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To be hurt and annoyed at being dropped by the BBC?

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Ladyof2025 · 12/02/2025 18:14

BBC contacted me asking me to speak on camera about an aspect of local history I happen to know a bit about. I agreed and spent the next few days brushing up on the facts and then writing and rewriting a script and reading it out loud again and again until I knew it by heart and could speak confidently to camera as though I'd never said it before.

I do not have a pretty face, and am in my 60s and rather podgy, but I went to the trouble of going through my wardrobe for the perfect outfit that flattered my podginess, and had my hair cut specially and put on some make up, so I could be the best possible version of me that I could.

The production team visited, took me to the site and filmed me speaking. I did it smoothly and confidently and was glad that I had put in all the rehearsal so I came across as knowledgeable, professional and confident of my material. They said my performance was perfect, thanked me profusely and left.

After about a week they rang me to say that due to time and space issues the section of the programme that featured my input had been dropped. I felt absolutely gutted, not because I want to see myself on TV but because I had used up a lot of my valuable free time for several days preparing and rehearsing for it (for no fee I should add).

A few months later the programme I was dropped from came on TV and to my utter astonishment an attractive, slim young lady appeared, at the same site I was filmed at, and she spoke the exact words I had written and rehearsed! I nearly fell off my chair - the absolute bloody cheek of dropping ME but stealing the script that I had written. Thinking about it, I realised that they wanted my expert input, but not my saggy face or ample figure.

AIBU to be hurt and angry?

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Yalta · 12/02/2025 18:56

WilmaTitsDrop · 12/02/2025 18:42

Well I'm almost 56 🤷‍♂️

The point is, when you're asked to speak about the subject you work in, you arm yourself with facts and then literally chat/answer the presenter's questions.

The fact the OP took it on herself to write a script completely unprompted, was probably why they decided against showing it.

These things are supposed to flow naturally.

Doesn’t matter what happened, those words and that knowledge was hers to impart. Not for someone to copy and pay someone else to use them

There is a big difference between 56 and 60+

When you get there and find yourself in need of a job, let me know how you get on if you don’t know anyone who can pull strings

You might not retire for another 7 years but in the eyes of employers you should have already retired.

TwigletsAndRadishes · 12/02/2025 18:56

Eyesopenwideawake · 12/02/2025 18:17

Were they the words in your script? Did they have a copy of your script?

Screw being hurt - they've stolen from you, anger is very justified. Get in touch with the producer (text/email) and ask coolly what happened?

They had it on film. They wouldn't have needed a paper copy in order to replicate all the content.

herbygarden · 12/02/2025 18:53

That's disgusting!! 100% complain and invoice them for your time and script! Surely it's discrimination too. I am incandescent on your behalf!!!

NotDarkGothicMama · 12/02/2025 18:53

If this is real then YANBU. I was going to say YABU, segments get dropped all the time, it's disappointing but don't take it personally, but nicking material isn't on.

Clarinet1 · 12/02/2025 18:51

As PP have said, if you can prove that these were your words and your knowledge and experience take some sort of action - people were watching this for local history, not a dolly bird!

TorroFerney · 12/02/2025 18:50

Yalta · 12/02/2025 18:47

After she had learned the script
that was yours I presume you have your script on your computer with a date stamp so you can show when you wrote it.

If you did it for free then I presume you didn’t sign anything
I only presume they thought they had paid you and signed a contract signing away any rights
I would be seeing a solicitor about this

How can you learn a script when you are being interviewed? A script works because each person reads their bit.

FiveBarGate · 12/02/2025 18:50

WilmaTitsDrop · 12/02/2025 18:25

I've been on the BBC for a similar reason and I find this very strange.

All the clothes sorting, hair cutting, writing your own script (who even does that??) was entirely your own choice.

They normally just want people to chat naturally about the subject, which is probably what the other woman did.

This.

My work involves getting experts for this type of programme. No one would ever be asked to write a script.
At best they would be given questions in advance to prepare but the point is usually that it doesn't sound like a script.

It's odd for them to use someone else though. I wonder if your edit was very difficult. Speaking very fast, giving overly full answers that can't be cut to the required 30 seconds while still making sense.

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Mightymoog · 12/02/2025 18:49

Baggingarea · 12/02/2025 18:41

My ears prickled at "rehearsed". Nothing comes off worse on telly than someone who has memorised what they wanted to say and spouts it out like a robot. Its really jarring and not engaging for the viewer. Be honest with yourself op - did you do this?

that's a really nasty reply

thepariscrimefiles · 12/02/2025 18:48

WilmaTitsDrop · 12/02/2025 18:25

I've been on the BBC for a similar reason and I find this very strange.

All the clothes sorting, hair cutting, writing your own script (who even does that??) was entirely your own choice.

They normally just want people to chat naturally about the subject, which is probably what the other woman did.

