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Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 2025-02-12T22:16:06+00:00

Or do any activities with them? I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

Yellowpingu · 13/02/2025 10:09

Caerulea · 12/02/2025 22:38

Absolutely not! In fact, this is the first year I've bought DH a card in the 21 we've been together.

And I only got that cos it sings a song about bums & has a spaceman inside with a gold vibrating bottom & I know it will make him laugh

We rarely exchange cards of any kind (married over 30 years) but if I saw that I’d definitely buy it for DH!

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 09:55

ClippyMuldoon · 13/02/2025 09:51

It has been both a cute kids thing and a new couples thing as long as I can remember. I have a Jellycat croissant for my daughter for 'breakfast', I am not sure how that can be seen as 'grooming' you weirdos. Nothing for and from husband though, although if he came home with some heart Haribo I would be pretty happy.

My Mum used to make Valentines buns, my granny sent cards to us all way back in the 80s, this is not new. We are not in the UK though.

Yes, I remember the schools and pre-schools that my DC attended one of whom is now a late teen so a good 13 years ago got them to make Valentine's cards for us- one a heart with big long card arms that open as you opened the card, I have it in my Memories box.

ClippyMuldoon · 13/02/2025 09:51

It has been both a cute kids thing and a new couples thing as long as I can remember. I have a Jellycat croissant for my daughter for 'breakfast', I am not sure how that can be seen as 'grooming' you weirdos. Nothing for and from husband though, although if he came home with some heart Haribo I would be pretty happy.

My Mum used to make Valentines buns, my granny sent cards to us all way back in the 80s, this is not new. We are not in the UK though.

Trainstrike · 13/02/2025 09:49

SpookedMackerel · 13/02/2025 08:40

I don’t give anything to DH or DC.
But I’ve always thought it was aimed more at children and teens than adults.

When I was growing up, it was about your secret admirer, and the cards were often anonymous! Which is a bit incompatible with a committed relationship.

Yeah this has always been my understanding. Granted this may have come mostly from The Simpsons episode where Ralph gets an I choo-choo-choose you card, and probably other American shows in the 90s!

Dumbo18 · 13/02/2025 09:14

I don't even get my partner anything never mind the kids 😂

Woppa · 13/02/2025 09:13

Jeez. Makes me think of "Religion for Atheists" by Alain de Boton. There's a big hole in society where religion used to be. People are desperate for meaning and rituals. I guess it's harmless.

MaltipooMama · 13/02/2025 09:10

Fridaysgirl17 · 13/02/2025 06:43

I do yes I have 2 boys & I'm a single mom & like to demonstrate positive actions which are thoughtful & that it is important to appreciate those you love as their dad is not very good at any of it, though he is meant to have them Valentine's night he most likely will cancel due to it, I do a card,bag of jellies, a chocolate & a little teddy sometimes with a book. Nothing fancy but they love it

I think this is really sweet, both the action and the rationale behind it

elliejjtiny · 13/02/2025 09:09

No, I think it's weird. Some of the dc will probably end up tagging along for our Valentine's meal, depending on who is around.

MaltipooMama · 13/02/2025 09:05

It never even occurred to me of doing this until I came across this thread yesterday and thought why bloody not! So yesterday I ordered my one year old son a valentines baby sensory book and a little me to you teddy with a heart along with a card that says "love you to the moon and back" from Amazon. I totally get why people wouldn't do this but I thought why not give him another fond memory of his childhood!

SpookedMackerel · 13/02/2025 08:40

I don’t give anything to DH or DC.
But I’ve always thought it was aimed more at children and teens than adults.

When I was growing up, it was about your secret admirer, and the cards were often anonymous! Which is a bit incompatible with a committed relationship.

TheKeatingFive · 13/02/2025 08:31

BurgundyZero · 13/02/2025 08:25

I find this a bit weird. It's for eros (romantic / sexual love) NOT storge (the love and affection you have for family).

Its origins are in Christian martyrdom. It can be for whatever you want it to be.

BurgundyZero · 13/02/2025 08:25

I find this a bit weird. It's for eros (romantic / sexual love) NOT storge (the love and affection you have for family).

Idratherbepaddleboarding · 13/02/2025 08:22

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TheKeatingFive · 13/02/2025 08:22

I buy my kids little chocolate hearts. According to another thread, this is a 'perverse' thing to do 🫠

Zusammengebrochen · 13/02/2025 08:21

Not specifically for VD no.
It's a load of over commercialised crap.
Do crafts or bake with them any time you want to though. ❤️

hopeishere · 13/02/2025 08:19

Yes. I got them some heart shaped sweets.

Goldenbear · 13/02/2025 07:59

Oblomov25 · 13/02/2025 05:24

Eh? No, of course not. It's supposed to be for you and your Dh (partner) only.

Plus, Why do we need to include kids in everything? What about nurturing the husband-wife relationship that means you even have a family, because without it there won't be one!

They are not mutually exclusive though, why does it matter in the scheme of things, maybe I'm a radical but I don't understand the angst.

FashionCrazy · 13/02/2025 07:53

Iwanttoliveonamountain · 13/02/2025 02:19

Valentine is about sex. Why would you want to sexualise your children? That’s kitchen based grooming

What a ridiculous comment. They are buying their children some chocolate, not fluffy handcuffs.

Labraradabrador · 13/02/2025 07:25

Whatnowthenfordone · 13/02/2025 00:24

I can understand it being different if you’re not in the UK. In the UK, though, it’s been about romantic love for centuries.

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But the UK is a multicultural society, so not unexpected that it will absorb traditions. Especially something like Valentine’s Day which has always been a mishmash of pagan, Christian and popular cultural tradition (even in the UK).

Boredforlife · 13/02/2025 06:47

maternitylleave102 · 12/02/2025 22:19

I got my 2 daughters a little bit of something as they both recently came out of long term relationships and I want to cheer them up.

I've also got us all some pretty heart pjs

That’s really sweet

Fridaysgirl17 · 13/02/2025 06:43

I do yes I have 2 boys & I'm a single mom & like to demonstrate positive actions which are thoughtful & that it is important to appreciate those you love as their dad is not very good at any of it, though he is meant to have them Valentine's night he most likely will cancel due to it, I do a card,bag of jellies, a chocolate & a little teddy sometimes with a book. Nothing fancy but they love it

PurpleFlower1983 · 13/02/2025 06:31

I’ve got mine a little heart chocolate lolly each.

It may be commercial but I like how more things are celebrated now.

discdiscsnap · 13/02/2025 06:31

I don't but I have two adult dd who get their little brother gifts.

BlondiePortz · 13/02/2025 06:30

PrioritisePleasure24 · 13/02/2025 05:32

You know what. The world is a shit show. Celebrate life however you want to. Sometimes the small things help! Who cares if others frown upon it:

If you listened to a large portion of mumsnet you’d never celebrate or enjoy anything that makes life that little bit more enjoyable.

This exactly, no i have done this but some people want to suck all the good things in life

Awumminnscotland · 13/02/2025 06:23

They mark it in our primary school, usually just a card making thing for friends. My daughter made a card for her friend.
It wasn't a thing for kids when I was little but It's changed.
I've bought some little hearts for her and some for my husband. We tokenlly mark it as love in our family day. It's fun for our daughter.