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To be annoyed that vegan options have replaced vegetarian?

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Sacredhandbag · 13/02/2025 09:34

It's only a silly gripe in the grand scheme of things but it's bloody annoying.

I've been a vegetarian my whole life but since veganism has become more popular and more and more people are becoming part of the movement (and good on them!) it's like restaurants, cafes and hotels have skipped adding vegetarian options and thought "well vegan options covers both so we'll just add a few of those"

No! I am not vegan. I am vegetarian. I still want my eggs, my cream, my cheese, my butter. I want a stilton and broccoli bake, not a grilled bit of cauliflower!

Afternoon tea (I'm a fan and have one as often as I can) is the worst for it. There's an ordinary menu and then there's a vegan menu and that's it. You order one or the other. I don't want chicken or fish sandwiches but I sure as hell want my scones with proper clotted cream! So I have to be specific about the sandwiches and say I want some from one menu and some from the other. Bloody annoying.

Any other veggies feel the same?

OP posts:
ExercicenformedeZ · 13/02/2025 14:58

Sacredhandbag · 13/02/2025 14:57

A single, vegan menu also captures everyone. Bet you wouldn't like that though.

Not if the restaurant wants to make money. It is a restaurant, a business, not an exercise in philosophy.

IHateWasps · 13/02/2025 14:58

Restaurants are falling like flies where I am regardless of what they sell. I haven’t seen much evidence that vegan restaurants are especially prone to it.

I am amused by the poster who said that vegans think they’re special. I’m not even vegan or vegetarian but it looks to me on a lot of the anti vegan threads started by vegetarians that it’s the vegetarians who are put out because they aren’t regarded as special anymore.

Sacredhandbag · 13/02/2025 14:57

Dotjones · 13/02/2025 11:07

YABU because having a vegan menu and a normal menu captures everyone. Adding a third "vegetarian" menu would just be an unnecessary extra cost, especially since as you say you can still mix and match from both menus if you want to.

There isn't a law preventing people mixing things up a bit. There's nothing to stop a vegan ordering vegan cream substitute but a nice BLT with real mayonnaise if they wanted to. People can do what they want. Hell, I love meat and fish and dairy but even I could order something from a vegan menu if I wanted to.

I take the point that vegetarianism has been "trumped" by the explosion in veganism in recent years. Vegetarians are looked down on by both sides around them, perhaps ironically for the very same reason, that they are taking a stand against meat but not a stand against the meat industry. Whether you think farming animals for human consumption is fine, or wrongly believe it isn't, vegetarianism no longer makes any sense to most people.

A single, vegan menu also captures everyone. Bet you wouldn't like that though.

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SulkySeagull · 13/02/2025 14:56

@Rainbow1901 people don’t eat meat for ethical reasons, not because of the taste

ExercicenformedeZ · 13/02/2025 14:56

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 14:50

Quite. So basically there is very little demand for vegan food but many restaurants have decide the vegan dollar is more important that the vegetarian one.

I wonder if the trend will reverse, in time. The trend for veganism has peaked, I actually know quite a few ex-vegans.

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 14:50

ExercicenformedeZ · 13/02/2025 14:05

There are vegan restaurants, but the couple near me had to close as there wasn't enough demand. Despite the vegan agenda being pushed quite heavily, and a lot of people (not all!) who are vegan being quite noisy about it, actually only a tiny proportion of the population is vegan. One vegan cafe near me turned into a sushi bar, and the other into a (beef) burger bar lol.

Quite. So basically there is very little demand for vegan food but many restaurants have decide the vegan dollar is more important that the vegetarian one.

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 14:49

justasking111 · 13/02/2025 13:51

Those restaurants either fail or learn to compromise.

So the argument that vegetarians can eat vegan food falls down, doesn’t it? Because in that basis everyone can eat vegan food falls- but most people don’t want to. So basically restaurants cater for meat and fish eaters and vegans but not vegetarians, despite there being far more vegetarians than vegans.

username299 · 13/02/2025 14:43

AnonymousBleep · 13/02/2025 14:31

I was for years!

I understand that but my point was about people who don't eat meat or fish. People who eat fish are handling flesh and dead animals, so I don't see too much difference.

AnnWalkersLeftSlipper · 13/02/2025 14:42

https://weetwood.co.uk/app/uploads/2022/03/Vegan-Afternoon-Tea-JAN-2025.pdf

This is the nearest vegan afternoon tea to me. Afternoon tea isn't my thing because I don't have a sweet tooth at all, but as far as cakes go, they were lovely last time I had them (I was given a voucher as a present). The sandwiches were just the sort of thing I love, no complaints here.

https://weetwood.co.uk/app/uploads/2022/03/Vegan-Afternoon-Tea-JAN-2025.pdf

AnonymousBleep · 13/02/2025 14:38

hollyhasbeen · 13/02/2025 14:21

I own a restaurant. It is down to margins. The hospitality industry has been absolutely battered by covid lock downs, increased energy costs and food prices, NMW increase, employers NI increases, and the cost of living crisis in general. It's a tough place to be. We cannot carry menu items with low sales and potential high wastage. I would love to carry more vegetarian menu items however the wastage is too high as we buy everything fresh and make all our food from scratch. No fake meats etc. However because we cook from scratch and don't buy in prepared frozen items chef will happily flex a dish and add cheese, egg or other non-vegan products for our vegetarian customers.