She obviously read and learned OP's script. If she was just chatting naturally, she wouldn't be using exactly the same words as OP, she would be using her own words.

Why on earth wouldn't OP want to look her best if she was appearing on TV?

Yalta · 12/02/2025 18:47

WilmaTitsDrop · 12/02/2025 18:25

I've been on the BBC for a similar reason and I find this very strange.

All the clothes sorting, hair cutting, writing your own script (who even does that??) was entirely your own choice.

They normally just want people to chat naturally about the subject, which is probably what the other woman did.

After she had learned the script
that was yours I presume you have your script on your computer with a date stamp so you can show when you wrote it.

If you did it for free then I presume you didn’t sign anything
I only presume they thought they had paid you and signed a contract signing away any rights
I would be seeing a solicitor about this

LlynTegid · 12/02/2025 18:47

buybuysellsell · 12/02/2025 18:30

Appalling. Complain to the BBC and the producer you were dealing with. Threaten to take it to the press.

If you can bear to have your name in it, I think some of the tabloids might be interested, they love bashing the BBC.

Sapienza · 12/02/2025 18:46

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thepariscrimefiles · 12/02/2025 18:45

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Report it then. Don't troll hunt.

NotVeryFunny · 12/02/2025 18:44

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This. I am struggling to believe this. The BBC have plenty of people on who are not conventionally attractive or who are older etc etc.

IsItBeesThoughLooshkin · 12/02/2025 18:43

BeachRide · 12/02/2025 18:38

Anyone remember the Beijing Olympics which had a slim pretty girl miming the words to a song whilst the talented, slightly plainer larger girl was put behind a screen?

It was a little girl, a child with wonky teeth, being replaced by another little girl with nice straight teeth, but yes I do remember this.

alwaysdeleteyourcookies · 12/02/2025 18:42

If they stole your script, you should definitely complain.

WilmaTitsDrop · 12/02/2025 18:42

Sallyslider653 · 12/02/2025 18:32

That's ridiculous! Op was being professional by being properly prepared. Any serious person asked to showcase their professional skills on camera would do this. It's not remotely strange! Try being sixty in today's workplace and you will find out how difficult it is to maintain one's poise and confidence in the face of both misogynism and ageism combined.

Well I'm almost 56 🤷‍♂️

The point is, when you're asked to speak about the subject you work in, you arm yourself with facts and then literally chat/answer the presenter's questions.

The fact the OP took it on herself to write a script completely unprompted, was probably why they decided against showing it.

These things are supposed to flow naturally.

Lavenderfarmcottage · 12/02/2025 18:42

I think that’s abhorrent for a national broadcaster and I would ask a law firm to take on your discrimination case. Even if you aren’t an employee, it was your time and energy and your words. I think you could have a claim.

completely unprofessional opinion

PointsSouth · 12/02/2025 18:41

scorpiogirly · 12/02/2025 18:26

Wow. Just when you think the lowest of the low couldn't sink any lower. The BBC really are scum in more ways than one. Thankfully they no longer get a penny off me.

Excellent response. Proportionate, measured, balanced, informed and backed up.

Have you thought of a career in TV journalism?

EasternStandard · 12/02/2025 18:41

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Why?

Baggingarea · 12/02/2025 18:41

My ears prickled at "rehearsed". Nothing comes off worse on telly than someone who has memorised what they wanted to say and spouts it out like a robot. Its really jarring and not engaging for the viewer. Be honest with yourself op - did you do this?

WilmaTitsDrop · 12/02/2025 18:39

Danioyellow · 12/02/2025 18:31

Who else was supposed to write the script when it was the op providing the information?

No-one!

There is no script, otherwise they wouldn't bother interviewing randoms.

They'd just pull the info off the internet and hand it to whoever they want.

BeachRide · 12/02/2025 18:38

Anyone remember the Beijing Olympics which had a slim pretty girl miming the words to a song whilst the talented, slightly plainer larger girl was put behind a screen?

optimistic47 · 12/02/2025 18:38

I am really sorry you were treated this way. As a journalist, I can tell you that I have been ripped off by Editors a lot as a freelancer who deliberately string you along, come up with some excuse not to 'run' with your feature after stalling for several weeks, and then to add insult to injury, produce a new feature weeks later with the same ideas and words. I recently had an editor from a leading magazine who strung me along for two and a half months saying she really liked my story. Then it went to she was 'out and about' and would get back to me, to then saying that she needed to check space in her magazine, to then saying the future of the magazine is up in the air. I told her directly what I thought of her treatment of me without swear words and made it clear that I am keeping her emails on file in case the story is covered by someone else. I would follow this up and put an official complaint in with the highers up. Check if you have original correspondence that backs up and mirrors their actions with the other woman. P.S please don't put yourself down. You didn't deserve to be treated like this.

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