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to think some people think WFH should be a constant nose to the grindstone?

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Yodeloo · 12/02/2025 15:45

I think some jobs are like that definitely. Heavy workload, helplines etc

Some people think all WFH should be like this and get horrified because someone hung some washing out or helped out a family member for a short time. Plenty of jobs have flexibility and it is about getting the job done not just being present in front of the computer non stop.

I get all my life admin done throughout the day around work. I do an exercise class most mornings and then start work later on the days I WFH. I will meet up with friends, work on my side business. Nobody cares at my work. All targets are met consistently.

Is it jealousy that people get so upset?

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WonderfulUsername · 14/02/2025 17:44

Yodeloo · 14/02/2025 17:24

It is not a very easy job that has very simple targets and is not minimum wage.

It is a professional role and I do have to meet deadlines. Still not expected to have my nose to the grindstone.

Well then you've described it very badly here.

It sounds as though just about anyone could do your job, and they tend not to be much above minimum wage 🤷‍♂️

HotCrossBunplease · 14/02/2025 17:39

Yodeloo · 14/02/2025 16:56

Do we need to caveat what we say on MN as to be careful not to normalise things?

Well yes, given that your aim was to start a debate in which you were arguing that your viewpoint should be shared by the majority. It’s pretty disingenuous to support your case with facts that you know to be very specific to you, and ethically questionable to encourage people to do something that could get them into trouble by giving the impression that everybody does it.

Yodeloo · 14/02/2025 17:24

WonderfulUsername · 14/02/2025 17:17

You sound as though you're saying you have a very easy job with very simple targets.

That's fine, I know a few people on minimum wage with the same sort of setup and it works for them.

But that's not really representative of other people with more professional jobs with real deadlines to meet.

Those are the people with their noses to the grindstone and for good reason, as they're paid accordingly.

It is not a very easy job that has very simple targets and is not minimum wage.

It is a professional role and I do have to meet deadlines. Still not expected to have my nose to the grindstone.

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SpareBoxRoomForEmergencies · 14/02/2025 17:17

The problem with expecting everyone to accept that flexibility works best for you, is that we have to accept it from everybody else who WFH too. So if you work best from 4am until 11am then go to bed for four hours, meanwhile your colleague is only just getting going at midday, how is your colleague supposed to communicate effectively with you, without waiting hours for you to return his call after your long nap? Then just as you are clocking off for the day, another colleague insists that she does her best work from 7pm until midnight. She needs to speak to you, but you're having your dinner/putting your kids to bed, so she has to send you an email instead, which you won't read until 4am tomorrow. It requires an urgent response but being that it's 4am you can't ring her.

So all in all, it's poor for communication, poor for teamwork, poor for productivity, nobody takes responsibility for anything because it's always sitting in someone else's virtual in-tray awaiting a response, and what can you possibly be expected to do about that?

WonderfulUsername · 14/02/2025 17:17

You sound as though you're saying you have a very easy job with very simple targets.

That's fine, I know a few people on minimum wage with the same sort of setup and it works for them.

But that's not really representative of other people with more professional jobs with real deadlines to meet.

Those are the people with their noses to the grindstone and for good reason, as they're paid accordingly.

ThePartingOfTheWays · 14/02/2025 17:12

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:59

I agree. In my experience, there has always been one or more individuals who do the bare minimum on a good day. Managing and motivating lazy people is a tireless task. There are also those who attempt to look busy when the boss is visible. The variety of the human race 😂

And those are just the ones who know they're taking the piss! There's also a second category of people who appear to be doing it accidentally.

MajorCarolDanvers · 14/02/2025 17:07

Some of it’s jealousy.

some of it is that people are in junior jobs and don’t realise not all jobs require nose to the grindstone, clocking in and out

my job is totally flexible and I’m measured by outcomes. Not hours clocked or keystrokes.

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 17:06

FaithFables · 14/02/2025 17:04

I don't know about that. The company I work for is international and 80%of their workforce WFH. Everyone in my dept is on £12ph, and there are thousands of us, that's just the UK part for this dept. There are hundreds of other depts were people are on the same money and WFH.

Thank you. Food for thought

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 17:05

ShapedLikeAPastry · 14/02/2025 17:02

People who WFH aren't exploiting anyone, and people who have on-site clock in / clock out aren't all working-class heroes, either. Don't be bloody silly.

You are very rude

FaithFables · 14/02/2025 17:04

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:54

Thank you. Id say you are likely to be the exception rather than norm

I don't know about that. The company I work for is international and 80%of their workforce WFH. Everyone in my dept is on £12ph, and there are thousands of us, that's just the UK part for this dept. There are hundreds of other depts were people are on the same money and WFH.

ShapedLikeAPastry · 14/02/2025 17:02

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:52

My point of view is never irrelevant, same as everyone else.
My POV epitomises the unfairness of the system. Some are exploited whilst others exploit!

People who WFH aren't exploiting anyone, and people who have on-site clock in / clock out aren't all working-class heroes, either. Don't be bloody silly.

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:59

ThePartingOfTheWays · 14/02/2025 16:51

There are people who use any workplace environment as a tool for taking the piss. I have multiple examples and experiences of those who misuse those systems when working in person. Sadly, management are not immune to this! If you've not noticed that, either you've been lucky or you're much better at detecting piss taking in some settings than others.

I agree. In my experience, there has always been one or more individuals who do the bare minimum on a good day. Managing and motivating lazy people is a tireless task. There are also those who attempt to look busy when the boss is visible. The variety of the human race 😂

Yodeloo · 14/02/2025 16:56

HotCrossBunplease · 14/02/2025 16:30

You’ve basically repeated what I said. You didn’t caveat the initial mention of your “side business” with any reference to your circumstances being unusual. My point is that it’s not a great idea to normalise something when it is unusual in terms of most workplace norms.

