger.

And whilst I'm on it, I resent paying £18 for a main course which is mostly cheap pasta when the meat/fish options are the same price. I'm also not doing that any more. They make a lot of profit on veggie food so they could at least make an effort.

Absolutely agree with this. The mark up on veggie/vegan options is ridiculous. Do they think we won’t notice? I wouldn’t mind if it was a dish that has taken some effort to prepare, rather than a nasty burger or mediocre pasta Angry

LookSerious · 13/02/2025 10:38

Restaurants that do this, will do it because it’s cost effective. Anyone up for opening a restaurant to do what you’re all asking, but not making as much money as you can...lol. As if.

If you want more choices, eat at better places. Eat out less to afford to do this if needed.

Or just keep whinging on mumsnet and changing nothing.

DrNo007 · 13/02/2025 10:36

Yes, agree. There was a similar thread on Mumsnet a couple of months ago with a lot of folks saying what you are saying. I am not at all implying you're not allowed to make the point again though. From my point of view, this point needs making again and again until someone listens.

BeaAndBen · 13/02/2025 10:36

The thing is, vegan food IS suitable for vegetarians, whereas the reverse isn't true.

^ This statement fills me with irrational levels of rage every single time I see it trotted out.
Let’s say something that is just as true:

The thing is, vegan food IS suitable for meat eaters, whereas the reverse isn't true.

If it’s about food all customers can eat, let’s make all menu items vegan! Everyone can have everything on the menu, yay! Super efficient!

Or make 90% vegetarian - because omnivores can all eat vegetarian food - and 10% vegan for the purists.

But omnivores don’t want to only eat vegetarian or vegan food when dining out.
Just as vegetarians don’t want to only eat vegan food.

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 13/02/2025 10:36

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 09:57

I don't know why it's so hard for everywhere to offer one veggie option and one vegan option as a basic standard and ideally 2 of each if they find those are popular. It wouldn't take much. I really wouldn't mind having to eat vegan if the food was good quality and actually a plate of decent vegetable-based food but it's always a fucking "plant" burger that's UPF and probably never saw a real plant in its life!

Edited

But then you get the inevitable complaints that there are only 1 or 2 'boring' choices for non-meat-eaters!

I think part of the issue is that a lot of vegans will insist that everybody 'can' eat vegan food, so it 'makes sense' to only serve vegan food for everybody to be 'able' to eat (however happy or not they may be with that).

The majority of people eat meat, and a high proportion of them would simply not give their custom to a restaurant that didn't offer it. Vegetarians already know they are being 'particular' - and are a minority - so they are already used to (self-decided) restrictions when presented with a menu.

To be blunt, it's 100% your free choice what you will and won't eat, but to a lot of people, this will be framed as a 'fussy' person complaining that their freedom is being spoiled by 'even fussier' people.

Also, there are parallels with catering for omnovires, whereby if a number of Muslims, Jews and/or Hindus were going to be at an event, the chosen meat option for all the omnivores (including all the non-religious ones) would probably be chicken or fish, with pork and beef deliberately avoided.

I suppose it's a bit like with 'free from' foods (except they are usually down to allergies rather than ethical choice). You know you have somebody who is allergic to gluten and another person who is allergic to dairy: if you can find an option that is gluten free AND dairy free, you're unlikely to go out of your way to source items which will enable your GF person to have dairy and your DF person to have gluten - when they're already a small minority of those for whom you're catering.

SpanThatWorld · 13/02/2025 10:34

Miaowzabella · 13/02/2025 09:54

I can't see the point of 'doing' afternoon tea for a vegan......what would you be able to eat?

Vegan sandwiches
Vegan cakes
Vegan scones

Noodlesand · 13/02/2025 10:34

Roundaboot · 13/02/2025 09:51

Totally agree, especially as many restaurants' idea of vegan food is highly processed meat and dairy substitutes, so you end up with a fake meat burger with fake cheese and fake mayo being the only veggie option, rather than a dish based on veggies, pulses and grains!
I had afternoon tea recently and asked for vegetarian. I ended up with vegan sandwiches but actual cream on the scones and dairy in the cakes. Absolutely no logic to it!

This... I am not strictly veggie, though prefer it and can't remember the last time I ate meat, but I hate all the processed fake meat substitutes... Give me a bean chilli or mushroom and halloumi burger any day!

