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To be hurt and annoyed at being dropped by the BBC?

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Ladyof2025 · 12/02/2025 18:14

BBC contacted me asking me to speak on camera about an aspect of local history I happen to know a bit about. I agreed and spent the next few days brushing up on the facts and then writing and rewriting a script and reading it out loud again and again until I knew it by heart and could speak confidently to camera as though I'd never said it before.

I do not have a pretty face, and am in my 60s and rather podgy, but I went to the trouble of going through my wardrobe for the perfect outfit that flattered my podginess, and had my hair cut specially and put on some make up, so I could be the best possible version of me that I could.

The production team visited, took me to the site and filmed me speaking. I did it smoothly and confidently and was glad that I had put in all the rehearsal so I came across as knowledgeable, professional and confident of my material. They said my performance was perfect, thanked me profusely and left.

After about a week they rang me to say that due to time and space issues the section of the programme that featured my input had been dropped. I felt absolutely gutted, not because I want to see myself on TV but because I had used up a lot of my valuable free time for several days preparing and rehearsing for it (for no fee I should add).

A few months later the programme I was dropped from came on TV and to my utter astonishment an attractive, slim young lady appeared, at the same site I was filmed at, and she spoke the exact words I had written and rehearsed! I nearly fell off my chair - the absolute bloody cheek of dropping ME but stealing the script that I had written. Thinking about it, I realised that they wanted my expert input, but not my saggy face or ample figure.

AIBU to be hurt and angry?

OP posts:
HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 20:58

I think it probably doesn't matter much to the audience, but it matters to the person who did the work I just think people should get credit for their contributions.

beenonthebox · 16/02/2025 20:50

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 20:43

@beenonthebox if the OP was on tv presenting her own research then viewers would assume it's either hers or is information in the public domain. If someone else presents it, they will make that assumption about the new presenter. As it is, they've seemingly used OPs efforts to make a programme that will generate money for the organisation, but not paid or credited a person who contributed their expertise.

And what if they do? I'm not being argumentative, I'm being serious - why would a viewer care? Unless someone is recalling a personal experience, I've never stopped to wonder if they were the ones to uncover the information.

Producethis · 16/02/2025 20:45

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 20:38

I'm not saying she didn't understand it, but most people who don't work in a particular industry, would trust the people who do and would expect their work to be used as initially agreed. And if that changes, would expect to be notified and compensated.

If a person agrees to contribute their research for free, in the expectation they will be presenting their own work, and then the terms change, it's not right imo for the production team to not credit or pay the OP.

I don’t disagree that she should have been made properly aware of the change, but it isn’t clear that there was any ‘deal’ whereby the sharing of the research was contingent on OP appearing on camera.

If it was, that would have been problematic in several ways.

I do think the OP deserves an explanation and potentially an apology - but the calls for naming the production and potentially outing the programme-makers are a step too far.

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 20:43

@beenonthebox if the OP was on tv presenting her own research then viewers would assume it's either hers or is information in the public domain. If someone else presents it, they will make that assumption about the new presenter. As it is, they've seemingly used OPs efforts to make a programme that will generate money for the organisation, but not paid or credited a person who contributed their expertise.

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 20:38

I'm not saying she didn't understand it, but most people who don't work in a particular industry, would trust the people who do and would expect their work to be used as initially agreed. And if that changes, would expect to be notified and compensated.

If a person agrees to contribute their research for free, in the expectation they will be presenting their own work, and then the terms change, it's not right imo for the production team to not credit or pay the OP.

Producethis · 16/02/2025 20:08

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 19:57

People who don't work in TV will likely sign release forms as requested, but still expect that their contribution will be used in the way initially presented to them and the basis on which they agreed to be part of the programme.

I'm not seeing how it isn't immoral to use someone's research (not information that was easily available on the public domain) and not give them credit or payment for their time.

Adults with full capacity can make their own decisions. It’s infantilising the OP - who is clearly intelligent and accomplished - to suggest she was unable to understand the contents of the release form.

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 19:57

People who don't work in TV will likely sign release forms as requested, but still expect that their contribution will be used in the way initially presented to them and the basis on which they agreed to be part of the programme.

