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DS had disruptive child sat behind him

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CocoBean22 · 12/02/2025 15:53

There is a child in DS class year 3 who has spent the majority of his time of primary in the sensory hub but this term seems to be spending more time in the classroom with the other children and his teaching assistant sat next to him.

DS has been coming home saying that child X is sat behind him in class, and he sits and watches Paw patrol on a laptop with no ear phones and the volume on whilst my DS and the rest of the class try and concentrate and learn their maths.

He shouts out swear words and is very disruptive.

DS said he was told off by the teacher today for 'turning around' to see what child x was watching as the volume was quite loud and it was distracting him.

Shall I let it go?
Should I speak with the teacher?
And if so what would you say?

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CaptainFuture · 12/02/2025 16:11

craigth162 · 12/02/2025 16:07

So how would you suggest they go about acclimatising the child to a classroom environment? Alot of kids use ipad and music etc as a comfort tool.My son cannot currently tolerate headphones of any kind. He hasnt started school yet but I'm glad he will likely go to a very specialist setting. I'd hate him to subjected to parents being so harsh.

I also have an older child with no additional needs but who has gone through school with others who do so i have seen both sides.

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Why is parents seeking an appropriate learning environment for their dc 'harsh?

Reugny · 12/02/2025 16:10

craigth162 · 12/02/2025 16:07

So how would you suggest they go about acclimatising the child to a classroom environment? Alot of kids use ipad and music etc as a comfort tool.My son cannot currently tolerate headphones of any kind. He hasnt started school yet but I'm glad he will likely go to a very specialist setting. I'd hate him to subjected to parents being so harsh.

I also have an older child with no additional needs but who has gone through school with others who do so i have seen both sides.

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Doing it while the other children aren't doing Maths or any other subject that requires lots of concentration.

The needs of 1 shouldn't disrupt the learning of 20-29 others.

craigth162 · 12/02/2025 16:07

Merryoldgoat · 12/02/2025 16:02

This is absolute rubbish.

If the child cannot cope in the classroom allowing them to distract everyone else isn’t the answer.

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So how would you suggest they go about acclimatising the child to a classroom environment? Alot of kids use ipad and music etc as a comfort tool.My son cannot currently tolerate headphones of any kind. He hasnt started school yet but I'm glad he will likely go to a very specialist setting. I'd hate him to subjected to parents being so harsh.

I also have an older child with no additional needs but who has gone through school with others who do so i have seen both sides.

Sassybooklover · 12/02/2025 16:07

If the child won't wear headphones (some children with SEN don't like the way they feel), then the child shouldn't be in the classroom. If the child is happy to wear headphones, then headphones should be worn. Allowing a child to distract the entire class isn't something that should be tolerated.

Savemefromwetdog · 12/02/2025 16:06

I would absolutely raise this. Children can’t learn like this.

WitchesCauldron · 12/02/2025 16:05

craigth162 · 12/02/2025 15:54

Let it go. You have no idea how much work it has taken to get this child into classroom. I'm sure the long term plan will be to use paw patrol etc less and less and he begins to cope.

But why should her son's education be affected?? She should definitely speak with the teacher.

WitchesCauldron · 12/02/2025 16:03

LondonPapa · 12/02/2025 15:54

I’d talk to the teacher and raise concerns. This isn’t a positive learning environment at all.

Agree 100%

Watching Paw Patrol in class?? What's the point in being at school...

DemonicCaveMaggot · 12/02/2025 16:02

I would talk to the teacher. Hopefully the child will wear headphones although if he has sensory issues he may not. At the very least he should be sitting further away from children who are trying to concentrate and the volume should be turned down.

If he can only sit in the classroom while watching Paw Patrol I would argue that he isn't ready for the main classroom during quieter lessons yet.

Merryoldgoat · 12/02/2025 16:02

craigth162 · 12/02/2025 15:54

Let it go. You have no idea how much work it has taken to get this child into classroom. I'm sure the long term plan will be to use paw patrol etc less and less and he begins to cope.

This is absolute rubbish.

If the child cannot cope in the classroom allowing them to distract everyone else isn’t the answer.

SometimesCalmPerson · 12/02/2025 15:59

I would bypass the teacher and go straight to the head to tell them the impact of this on your child’s education and experience in the classroom.

Darkgames · 12/02/2025 15:57

Yes you should speak to the teacher.

It’s not fair that the whole class is distracted by one child’s laptop.

I wouldn’t say anything about the child shouting out as that’s not something that can be helped easily.

Reugny · 12/02/2025 15:57

AuntyMabelandPippin · 12/02/2025 15:54

I would ask that the child wears headphones if watching something on the iPad.

This.

There are lots of different types of headphones/earphones the child can try.

craigth162 · 12/02/2025 15:54

Let it go. You have no idea how much work it has taken to get this child into classroom. I'm sure the long term plan will be to use paw patrol etc less and less and he begins to cope.

LondonPapa · 12/02/2025 15:54

I’d talk to the teacher and raise concerns. This isn’t a positive learning environment at all.

AuntyMabelandPippin · 12/02/2025 15:54

I would ask that the child wears headphones if watching something on the iPad.