If you are vegetarian try restaurants that specialise in cuisines from largely vegetarian cultures as the vegetarian and vegan dishes will be amazing. Or go higher end where you can guarantee everything is made fresh on site. I'd also recommend calling ahead and asking if they can accommodate specific requirements. We will flex our menu if given notice.

Sadly a lot of restaurants simply reheat packaged meals. Everything is portioned and costed so something simple like adding cheese isn't done because it completely messes up their stock control and pricing. Depressing isn't it.

We're going to end up with only those chain restaurants surviving, at this rate, except in wealthier cities/areas. All the independent restaurants in my home town are closing down, one after another. It's such a shame.

AnonymousBleep · 13/02/2025 14:31

username299 · 13/02/2025 13:34

I was talking about vegetarians.

I was for years!

PinkSparklyPussyCat · 13/02/2025 14:24

DalzielOrNoDalzielAndDontPascoe · 13/02/2025 12:44

That does sound odd, but maybe they have strictly separate parts of the kitchen for general food prep and for vegan food prep - also different fridges.

Most vegans will expect things to be kept completely separate in the kitchen, so that's probably exactly what they do.

I know they could just get the burger from the vegan side and then take it to the omni side, but it could get confusing in a busy kitchen - especially if they have trainees who are still learning.

Whilst it seems common sense to fulfil your request, some vegans would be horrified and complain if they saw/heard of a dish labelled as vegan being 'contaminated' with non-vegan food. They may not have overheard your conversation about knowing and accepting that the cheese isn't vegan.

There are elements of the vegan lobby that are militant and will make a huge fuss if they think there's a risk of vegan food not being compliant. One FB post with a long-range photo from somebody saying "I was in Marco's in the high street and this guy ordered the vegan burger - but it came with standard cheese in it! I'll never eat there again and I recommend that all vegans avoid it like the plague!" - the damage that could do to their business; especially when other people with allergies and different preferences hear the word and think the place don't care and obviously can't be trusted at all.

Edited

I'd have sent it back, it's ridiculous. However this is all down to the idiot militant vegans who seem to think what other people eat is any of their business. Obviously I'm not including all vegans in that before I'm accused of vegan bashing, only ones like whoever made the FB post.

hollyhasbeen · 13/02/2025 14:21

I own a restaurant. It is down to margins. The hospitality industry has been absolutely battered by covid lock downs, increased energy costs and food prices, NMW increase, employers NI increases, and the cost of living crisis in general. It's a tough place to be. We cannot carry menu items with low sales and potential high wastage. I would love to carry more vegetarian menu items however the wastage is too high as we buy everything fresh and make all our food from scratch. No fake meats etc. However because we cook from scratch and don't buy in prepared frozen items chef will happily flex a dish and add cheese, egg or other non-vegan products for our vegetarian customers.

If you are vegetarian try restaurants that specialise in cuisines from largely vegetarian cultures as the vegetarian and vegan dishes will be amazing. Or go higher end where you can guarantee everything is made fresh on site. I'd also recommend calling ahead and asking if they can accommodate specific requirements. We will flex our menu if given notice.

Sadly a lot of restaurants simply reheat packaged meals. Everything is portioned and costed so something simple like adding cheese isn't done because it completely messes up their stock control and pricing. Depressing isn't it.

HeCharters · 13/02/2025 14:18

I don't like cream either @AnnWalkersLeftSlipper .
I eat a lot of non-dairy food, but not deliberately.

Gluten-free bread and cakes aren't tasty, an often the vegan option is also gluten-free and vice versa.

AnnWalkersLeftSlipper · 13/02/2025 14:13

Carsitting · 13/02/2025 10:08

I totally agree with you! Completely fed up with the vegan choices. Which is often a vegan burger. And they all have the same weird taste. Or that bloody cauliflower ‘steak’ thing. It’s not a steak! It’s just a bit of bloody cauliflower that leaves me starving after it!

Vegan choices also seem to often be loaded with garlic, which I don’t like

In fairness, I don't know a single vegan who appreciates a 'cauliflower steak'. All I've seen about those is vegans and vegetarians complaining about them. Whichever chef came up with that has a lot to answer for. Not seen one on a menu for a long while, thankfully.

