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to think some people think WFH should be a constant nose to the grindstone?

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Yodeloo · 12/02/2025 15:45

I think some jobs are like that definitely. Heavy workload, helplines etc

Some people think all WFH should be like this and get horrified because someone hung some washing out or helped out a family member for a short time. Plenty of jobs have flexibility and it is about getting the job done not just being present in front of the computer non stop.

I get all my life admin done throughout the day around work. I do an exercise class most mornings and then start work later on the days I WFH. I will meet up with friends, work on my side business. Nobody cares at my work. All targets are met consistently.

Is it jealousy that people get so upset?

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LlynTegid · 12/02/2025 18:52

The skivers, the minimalists, the people who never meet deadlines, those who are always late for meetings or calls, we all know or have known people like that.

Because of that, those who wfh get tarred with the same brush.

aCatCalledFawkes · 12/02/2025 18:52

user1471556818 · 12/02/2025 16:25

And this is why some employers, press , government and the public think WFH is affecting the economy and everyone's skiving.

Right. So paying local business to do exercise classes or doing your shopping in your local Tesco isn’t supporting the economy 🙄. All of which I did when I was in the office, swam at lunch time and more than once did my shopping in the local Tesco but no not good enough 🙄🙄
Do you mean the goverment want us to pay for over priced coffee and lunches? Because I didn’t do that anyway.

LostittoBostik · 12/02/2025 18:51

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/02/2025 15:51

If you have specific wfh working hours, surely you should be working during them? Why should your employer be paying you to do your laundry and go to an exercise class? Confused

If you have totally flexible working hours and are allowed to do your work any time as long as it gets done, then obviously the question isn't really relevant.

Why should your employer pay you to have a chat with your colleague in the kitchen about their holiday? But everyone does this when working in the office. It's different to take 5 to hand washing out or make a DC a cup of tea when they get home

Yodeloo · 12/02/2025 18:51

1SillySossij · 12/02/2025 18:36

The tide is turning, more and more people are getting hoiked back into the office. Enjoy it while it lasts guys!

Fortunately my employers are not hoiking us back to the office. Hybrid working in my organisation is here to stay 😂

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WimbyAce · 12/02/2025 18:48

I think more time is wasted in the office tbh, chatting, trips to the cafe, making drinks and more chatting......

Elliania · 12/02/2025 18:42

My partner often finds he gets more work done when he WFH instead of in the office. He says it's much harder for people to interrupt him when he's trying to get something done. Sometimes people genuinely need to ask him a question or talk to him about work but often they just want a chat. I know he finds it incredibly frustrating at times.

2024riot · 12/02/2025 18:41

@Nothatgingerpirate
Why on earth would you feel qualified to comment

Your opinion is entirely irrelevant

Yodeloo · 12/02/2025 18:40

user1471556818 · 12/02/2025 16:25

And this is why some employers, press , government and the public think WFH is affecting the economy and everyone's skiving.

They think everyone is skiving? I meet all my targets consistently.

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Yodeloo · 12/02/2025 18:38

AllProperTeaIsTheft · 12/02/2025 15:51

If you have specific wfh working hours, surely you should be working during them? Why should your employer be paying you to do your laundry and go to an exercise class? Confused

If you have totally flexible working hours and are allowed to do your work any time as long as it gets done, then obviously the question isn't really relevant.

I have specific working hours with flexibility. I can do my exercise class in the day and make up in the evening if needed. Or sometimes it is just really quiet - only done an hour's work today.

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1SillySossij · 12/02/2025 18:36

The tide is turning, more and more people are getting hoiked back into the office. Enjoy it while it lasts guys!

Happyher · 12/02/2025 18:36

A lot of people work flexi time these days whether in a workplace or WFH so as long as you put the hours in and available when required what’s the problem?I can understand if you’re a call centre operative who WFH then you need to be at your workstation for your given hours. Surely it depends on the nature of the job

ginasevern · 12/02/2025 18:34

MarkWithaC · 12/02/2025 18:26

Thanks for your concern but I'm not embarrassed. What is a bit embarrassing is your attempt at insisting that, because no one actually literally pegs out the laundry or preps their evening meal in the office, they're skiving and wasting time that someone in an office isn't, even though in the real world everyone knows that plenty of time is wasted through taking deliberately long routes between buildings, chatting in the kitchen, catching up on everyone's weekends etc.

I'm still only saying that I wasn't "making shit up" though.

Ddakji · 12/02/2025 18:31

Agree it’s jealous, plus there do seem to be a lot of jobsworth middle managers on MN.

Over many years of being on MN I have learnt that it is not a place to ask for sensible job advice.

FriendlyEeyore · 12/02/2025 18:30

I don’t know why so many people get in such a flap over someone putting a load of laundry on when they work from home.

I’ve worked in offices where management spent more time doing ‘team building’ exercises, holding pointless meetings, going for team lunches, and acting like no work should be done on a Friday afternoon. It pissed me off because we had a busy workload and had extra pressure on us because of the ‘fun work culture’

The Daily Mail brigade didn’t lose their shit over it because white men in suits who could keep an eye on us made those decisions. But they have steam coming out of their ears if a woman dares put something in the washing machine while working from home.

