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Do you get your children anything for Valentines day

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Thatsthesoundofthepolice · 12/02/2025 22:16

Or do any activities with them?

I’m seeing it more and more as a thing for kids to be involved in, as in crafts or getting heart cupcakes..do you do things like that?

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CandidRaven · 16/02/2025 14:36

No but I don't pay attention to valentines day anyway, we celebrate our wedding anniversary instead as that's personal to us

DollydaydreamTheThird · 15/02/2025 20:10

ERthree · 15/02/2025 18:41

You think by not buying my children gifts on St Valentines day shows i don't love them ? How bloody strange.

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Did I say that @ERthree ?! I was trying to counter all the negative Nancy's who were saying that valentine's is only for adults and is exclusively about sex. It is a day to show people that you love them. I send a Valentine's message to my all friends and my family. For me it's an excuse to spread more love when there is awful lot of hate in the world, including here on Mumsnet.

ERthree · 15/02/2025 18:41

DollydaydreamTheThird · 13/02/2025 18:21

There are a lot of people lacking love on this thread! The joy on my boy's faces tomorrow when they open their little valentine's gifts is the only confirmation I need that I'm doing the right thing celebrating Valentine's with them as a family. 💌

You think by not buying my children gifts on St Valentines day shows i don't love them ? How bloody strange.

NotaRealHousewife · 14/02/2025 16:02

Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2025 14:11

Never got a card from my parents when young.
Why would I ?

They didn't want to trigger you 😘

Trainstrike · 14/02/2025 16:01

Whammyyammy · 14/02/2025 15:42

Today's little darlings feel left out and apparently they can be triggered if left out of such occasions 🤣🤣

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There have been numerous posts on here already from people of all ages remembering parents giving them small tokens on Valentine's Day. This is really not the generational war that people are trying to angle for.

squidgie · 14/02/2025 15:47

What? No! I have sex with my husband, followed by steak and fizz (that he organises)! 😉

butterdish93 · 14/02/2025 15:43

They had pink hot cross buns for breakfast and I got them some heart jammy dodgers.

They did valentines crafts at pre school and playgroup.

I don't get them cards though.

Husband and I usually do card/flowers/chocolate these days and maybe he'll cook either this eve or breakfast tomorrow, rather than something elaborate like when we were young and child free.

Whammyyammy · 14/02/2025 15:42

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 14/02/2025 15:04

Why would you? Can't adults have at least one thing to themselves?

Today's little darlings feel left out and apparently they can be triggered if left out of such occasions 🤣🤣

Whammyyammy · 14/02/2025 15:41

Good lord no

Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2025 15:29

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 14/02/2025 15:04

Why would you? Can't adults have at least one thing to themselves?

Apparently it's to avoid trauma and trigger.

PrivacyScreen · 14/02/2025 15:26

I don't even get my husband something

PinkArt · 14/02/2025 15:24

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 14/02/2025 15:04

Why would you? Can't adults have at least one thing to themselves?

Of all the things to gatekeep, a day celebrating love is a strange choice.

cannaecookrisotto · 14/02/2025 15:18

My mother has bought me a little Valentine's Day present.

I am 34 😂.

She makes me look bad, because me and DP don't bother with each other but she insists on giving us a little gift bag.

Devilsmommy · 14/02/2025 15:08

My 2 year old made me something at the childminders. Very cute though I don't really celebrate it myself

Gogogo12345 · 14/02/2025 15:07

No why would i

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 14/02/2025 15:06

My Mother's Day card is always signed from my son and the dog !

WhatATimeToBeAlive · 14/02/2025 15:04

Why would you? Can't adults have at least one thing to themselves?

ShinyAppleDreamingOfTheSea · 14/02/2025 15:01

Newbie8918 · 13/02/2025 19:21

I'm more shocked at the amount of people saying that it's about sex!!!!!!!!!!

Yes. Romantic love maybe - but when 12 year olds are sending valentines cards to their first crush at school (which is what I associate it with more than anything) that's not about sex. And if it is that's more worrying than extending the day to mean love in a family and friendship way.

Aquarius1234 · 14/02/2025 14:11

Never got a card from my parents when young.
Why would I ?

zerogrey · 14/02/2025 14:07

No, because it's fucking weird. Valentine's is for romantic relationships.

Fizbosshoes · 14/02/2025 14:00

Its never crossed my mind to do anything for my kids, although DH bought steak to cook for dinner and obviously teen DS is having one as well! (He'd eat 2 if he could get away with it!)

However when I was in the card shop I saw a small soft toy thought DD would like. But I didn't buy it then, I might get it and send it at later date

irregularegular · 14/02/2025 13:58

I've never heard of this! (kids are in early 20s)

KimberleyClark · 14/02/2025 13:56

I’ve had dogs in the past, we have no children, but I wouldn’t think of buying my DH Father’s Day card from the dog and he wouldn’t for me either.

steff13 · 14/02/2025 13:50

Picklelily99 · 13/02/2025 16:35

Don't be daft! It's a day for lovers, not kids. They don't have to be included in every event! Same as I wouldn't dream of buying 'happy mothers day grandad' or any other of that rubbish. My children buy ME mothers day stuff, not them buying for MY mam. I mean, she's dead anyway, but you get my meaning. There'll be mothers day cards from the bloody dog next!!!!

I have terrible news for you: they already sell Mother's and Father's Day cards from pets.

steff13 · 14/02/2025 13:49

Needmorelego · 14/02/2025 10:31

Why do people care so much about what other families do or don't celebrate?

This is the crux of the issue, really. It's a silly holiday, you can celebrate it or not however you like. There's literally no one policing this. I don't get why there's so much judgment about how other people choose to celebrate it. 🤷‍♀️