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Do you get your children anything for Valentines day

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Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 12/02/2025 22:16

Or do any activities with them?

I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

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StrawberryWater · 12/02/2025 22:51

I got him some Valentines macaroons.

He's not into Valentines but saw them and changed his mind lol.

MissMoan · 12/02/2025 22:50

I don't, although I do buy a nice card for my mum as my elderly dad isn't the least bit romantic, so he doesn't even think about buying one for her.

Fidgety31 · 12/02/2025 22:49

No. That would be weird .Valentines day is for romantic love / sex - not appropriate to relate to kids surely ?

LordBuckley · 12/02/2025 22:45

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 12/02/2025 22:31

No, but I may get them a helium balloon for Ascension Day.

Brilliant!😂

BeaAndBen · 12/02/2025 22:44

No, although I have made heart shaped biscuits for the class when they were doing a themed activity in primary school.

When I was in high school (in the dark ages) you could pay 50p to have a carnation delivered to someone in their form room on Valentines Day. (5th form and 6th form) It was an annual fundraiser.

I thought it was the most amazing thing at the time, but as an adult looking back - oh god, the potential for bullying and heartbreak. What we’re they thinking?!

Halycon · 12/02/2025 22:43

RE the romantic vs parental love thing.

Maybe Valentine’s Day has evolved a bit in the same way that Christmas Eve boxes, North Pole breakfasts and the Elf on the Shelf have become a part of Christmas.

skyana · 12/02/2025 22:43

No. Fed up with everything being so commercialised that it forces us to buy. Valentine is traditionally for couples and just so they can make more and more money, it's for everyone now.

As if we all don't have our hands full with every other celebration.

VisitationRights · 12/02/2025 22:40

Yes, I do. We got treats when I was a kid, and exchanged cards at school, so I celebrate with my children. I’ll do pancakes for breakfast and give them each a little chocolate.

mitogoshigg · 12/02/2025 22:40

Really? No i didn't, it's about romantic love, why would it be about children?

Caerulea · 12/02/2025 22:38

Absolutely not! In fact, this is the first year I've bought DH a card in the 21 we've been together.

And I only got that cos it sings a song about bums & has a spaceman inside with a gold vibrating bottom & I know it will make him laugh

cariadlet · 12/02/2025 22:36

No.
Never did it for my now young adult dd and my parents never did it for me.

Valentine's Day has been a celebration of romantic love between adults for centuries.

When I was young (way back in the 80s), I didn't know anyone who sent or received a card or present until secondary school (when it became an awful popularity contest). Turning it into a day for kids seems weird to me.

MaryGreenhill · 12/02/2025 22:36

I bought both my daughters red heart earrings and a matching bracelet from Primark
I am always getting them something little though

Halycon · 12/02/2025 22:36

Some posters here are saying they remember getting a little Valentines treat as a kid.

I know it’s a Hallmark Holiday and all that, but it’s nice that people have those fond memories and I don’t see the harm in it. They’re probably smiling at the memory, feeling all warm and fuzzy.

I did get my DS (3) a Kinder Egg, a dinosaur keyring for his backpack and a card. I know he’ll love them and my aim is to raise him to be thoughtful and kind, so I need to demonstrate that.

TwoLeftSocksWithHoles · 12/02/2025 22:31

No, but I may get them a helium balloon for Ascension Day.

Hollyhobbi · 12/02/2025 22:30

Yes. Just two heart shaped raspberry blondies that came with the shopping delivery today. They're both adults but living at home with me still as we live in Dublin and
rent costs are crazy here

PercyPigInAWig · 12/02/2025 22:29

As a child we always got some kind of heart themed sweets or chocolates. I remember my grandma making a heart shaped cake one year.
DC have been doing Valentines themed crafts in childcare setting this week.

Whatnowthenfordone · 12/02/2025 22:29

Trainstrike · 12/02/2025 22:28

I don't, but I find it interesting because I've always seen Valentines Day as more for kids/teens. So I think it's more normal for a parent to do a special breakfast or something than it is for adults to commemorate it in some way.

It’s for romantic love. How could it be for kids?

steff13 · 12/02/2025 22:28

Usually a small box of chocolates each. My mother did it for me when I was growing up, so I've just carried on.

Trainstrike · 12/02/2025 22:28

I don't, but I find it interesting because I've always seen Valentines Day as more for kids/teens. So I think it's more normal for a parent to do a special breakfast or something than it is for adults to commemorate it in some way.

BondStreet · 12/02/2025 22:27

Yes, my DC and DH like to make a fuss of me so I’ve got them each a little balloon, some cupcakes and some chocolates. Didn’t spend very much at all but I know they’ll love it. It’s a bit ridiculous I know.

BatshitIsTheOnlyExplanation · 12/02/2025 22:26

One of my kids was so nearly a Valentines day baby, but popped out late on 13th. So we don't do Valentines day as a separate celebration but it's massively annoying that going out for a family birthday meal isn't possible

Whatnowthenfordone · 12/02/2025 22:25

I find the concept absolutely bizarre and am surprised at the amount of people saying yes!

Valentine’s Day is for romantic love/the person you’re shagging. It’s not for kids.

MellersSmellers · 12/02/2025 22:24

😂😂
Errr No!

LordBuckley · 12/02/2025 22:23

Of course not, why would you? Valentine’s day is for adults.

warmheartcoldfeet · 12/02/2025 22:22

Never have done before. But now you mention it, I might make him some heart shaped biscuits for after school.