AnnWalkersLeftSlipper · 13/02/2025 14:10

HeCharters · 13/02/2025 13:58

Free-from bread -yuk
Dairy-free spread - yuk
Vegan filling - might be OK, might be yuk

Free-from scone - yuk
Free-from clotted cream - yuk

Free from bread? Most bread is vegan?

You might think the rest of it is 'yuk', but you're not a vegan? Vegans think cream etc is 'yuk'.

JaceLancs · 13/02/2025 14:09

It’s very lazy and a cost cutting exercise
I’m gluten free too and completely fed up of GF foods also being vegan as with my IBS have to avoid so many pulses beans nuts and vegetables
95% of the time I cook from scratch but sometimes if I’m out and about have no choice

ExercicenformedeZ · 13/02/2025 14:05

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 13:50

Make the whole menu vegan then - I mean, if vegetarians can eat vegan so can all the meat and fish eaters.

There are vegan restaurants, but the couple near me had to close as there wasn't enough demand. Despite the vegan agenda being pushed quite heavily, and a lot of people (not all!) who are vegan being quite noisy about it, actually only a tiny proportion of the population is vegan. One vegan cafe near me turned into a sushi bar, and the other into a (beef) burger bar lol.

HeCharters · 13/02/2025 13:58

AnnWalkersLeftSlipper · 13/02/2025 13:44

This is a weird attitude.

What WOULDN'T a vegan be able to eat? An afternoon tea to my limited knowledge is usually some small sandwiches and cakes/scones.

Do you think vegans can't eat sandwiches or baked goods? Or drink tea?

Free-from bread -yuk
Dairy-free spread - yuk
Vegan filling - might be OK, might be yuk

Free-from scone - yuk
Free-from clotted cream - yuk

2024riot · 13/02/2025 13:53

Rainplops · 13/02/2025 09:58

Dairy is a dying industry. You'd better get used to this fact.

There are ways of making a point without sounding so insufferable

justasking111 · 13/02/2025 13:51

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 13:50

Make the whole menu vegan then - I mean, if vegetarians can eat vegan so can all the meat and fish eaters.

Those restaurants either fail or learn to compromise.

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 13:50

AnnWalkersLeftSlipper · 13/02/2025 13:47

That is true BUT from a restaurant's point of view, the 5-7% eat food that the 1-2% don't. So for costs and practical reasons it makes more sense to provide options for the 1-2% that the other 5-7% can also have, rather than making it that the 1-2% can't use their restaurant (or cafe/pub/whatever).

They're not just losing out on the 1-2% if they don't, they're potentially losing out on families with one vegan, parties with a couple of vegans, huge dinner gatherings who have only 1 or 2 vegans but wants somewhere suitable for everyone.

Make the whole menu vegan then - I mean, if vegetarians can eat vegan so can all the meat and fish eaters.

NannyR · 13/02/2025 13:48

I don't eat meat and I can't say that I have come across this problem. Granted, I don't eat out that often but I've just checked the online menus of the four places I would be most likely to eat at and there wasn't any fake meat in sight and there were plenty of cheesy options. I looked at an Italian run pizza cafe, a Vietnamese street food place, a pricy gastro pub and a chain type pub/restaurant. The pizza place doesn't do fake cheese, but has three veggie pizza options and pasta with tomato sauce for vegans, the Vietnamese place has lots of tofu options, the chain pub had mac and cheese, veg thai curry, cheese and leek pie, veg chilli, a bean burger and a cauliflower cheese tart to go with the carvery. The pricier place had halloumi and falafel as V and VE alternatives to several dishes, mushroom stroganoff, a shepherds pie made with lentils rather than fake mince, a bean burger served with cheese.
The many local curry places always have a paneer option, no fake meat on the menu.
Macdonalds is the only place I've come across fake meat.

AnnWalkersLeftSlipper · 13/02/2025 13:47

JanesLaundryAgain · 13/02/2025 10:01

Well I just Googled and 5-7% are vegetarian in the UK vs 1-2% vegan so maybe veggies should have more of a say here instead of the tiny minority who shout the loudest... where have we seen a tiny noisy minority trample all over people before? 🧐

That is true BUT from a restaurant's point of view, the 5-7% eat food that the 1-2% don't. So for costs and practical reasons it makes more sense to provide options for the 1-2% that the other 5-7% can also have, rather than making it that the 1-2% can't use their restaurant (or cafe/pub/whatever).

They're not just losing out on the 1-2% if they don't, they're potentially losing out on families with one vegan, parties with a couple of vegans, huge dinner gatherings who have only 1 or 2 vegans but wants somewhere suitable for everyone.

Allatonce2024 · 13/02/2025 13:46

I find vegetarianism weirdly old fashioned now.

In the old days a lot of people had the rosy idea that dairy came from cows who produced milk without calves, or that all calves and chicks grew up to become dairy cows and egg laying hens themselves, etc

But now everyone knows that's not the case, surely you're either against the meat industry or not bothered by it...but I don't get the halfway house?