Do we need to caveat what we say on MN as to be careful not to normalise things?

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Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:54

FaithFables · 14/02/2025 16:41

How is it a great societal divide? I earn just above MW, yet work WFH full time. Confused

Thank you. Id say you are likely to be the exception rather than norm

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:52

ShapedLikeAPastry · 14/02/2025 16:36

Right, so your point is irrelevant then, isn't it?

My point of view is never irrelevant, same as everyone else.
My POV epitomises the unfairness of the system. Some are exploited whilst others exploit!

ThePartingOfTheWays · 14/02/2025 16:51

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:22

Interesting point. I appreciate that life is unfair and it seems that the unskilled/ manual workforce are disproportionately unfairly representative in your examples.
My point is that WFH enables some to take the P+++. IME, these posts typically represent middle and upper classes. I have also worked in a team where some WFH, my interaction with them compounded my assumptions. And these people were middle/upper management.
I'm fully aware that there are people who work productivally at home who don't misuse their freedom to do so. However, I have multiple examples and experiences of those who misuse the system

There are people who use any workplace environment as a tool for taking the piss. I have multiple examples and experiences of those who misuse those systems when working in person. Sadly, management are not immune to this! If you've not noticed that, either you've been lucky or you're much better at detecting piss taking in some settings than others.

BreezyScroller · 14/02/2025 16:47

WFH should be the same as working in the office.

In some places you are glued to your desk between 9 and 6, in other roles you have a lot of flexibility.

I work with grown-ups, even when in the office people can disappear to the gym downstairs for 1 hour or 2 at some point during the day. They don't when they're busy, but most find it easier than squeezing it before or after work. They are not moaning because they are asked to do 5mn of overtime. There's not real concept of overtime for a few hours here and there anyway.

Again, it's professional adults, they can manage their requirements. Makes no difference when they are home.

The clock watchers who faint at the idea of working 45 seconds before their time, or 30seconds later, on the other hand...

BreezyScroller · 14/02/2025 16:44

WFH enables some to take the P+++.
of course

but so does working in the office. Some people are king of doing bugger all but just showing their face. Some people are king of "sick leave"

Slackers will be slackers.

The majority is more efficient, it's pretty easy to check when you are managing them.

FaithFables · 14/02/2025 16:41

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 12:55

THIS. OP's story epitomises the unfairness of WFH and why companies are requesting a RTO. As for meeting targets and company not worried, my question is are you paid per job or for specific contracted hours?
In my workplace, there are groups of people who have to clock in and out (yes, in 2025) and others who WFH. Epitomises the great societal divide,
I know people who have given up paid childcare whilst wfh?????. looked after GC, visiting hairdressers and nailbars, gardening groups (as some examples), all whilst WFH. Says it all
As always, I am prepared to be shouted out on this

How is it a great societal divide? I earn just above MW, yet work WFH full time. Confused

ShapedLikeAPastry · 14/02/2025 16:36

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:25

Of course they are not doing the same roles

Right, so your point is irrelevant then, isn't it?

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:35

Ddakji · 13/02/2025 07:24

So deal with their managers. They were clearly failing when their staff were in the office full time, hiding behind a culture of presenteeism.

Or realise that it’s not the end of the world if someone does an exercise class and makes up the time later. Not everything has to slot into a 9-5 pattern and might actually be better with flexibility.

The management are likely to be at it too

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:32

Fizbosshoes · 14/02/2025 13:57

I think I remember the person, on AMA. IIRC they were looking after a child aswell and were doing 2 "full time" jobs that each required 1 or 2 hours work per day

Says it all.

HotCrossBunplease · 14/02/2025 16:30

Yodeloo · 14/02/2025 15:37

Because other people could get in trouble, I shouldn't mention talking about running my side business? If it is in breach of someone's employment contract then they need to check and make the decision whether to take the risk.

It is not an issue for me. I hit all my targets consistently. If I wasn't then it would raise suspicion about how I spend my time. I would rather keep my employer happy by doing everything that needs to be done in the most efficient way and then focus on all the other things I can do for myself in working time.

You’ve basically repeated what I said. You didn’t caveat the initial mention of your “side business” with any reference to your circumstances being unusual. My point is that it’s not a great idea to normalise something when it is unusual in terms of most workplace norms.

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:25

ShapedLikeAPastry · 14/02/2025 14:50

In my workplace, there are groups of people who have to clock in and out (yes, in 2025) and others who WFH. Epitomises the great societal divide

Are they fulfilling exactly the same roles? Because I could say the same for my workplace, but that's because different groups of people in my large organisation have different jobs.

If both groups are indeed doing exactly the same role then I would suggest that's a shit management issue, not a societal one.

Of course they are not doing the same roles

Praying4Peace · 14/02/2025 16:22

ThePartingOfTheWays · 14/02/2025 15:48

Presumably you apply the same principle and post just as much criticism of jobs that pay more than others, or have better benefits such as pensions, maternity leave etc? Or more actually, since not everyone does want to work remotely whereas everyone likes more money.

Weird the way we don't seem to see as many threads saying what a great social divide it is that some people get great maternity pay and others SMP, some people get twice as much annual leave as others etc.

Interesting point. I appreciate that life is unfair and it seems that the unskilled/ manual workforce are disproportionately unfairly representative in your examples.
My point is that WFH enables some to take the P+++. IME, these posts typically represent middle and upper classes. I have also worked in a team where some WFH, my interaction with them compounded my assumptions. And these people were middle/upper management.
I'm fully aware that there are people who work productivally at home who don't misuse their freedom to do so. However, I have multiple examples and experiences of those who misuse the system

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