I'm not seeing how it isn't immoral to use someone's research (not information that was easily available on the public domain) and not give them credit or payment for their time.

Producethis · 16/02/2025 19:25

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 19:20

It is immoral to use the work OP has done and not give her credit or payment, having previously indicated that she would be on camera presenting her own research.

I disagree.

It’s rude not to give her a proper explanation (if that is what has happened) but there is nothing immoral about not using a contribution that, for whatever reason, wasn’t suitable for inclusion.

The release forms are very clear on the right to use the contribution in whatever way - or no way at all - the programme makers see fit.

If they had persuaded her to give them her research on the basis of being on tv, that would have been immoral - firstly for making a deal like that, and then for reneging on it.

As that didn’t happen, there is no question of immorality here.

beenonthebox · 16/02/2025 19:23

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 19:20

It is immoral to use the work OP has done and not give her credit or payment, having previously indicated that she would be on camera presenting her own research.

How would anyone watching have known it was her work?

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 19:20

It is immoral to use the work OP has done and not give her credit or payment, having previously indicated that she would be on camera presenting her own research.

Producethis · 16/02/2025 18:55

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 18:41

Even if OP signed away her rights to the material, she did it on the basis of the information provided by the production team. If they'd been upfront and said that they wanted a professional presenter to be on camera, she might well have still agreed or negotiated payment for her efforts, but that would have been agreed from a position where there was truthfulness from the programme makers. It's about being treated respectfully and honestly and not lied to or used.

There is no indication she was lied to. They may have changed their mind - which they are allowed to do. It does, from the limited info we have, appear that they weren’t clear that the info would still be included, just not with her saying it.

We don’t film stuff we have zero intention of using - it’s too expensive and time is too tight. If they wanted her info and not her contribution on screen, they would have done a research call / meeting instead - likely days or weeks in advance to enable time for a script to be written. Filming a presenter redoing the piece and including the fresh info the OP had revealed in her interview will have been a last minute and pressured decision - some poor producer will have had to pull a script out of their arse, on location. Unless the OP had already given the info to the researcher in their earlier communications, in which case they again had no reason to film her at all if they had no intention of using it.

It sounds to me (again, form the very limited info here) like poor practice not to have been clear they were including the piece in a different way, but it’s not illegal or immoral or anything that would excuse making this into a nasty campaign against the producers.

PointsSouth · 16/02/2025 18:48

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 18:09

"Madge" has already outed herself to anyone who knows her.

...but she may not want to out herself to anyone who doesn't.

Can't say I blame her.

HopingForTheBest25 · 16/02/2025 18:41

Even if OP signed away her rights to the material, she did it on the basis of the information provided by the production team. If they'd been upfront and said that they wanted a professional presenter to be on camera, she might well have still agreed or negotiated payment for her efforts, but that would have been agreed from a position where there was truthfulness from the programme makers. It's about being treated respectfully and honestly and not lied to or used.

Producethis · 16/02/2025 18:34

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 18:14

It's not unfair to the people working on the show if they've done something wrong.

Yes it is.

They haven’t done anything illegal - at worst (and without minimising the effect it’s had on OP), it’s poor communication in explaining why the content has been included in a different way.

People make mistakes but they should be dealt with in a respectful, professional way, not a misguided witch hunt by loads of randoms online.

You have nothing to do with this, beyond supporting the OP on an anonymous forum, and pressuring her to reveal anything more is unfair to the people actually involved.

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 18:14

Producethis · 16/02/2025 18:11

It would also be unfair to the people who worked on the show. We have no way to tell what has actually gone down here. Turning it into a witch hunt isn’t fair on anyone.

Hopefully the OP will get some answers and an apology if required, and can move on from the disappointment.

It's not unfair to the people working on the show if they've done something wrong.

Producethis · 16/02/2025 18:11

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 18:09

"Madge" has already outed herself to anyone who knows her.

It would also be unfair to the people who worked on the show. We have no way to tell what has actually gone down here. Turning it into a witch hunt isn’t fair on anyone.

Hopefully the OP will get some answers and an apology if required, and can move on from the disappointment.

