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Do you get your children anything for Valentines day

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Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 12/02/2025 22:16

Or do any activities with them?

I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

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SapphOhNo · 12/02/2025 23:30

No. That's weird.

cinders222 · 12/02/2025 23:29

Yes have bought daughter 12 some bits and bobs. Me and hubby won't get each other anything just Marks meal deal. And got daughter heart shaped garlic bread and pizza from Aldi.
We have always bought her something and had something nice to eat on Valentines day

Lindy2 · 12/02/2025 23:28

I've got them some heart shaped chocolates and a chocolate rose each.

DH has got a card and a chocolate teddy bear.

I do it for a bit of fun that's all. It's harmless fun and it puts a smile on my kid's faces.

CienAnosDeSoledad · 12/02/2025 23:22

Whatnowthenfordone · 12/02/2025 22:25

I find the concept absolutely bizarre and am surprised at the amount of people saying yes!

Valentine’s Day is for romantic love/the person you’re shagging. It’s not for kids.

This! So much this.

My mum congratulates me with Valentine's. Some of my friends. Like.. why? Since when it's 'congratulate everyone you know' day and not just for partners? Ridiculous. The day is quite ridiculous in itself, but even more so now.

And no, I definitely don't gift anything to my kid on Valentine's and don't even mention it. She's my daughter, not my boyfriend.

beencaughttrollin · 12/02/2025 23:17

Yes, I get mine (16, 14, and 10) little gifts which I give at breakfast on the day. My parents did the same in the '90s, so nothing new. I always actually disapproved, because historically Valentine's Day is a celebration of rape culture, but I also appreciate that things evolve over time.

We don't do any special activities as it hasn't seemed necessary but I'm sort of hyper aware that there's pressure from this day and maybe if they wanted to do some activity, things could evolve.

MumChp · 12/02/2025 23:17

No.

FunnysInLaJardin · 12/02/2025 23:16

No!

Floralnomad · 12/02/2025 23:15

No , but my husband and I don’t celebrate it either .

teenmum13 · 12/02/2025 23:12

I never have but the youngest actually asked the other day why I wasn't getting her anything because X from school was getting chocolates, Y was having a nice tea and Z wasn't sure what she will be getting but usually gets, body spray/perfume, cupcakes, biscuits, sweets, chocolate and lots of other little things.
I told her that we don't need a commercialised day to let them know we love them but now I'm feeling guilty.

Goldenbear · 12/02/2025 23:11

Not '30s' 1980s

Wordau · 12/02/2025 23:11

My sister's teen BF gave me and my mum a small bunch of flowers on Valentines day, I was probably about 10. (He lavished gifts my my sister too)

We still talk about it 40 years later 😂

Goldenbear · 12/02/2025 23:10

Yes for my teen DD but only because adult teen DS has a girlfriend and will be receiving something as will DH and I soni didn't want to leave her out.

When I was a little child in the late 80s my Dad bought my a small bear magnet thing alongside my Mum's flowers etc. They would have been in late 30s and my Dad still wrote a card to my Mum and gave her flowers. They divorced a few years late but still....

Stripesarethethingforme · 12/02/2025 23:10

I bought some heart shaped chocolates and am planning to pop one each by my kids breakfast bowls. I'm going to try making heart shaped biscuits with my youngest tomorrow. On one hand yes it's commercial rubbish but on the other February is grey and cold and it will make them smile.

mdinbc · 12/02/2025 23:10

In Canada it is seen as a children's holiday as well. Kids give out little cards to their classmates, and mothers generally give children small treats. Couples may or may not recognize it.

crackadawn · 12/02/2025 23:09

No!! I think that behaviour is very odd indeed. Valentines is an adult thing ffs dreading see what this next generation grow up like

Wordau · 12/02/2025 23:08

I wouldn't normally buy I feel my kids need some extra love so I'll make them heart shaped pancakes for breakfast

doyouknowthemuffinman42 · 12/02/2025 23:08

Yes, cupcakes and a card

tobee · 12/02/2025 23:07

No. But my dm has kept one I handmade for her from when I was about 5. It said with love from Big Ted and the Milkman 😳😬🤔😁

Trainstrike · 12/02/2025 23:07

Whatnowthenfordone · 12/02/2025 22:29

It’s for romantic love. How could it be for kids?

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I've never known any adults who celebrate it. It always been very much a primary/secondary school thing so I see it as childish. Therefore I don't think it's that weird for parents to do something like a special breakfast or give heart shaped lollies.

I've never associated it with "romantic" love, I always assume that's what anniversaries are for.

Hdjdb42 · 12/02/2025 23:04

I bought my husband and children small boxes of chocolates.

AliceMcK · 12/02/2025 23:03

No, but neither do DH and I do anything either.

Allthegoodnamesarechosen · 12/02/2025 23:03

Caerulea · 12/02/2025 22:38

Absolutely not! In fact, this is the first year I've bought DH a card in the 21 we've been together.

And I only got that cos it sings a song about bums & has a spaceman inside with a gold vibrating bottom & I know it will make him laugh

Oh how I wish I had seen that! It sounds fab

CarpetKnees · 12/02/2025 23:02

No.
Valentine's Day is about romance, and love of a sexual nature.
Should be nothing to do with children.

CatamaranViper · 12/02/2025 23:00

Fidgety31 · 12/02/2025 22:49

No. That would be weird .Valentines day is for romantic love / sex - not appropriate to relate to kids surely ?

Not necessarily. In Norfolk, jack valentine comes knocking on doors delivering chocolates to kids.

DappledThings · 12/02/2025 22:57

Nope. Never heard of anyone doing anything for Valentine's except for their partner. Really bizarre to me to mark it for children.