Relax! If you don’t want to work from home then don’t.

Cornflakes44 · 12/02/2025 18:30

Needanewnameidea · 12/02/2025 15:52

Depends. If it’s that easy to meet your targets while simultaneously visiting friends and working on another job (which honestly sounds like you’re working part time) then I’d argue your targets aren’t stretching enough.

If it’s an ebb and flow thing and in general you’re working full time hours for a position that’s paid as full time then fair enough, some flexibility rather than pedantic clock watching probably works both ways. My DH might do a load of laundry on a day he’s wfh or nip out to collect the car from the garage, but he’ll also sometimes do a zoom call at midnight because that’s what a foreign client has asked for. That’s just give and take.

I agree. If you are routinely doing a couple of hours less a day then your targets are too low. I imagine what you could achieve if you were in the office and didn't have the distractions? Stuff like this is probably why orgs want people back in the office.

Cattreesea · 12/02/2025 18:29

I think some people purposely forget that in most offices a fair amount of time is wasted making cups of tea, gossiping, chatting about holidays/weekends/family life, having cigarette breaks or surfing the internet.

They seem to spin the narrative that people in offices are more 'productive' and busy working every single minute of their working day simply because they are on site which frankly is completely untrue.

I get more done in the peace and quiet of my home then in the middle of the chaos and distraction of open plan office...

I think people who are so against WFH are either people who are envious because they don't have the opportunity to do so in their job or control freak managers and bosses who get off on being able to micro manage staff.

PoisonRain · 12/02/2025 18:28

I've worked in many, many offices for many, many years to achieve a level of seniority, responsibility and autonomy which allows me to earn the money I do whilst WFH full time.

You've got the job you've got. If you don't like it and can change it, change it - if you can't, that's life. Being angry and bitter about others being "luckier" than you or having better opportunities than you only makes you...angry and bitter.

I'm not "lucky" and I didn't get a unique opportunity. It took me a long time to get here.

Corinthiana · 12/02/2025 18:28

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 12/02/2025 18:24

Oh my gosh I’m jealous of that.

I’ve had some truly exhausting shit jobs.

Oh god, me too!

MarkWithaC · 12/02/2025 18:26

ginasevern · 12/02/2025 18:19

I didn't say she missed her targets, I was simply pointing out that I wasn't "making shit up" and I urged you to read the OP properly to save future embarrassment.

Thanks for your concern but I'm not embarrassed. What is a bit embarrassing is your attempt at insisting that, because no one actually literally pegs out the laundry or preps their evening meal in the office, they're skiving and wasting time that someone in an office isn't, even though in the real world everyone knows that plenty of time is wasted through taking deliberately long routes between buildings, chatting in the kitchen, catching up on everyone's weekends etc.

Princessconsuelabananahammock9 · 12/02/2025 18:24

OlivePeer · 12/02/2025 16:31

I've never had a job which actually took 8 hours a day, 5 days a week.

Oh my gosh I’m jealous of that.

I’ve had some truly exhausting shit jobs.

Differentstarts · 12/02/2025 18:23

I think its hard to understand people's jobs if you haven't worked them. Iv only ever done jobs that are go go go so I struggle to understand people having free time at work. I don't generally care whatever people do in their lives unless it effects me for e.g. if your a medical secretary working from home and your not answering the phone and ignoring emails because your at a fitness class that's not ok.

Kitchensinktoday · 12/02/2025 18:22

SatinHeart · 12/02/2025 15:56

Agree with this, I find it's mostly people who can't wfh who have the strongest opinions about how wfh should be done.

Definitely

ShapedLikeAPastry · 12/02/2025 18:21

hulahoopbbq · 12/02/2025 18:08

Yes I'm jealous from a chronically understaffed NHS ward 🤣

I used to work on one of them, then I left and got a nice cushy WFH job. No regrets.

ginasevern · 12/02/2025 18:19

MarkWithaC · 12/02/2025 18:13

Call me whatever you like.
The OP also says she meets all her targets. As do many others on here.
I agree with pps that those who are vehemently against WFH are probably those who know that they wouldn't be able to organise their work and their day well enough to do it successfully.

I didn't say she missed her targets, I was simply pointing out that I wasn't "making shit up" and I urged you to read the OP properly to save future embarrassment.

Beautifulweeds · 12/02/2025 18:15

Stringagal · 12/02/2025 16:34

I wasted far more time working in an office - chatting to colleagues, getting a coffee, the loo being far away, peoples birthdays and stopping to eat cakes, the Friday butty run, more chatting, more meetings, more distractions.

I get far more done wfh, at times that suit me. Productivity is well up in my industry since Covid and wfh.

And yes I start work approximately 7 minutes after waking up and am on the sofa within 30 seconds of finishing. I bloody love it.

I would be the same! That's the thing, an office job, whether at home or in workplace is generally viewed as less stressful.