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Do you get your children anything for Valentines day

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Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 12/02/2025 22:16

Or do any activities with them?

I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

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GretchenWienersHair · 13/02/2025 06:05

No. I didn’t know that was even a thing.

letsfaceitwhoisnt · 13/02/2025 05:58

@crackadawn god you're right. This next generation is absolutely ruined.

A little card and a chocolate from their mum to tell them they are loved, whatever next?

PrioritisePleasure24 · 13/02/2025 05:32

You know what. The world is a shit show. Celebrate life however you want to. Sometimes the small things help! Who cares if others frown upon it:

If you listened to a large portion of mumsnet you’d never celebrate or enjoy anything that makes life that little bit more enjoyable.

Oblomov25 · 13/02/2025 05:24

Eh? No, of course not. It's supposed to be for you and your Dh (partner) only.

Plus, Why do we need to include kids in everything? What about nurturing the husband-wife relationship that means you even have a family, because without it there won't be one!

Zanatdy · 13/02/2025 05:20

No never, I also never got them a huge Easter basket or christmas eve box. They had plenty, and definitely didn’t see the need to buy them things for commercial holidays like valentine’s.

ChewbaccasMrs · 13/02/2025 05:18

Yes we've got nice chocolate's(different ones for each child)for each of our 5DC,my Dad always bought lovely flowers and presents and a card for my mum and he always got me a lovely card and some chocolate's.

Both of my parents have passed and I'm 49 now but I'll always remember my Dad doing that for me and it's part of the reason we do the same for our DC so that one day it'll be a lovely memory of me and their Dad.

lifesrichpageant · 13/02/2025 05:16

I always have, even when they were very young. And I am generally a cynic and a scrooge about these things. It just feels like a simple and low-effort way to show my children how much I love them. Usually some pancakes with pink food colouring and maybe a small gift or card. Every year they forget what day it is and every year they are surprised and delighted!

ArmyBarbie · 13/02/2025 05:11

Nope. It's for romantic love.

Dogaredabomb · 13/02/2025 02:57

Dad used to send me cards from 'a secret admirer' my friend's Dad would send her secret cards from her dog 😂

steff13 · 13/02/2025 02:27

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 13/02/2025 02:19

Valentine is about sex. Why would you want to sexualise your children? That’s kitchen based grooming

You're suggesting that everyone who buys their child a Valentine is grooming them? What is wrong with you?

And it's never been about sex, it's about love.

Whatnowthenfordone · 13/02/2025 02:21

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 01:14

Who cares - why does it matter, oh it doesn't..

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It’s just plain weird. Why make a romantic day centred around children?

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 13/02/2025 02:19

Valentine is about sex. Why would you want to sexualise your children? That’s kitchen based grooming

renthead · 13/02/2025 02:08

Here in Canada it's very much a platonic love/children's holiday. You buy little paper valentines that are specifically for school, and give them out in class (you're not allowed to exclude anyone so every child gets a valentine from every other child). It's a lot of fun and a great childhood memory for me. My DDs love it.

I get my DDs a little heart chocolate or something small. If we still lived in the UK I'm not sure I'd bother!

thrifty24 · 13/02/2025 01:58

No. While I'm on though, I'm planning on catching the new Bridget Jones film this weekend as a solo V day treat at Everyman. I'll be ordering a large vino and snacks and probably surrounded by couples. Tempted to take my little blanket too!

bridgetreilly · 13/02/2025 01:56

Halycon · 12/02/2025 22:43

RE the romantic vs parental love thing.

Maybe Valentine’s Day has evolved a bit in the same way that Christmas Eve boxes, North Pole breakfasts and the Elf on the Shelf have become a part of Christmas.

That is not exactly an incentive for me! They are all commercial inventions designed to guilt trip parents into wasting money.

MumChp · 13/02/2025 01:56

No.

YouAgainDamnIt · 13/02/2025 01:55

I always get my teens a box of chocolates or sweets or something. Never miss a chance to make someone smile in these grey little times. Grin

PeloMom · 13/02/2025 01:54

No. I do help them write cards for classmates though. Reasoning is selfish- to practice writing skills

Klovos · 13/02/2025 01:51

Do you also go on romantic dates with them?

WhiteRosesInMyDreams · 13/02/2025 01:45

Valentines Day feels a bit cringey to me. I might send my 3 DC a pic of our naughty cat saying he loves them with some hearts added or something.

I gave my two teen DDs flowers the other week (one was having a bad time at school, the other had worked hard for her GCSE mocks) so they’re not neglected 😁 I’m just not a big fan of VD as it feels a bit cheesy (can understand why others like it though).

suburberphobe · 13/02/2025 01:42

Valentine's Day is about romantic love.

Getting something for your kids for it sounds kind of creepy.

coxesorangepippin · 13/02/2025 01:37

Usually a card and a few chocs, yes

neverthelastone · 13/02/2025 01:24

DP and I don’t do it for each other as it’s too naff, but I usually get DD a little fun card and something little like heart-shaped post-its, a chocolate lollipop, or something else small but cute.

My parents always gave us an anonymous-but-clearly-from-them card each in the 90s, and I thought it was a sweet tradition: it used to cheer me up as a self-conscious teenager to at least get one Valentine! (They weren’t lovey-dovey cards, just pretty flowered ones or similar.)

mumzof4x · 13/02/2025 01:22

I do
Dd is 14 and her and her girlfriends usually organise a Galentines evening or sleepover that will involve lots of Pink valentines themed girly things / chocolates / fluffy socks / pjs / baskets of goodies like face masks and make up etc
They just have a really lovely time and usually drink pink non alcoholic fizzy something, and generally have a great time.
Dh and I on the other hand will do nothing usually !

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 01:14

Whatnowthenfordone · 13/02/2025 00:24

I can understand it being different if you’re not in the UK. In the UK, though, it’s been about romantic love for centuries.

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Who cares - why does it matter, oh it doesn't..