Poppins2016 · 13/02/2025 10:33

Not quite the same, but I'm dairy free along with baby DD who has CMPA (I'm breastfeeding). It annoys me that so many dairy free options are also gluten free or vegetarian/vegan (I want meat and egg)!...

Similarly, I have a friend who is gluten free (coeliac) and gets frustrated because their only options are often vegan or vegetarian.

On a side note... I agree with those posters who say the tastiest vegetarian/vegan food is "naturally" vegan...

Mylittlebobble · 13/02/2025 10:31

I'm vegetarian because I don't like meat. I'd happily eat good vegan food but I can't eat the fake meat stuff because to me it tastes too much like meat. When the vegan/vegetarian option is a fake meat burger, etc I'm left with very little to no choice.

Maverickess · 13/02/2025 10:30

Just ask for cheese on your vegan burger if that's what you want? We get it quite regularly and we have both vegetarian and vegan options, I mean some have said that the restaurant seems to have a problem with it, but do they actually or are they just checking back that they haven't misunderstood you ? Because I do that to make sure I'm not about to give someone something they don't want to eat, and the chef will check as well because they also want to ensure the customer is getting what they want.
We have vegan dishes that you can add stuff to, that then means they're vegetarian or then in fact neither.
We adapt dishes to a certain degree, something like Avo on toast, you have a choice of bread/butter so it's vegan or not, and then you can add eggs, bacon, mushrooms, hollandaise or whatever you want to make it the dish you want. People moan it's too much choice 🤷🏼‍♀️ so they'd rather have loads of versions of the same thing with 5 of them vegan, 5 vegetarian and 5 containing meat than just 1 base option with the choice to add what you want to it to make it whatever it is you want to eat.
Then your menu ends up like war & peace.

thiswilloutme · 13/02/2025 10:30

Miaowzabella · 13/02/2025 09:54

I can't see the point of 'doing' afternoon tea for a vegan......what would you be able to eat?

🤣
I have a vegan daughter, if I were going to do afternoon tea for her I would be spoilt for choice, sandwiches / small wraps with humus, falafel, baba ganoush, smashed avocado etc cakes - well so easy, so many good vegan cake/brownie recipes out there.

it really is very easy to prepare decent vegan food, including "treat" food.

But I take the OPs point, so many menus now will offer only the vegan option, and it is something insubstantial like "cauliflower steak" - yes, well, no - a slice of spiced, fried, cauliflower is not my idea of a great meal to be frank! No pulses, lentils, no protein of any sort. Restaurants often just take a lazy and uninformed option, not even great for vegans and veggies really miss out.

Theunamedcat · 13/02/2025 10:30

Try being gluten intolerant vegetarian meals used to be a friendly place full of vegetables cheese eggs etc now it's vegan meat replacement I can't eat that at all even when it's soy because guess who reacts to soy!

I asked a chef to come out to chat to me the one day because there was nothing menu wise I could eat he switched a few things around for me but most times I'm stuck for choice

Groveparker01 · 13/02/2025 10:29

This mildly annoys me but I usually ask for normal cheese in a vegan burger or whatever.

I do, however, really miss goat's cheese. Once upon a time you couldn't avoid it on a veggie option. Now it's disappeared.

BeaAndBen · 13/02/2025 10:26

Restaurants that used to be great for vegetarian options are so much less reliable now they’re doing vegan instead of vegetarian and vegan.

The sauces are made with coconut oil or coconut milk rather than butter and cream, for example. It’s awful stuff that completely changes the flavour profile of a classic sauce or gravy. It works with the flavours of South East Asian food but buggers up a mushroom wellington, for example.

Several of our regular takeaway places have swapped to vegan options from vegetarian. It’s great for the vegans to have options. But the result is that the omnivores order a takeaway and I just do myself a bowl of pasta.

Chinese food and curries are effortlessly vegan and delicious. Food based on dairy and eggs is crap when mangled into a plant based approximation by a catering industry not remotely interested in veggie/vegan food beyond “that will do.”

toastofthetown · 13/02/2025 10:26

I don’t identify with this at all or the attitude that the only meat free options in restaurants are all fake meat and cheese. Eating out isn’t just an opportunity to eat eggs and cheese, it’s to eat a variety of delicious food and I don’t mind if it’s vegan or not. I eat out regularly and enjoy it. Recently I’ve had several curries, dosas, tofu banh mi, mushroom and truffle dumplings, miso glazed aubergine, samosa chaat, a mac and cheese patty burger and many more I can’t think of right now. Food (much of which just happens to be vegan) which is fresh and delicious, and satisfying. I had a six course tasting menu at a vegan restaurant last week and the food was delightful, imaginative and beautifully presented. I was at a table with 5 omnivores and everyone loved it.

