MIL calling DH during my C section asking him to order her a takeaway

So was she at your house looking after another dc or was she somewhere else just asking because she doesn't like apps.
It does seem a bit odd especially if the latter.

Yes.
I was shocked too.

To be fair you have no idea of her age.

It’s between mother and son …. I think you should talk to your partner about it

My surgeon asked my partner if he wanted to take photos and video it which he did 😂. Coolest thing ever. Although took me a while to be able to watch it without feeling funny. The anaesthetist also played music on her phone for me when I got weirded out by the silence of the theatre. I'd be fucking livid at your mil but it is something you will have to let go to stop the bitterness. I'm sure she will do worse in the years ahead 😂

I think it's pretty funny and assuming it didn't cause you any issues at the time I wouldn't think much if it.

Congratulations on your baby. It's incredible, I'm not surprised it's taken some time to process, you kind of have to piece it all together. I got my medical notes to look but there are huge chunks that are over whelmed with moments.

FH and the Midwife both had marmite on toast in our small delivery room, so between contractions I threw them both outside to eat The smell!
My MIL was fine, just proved to be emotional stunted in the long term. So don't read too much in to it.

@AshLeeKimb I can’t imagine being that self centred as to ask that of someone at that time. What on earth was she thinking?

I mean, absolutely idiotic! But so was your dh! They’re both equally as bad as each other. Surely mil could just ring up the takeaway and order over the phone? 😵‍💫
I wonder if she knew you would have had the baby by that time, and she rang with congratulations, said she was going to order takeaway to celebrate?

Like @CoolOtter, I would also love a blow-by-blow account.

Does anyone know what a Lancashire potato peeler is?

Maybe your MIL didn't know you were in the actual theatre at that time OP and she was craving a Chinese? Clutching at straws here!

Bonkers behaviour if she did know but more fool your dh for answering!

Why is he telling you this now btw?

Was he ordering a takeaway as well?

Unbelievable that he answered and did it.
You know that is not normal.

the MIDWIVES asked your DH to go to maccies for them?!

My husband had his phone on in the operating theatre for both my EMCS

DH was the issue here, not MIL.

It really makes me question how I feel about her as a whole and don't feel like I can forget it!

It’s obviously incredibly selfish of her to ask your DH to order her a take away if she knew you were both at the hospital for a C section but what about your DH? You surely mention him. He didn’t have to take the call and he didn’t have to order anything

It does sound like she is a bit bonkers, but that is up to her son to manage.

I'm a MIL, and I would never think to intrude on a birth day. The only reason I would ever text would be to get an update if the labour was running really late. And that would be to check on everyone, certainly not to order food! She does sound selfish.

When I went into hospital with contractions at 4.30 pm the mw’s said I wasn’t in labour and to walk around and they’d send me home at 9pm.
The mw’s then asked dh if he would pop to the nearby McDonalds for them.
He said no, he wouldn’t leave me.
Just as well because dd was born at 7.45 pm.

Unless you have an older child, who she was caring for and needed to provide food - it's crazy that he was looking at his phone to answer her.

@Challenger2A7 you've got it spot on!!

It's a little unclear, but my understanding of the post is that MiL phoned in the hour before surgery. Then DH put the order in for her either via app or phone. OP didn't notice. None of it actually happened during the surgery itself. It wasn't until afterwards when MiL rang back OP found out.

The ringing back afterwards is a bit iffy, but before? Especially if he put the order in via app. Hell I would have helped if I'd known. Anything to take my mind off the impending surgery.

As for not having phones on in theatres? Tell that to every single consultant, reg, SHO, midwife, nurse, ODP, student, and other staff. Using them (except to play music if requested) is obviously a no-no. Very unprofessional. But no-one actually turns them off. Medical equipment and mobile phones have come a long way and signals no longer interfere.

And ofc, taking photos of the new addition to our patient's family is actively encouraged during a C-section. Including during emergencies. Hell I've even taken photos of the baby during GAs. Just because the patient is asleep and the birth partner not in the room doesn't mean they have to entirely miss out on all the first moments of their baby we'd usually do in theatre.

I'd ignore it. MiL is me-centred. Maybe she did not realise the C-section was happening? Quite possible she forgot - or remembered but assumed her DS had nothing to do but hang around?
DH should practice what my DS says occasionally to me: 'mum, I'm sorry but I am busy just now'. At which point I say, oh, sorry, and hang up (unless it's a dire emergency which it once was, to my DD, who then hung up what she was doing).

Had mine on both times and was able to get lots of gruesome pictures with it.

Ha. Every time I see our fucking potato peeler I think of my DD’s birth - name/weight/photo - Mum: oh lovely! Do you have a Lancashire potato peeler??

(She was at my house looking after the other kids. But literally, who cares mother!!) I don’t even know what a Lancashire peeler is.

YANBU OP! In fact you sound entirely reasonable considering you’ve said you love MIL and wouldn’t say anything anyway. Congrats on your baby!