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 18:09

SnoozingFox · 16/02/2025 18:06

There are loads of people on here who love an advance search. OP posts her script, someone recognises her and thinks oooh, that's Madge, does an advance search and then looks at her opinions on all sorts of different things. OP is entirely reasonable to want to preserve her anonymity and we all need to respect that.

"Madge" has already outed herself to anyone who knows her.

SnoozingFox · 16/02/2025 18:06

There are loads of people on here who love an advance search. OP posts her script, someone recognises her and thinks oooh, that's Madge, does an advance search and then looks at her opinions on all sorts of different things. OP is entirely reasonable to want to preserve her anonymity and we all need to respect that.

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 18:02

SnoozingFox · 16/02/2025 17:57

I totally understand why she wouldn't want to post her script as it would be very outing to anyone who knew her.

Unfair to pressure her to do this.

No it wouldn't.

Anyone who knew her was already primed to watch the TV show. She told all her friends she was going to be on it. And the details she's given on this thread would be enough for anyone from the TV company to recognise her already.

As the script doesn't mention her and the show doesn't mention her, there is nothing more outing than has already been disclosed.

NetZeroZealot · 16/02/2025 17:59

SnoozingFox · 16/02/2025 17:57

I totally understand why she wouldn't want to post her script as it would be very outing to anyone who knew her.

Unfair to pressure her to do this.

Agree, this is coming across as a bit bullying.

The OP has had some good advice from people who work in the industry here.

Why can't we leave it there?

SnoozingFox · 16/02/2025 17:57

I totally understand why she wouldn't want to post her script as it would be very outing to anyone who knew her.

Unfair to pressure her to do this.

MasterBeth · 16/02/2025 17:50

Kitten1982 · 16/02/2025 16:39

This. Part of my history research degree involved me uncovering info from deep in the National Archives and from local archives around the country. The entire point of my research was to challenge the historical orthodoxy around the subject, which I feel is wrong. History is a big old period covering everything ever. There’s no arrogance in being able to single out your research, especially with the conclusions that research led to. And she did say in the original post that it was her actual script that had been used.

She did say that, and then later said "Maybe not every single word was the same" so it's actually impossible to know the truth unless she posts her script and a link to the show.

Any reason you couldn't do that @Ladyof2025 ?

beenonthebox · 16/02/2025 17:06

Kitten1982 · 16/02/2025 16:39

This. Part of my history research degree involved me uncovering info from deep in the National Archives and from local archives around the country. The entire point of my research was to challenge the historical orthodoxy around the subject, which I feel is wrong. History is a big old period covering everything ever. There’s no arrogance in being able to single out your research, especially with the conclusions that research led to. And she did say in the original post that it was her actual script that had been used.

And on the back of that, the point I made several times - which the OP has never addressed - is that if her piece to camera was about the greater good of raising the profile of her cause, is it not something at least that the information she collated has at least been used?

Even if the OP had been on TV as filmed, how on earth would a lay-person know that she was the one who'd uncovered that information? I wouldn't. By going on the telly, she wasn't ever going to get the credit she deserves for it, no matter what.

If I knew why the OP did this piece to camera in the first place, it would make it much easier to understand her unhappiness.

Kitten1982 · 16/02/2025 16:39

crankytoes · 14/02/2025 21:30

@TaggieO

How can you possibly know what research every single other person has done on a topic?! That’s so bloody arrogant. If you found it, someone else with an interest in the topic can too. I’m pretty sure you aren’t the only person who knows how to look at books and papers, just because something isn’t on the internet!
It might not be arrogant at all. The OP could discover something because it is linked to their family or because it's connected to something they then selves created or found. There are lots of ways it could be impossible for anyone else to have discovered some complex aspect of something.
What's bloody arrogant is your assertion. Arrogant and rather lacking imagination.

This. Part of my history research degree involved me uncovering info from deep in the National Archives and from local archives around the country. The entire point of my research was to challenge the historical orthodoxy around the subject, which I feel is wrong. History is a big old period covering everything ever. There’s no arrogance in being able to single out your research, especially with the conclusions that research led to. And she did say in the original post that it was her actual script that had been used.

Kitten1982 · 16/02/2025 16:34

I’d be furious. That’s not on at all.

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