If a place has only a fake meat burger with dairy free cheese, then the vegetarian option it replaced was probably a bland, overcooked mushroom risotto because a chef who took pride in their kitchen wouldn’t be happy to serve that, so I wouldn’t want to eat there anyway. And if the food is delicious then I don’t care if it’s vegan.

mumda · 13/02/2025 10:24

Asking us to eat less meat is one thing, but leave us with real cheese.
Have asked at several places to have real cheese on a vegan option and the answer has always been no.

Tiny steps after all are what we are encouraged to make.

AmIimagining · 13/02/2025 10:24

Oh my God YANBU! I completely agree. I recently went to an event where the vegetarian main course was a hollowed out beef tomato filled with cold quinoa. Miserable.

In years gone by, the vegetarian option at similar events would be something warm, and cheesy and wrapped in filo pastry! I miss those days.

Mrsdyna · 13/02/2025 10:24

Yes, I can see why that's annoying for you.

Unfortunately, it's often cheaper ingredients and you can catch both vegans and vegetarians under it. Maybe don't buy it and go somewhere with vegetarian options.

Huckyfell · 13/02/2025 10:23

The problem is that for a food provider/outlet, over 97% of customers are not veggie/vegan, so they have to provide for the 3% combined, offering vegetarian options and also vegan options is loss making, so by just offering vegan ticks the box for them as it also gives the veggies the option to buy something.
I am neither, just a dirty carnivore who enjoys a broad range of food, but just looking at it from the extremely hard and competitive providers point of view of which i do have long experience with.
Sorry - Doesn't help you out but until the balance is over 20% not a lot will change.

MumChp · 13/02/2025 10:23

Stumblingalongthroughlife · 13/02/2025 10:20

The thing is, vegan food IS suitable for vegetarians, whereas the reverse isn't true. The hospitality sector is really struggling, so it's just economies of scale. If you offer a vegan curry, then it's also able to be eaten by vegetarians. If you decide to make that curry with ghee and paneer then you're cutting down the market for who can eat it. If you have to offer the same curry made with ghee and without, it's going to add to the overheads of the restaurant and cut into the already tight margins. Not to mention the vegan meal also covers for common allergies (dairy and eggs), which again increases the base that it's suitable for and who the restaurant can get profit from.

I noticed National Trust scones are now vegan. This means everyone can order them. They do have cream and butter, but the basic scone is vegan. Perfect for everyone!

The percentage of vegetarians is about 5% of the population and vegans 3%, so for a restaurant, if they have 10 main meals, it's not worth 1 of them being veggie and 1 vegan, when 1 vegan meal covers both bases. The alternative is just having a veggie meal and excluding potential vegan customers (and the omnis dining with them)
If you go somewhere with a really extensive menu, then it's much more likely that they might add in a veggie meal.

But in reality I don't see what you're describing. I still see tonnes of eggs on veggie breakfasts, halloumi as the default on veggie burgers, burger buns made from brioche, pasta bakes with loads of cheese, baked camembert as the default starter, etc. There's definitely more places doing vegan options than 10/20 years ago, but it's by no means the default in the majority of places

No it isn't.
Most vegan food at restaurant is crap And highly processed.
It's not suitable for a healthy diet. Or it's a no thank you from me.

MagpiePi · 13/02/2025 10:22

TheElvesLongSleeves · 13/02/2025 10:12

Most people at variety of meat. This all started when there was some temporary vegan uptake like 5 years ago iirc and just stayed that way.

I don't understand your point?
Are you saying that because most people eat (?) a variety of meat it is some kind of right that they must be able to pick from lamb, beef, chicken etc, whereas vegetarians should be happy that there is one vegan option for them because it is more cost effective for the caterer?

I'm in my 50s and been vegetarian all my life, so I have had plenty of 'we could do you a cheese omelette' experiences so having non-meat dishes on a menu as standard is a bonus, it is just frustrating that we are all supposed to be grateful for the one usually uninspiring, cheap, fake meat option.