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Original poster

In light of another thread what is the ‘Worst thing daughter/son in-law has ever said or done to you?

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HaloTRI · 12/02/2025 15:17

There are always two sides to every story!

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MrsMitford3 · 12/02/2025 20:45

Very odd thread tbh. You seem to want a barrage of awful stories?

I adore my DIL and DIL to be.

I also loved my in-laws and I was very close to them.

It can be a lovely relationship going both ways...

Cookiecrumblepie · 12/02/2025 20:44

Yeah I have no story. It’s usually in the in-laws overstepping

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HaloTRI · 12/02/2025 20:37

Suimai · 12/02/2025 20:13

I think it goes to show that it is generally the in-laws overstepping and causing the issues. Though your example is clearly very unpleasant, didn’t any of you point out to your son how nasty that was for you?

Not my son, but yes DH discusses this with his son.
His son’s response is usually ‘you are making life difficult for me, because DW will be cross’.

Not sure it does show that it is ‘generally inlaws overstepping’, it just shows a one sided bias on here.

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UndermyShoeJoe · 12/02/2025 20:19

I’ll post on behalf of my mil if you’d like. She complained to dh that I don’t make her feel welcome because I don’t offer her a coffee when she pops by.

My version. You didn’t ask nor were you invited to pop in. You pass comments and judge everything in my home. I don’t even drink hot drinks so actually never offer anyone one. She makes me feel uncomfortable in my own home.

Suimai · 12/02/2025 20:13

I think it goes to show that it is generally the in-laws overstepping and causing the issues. Though your example is clearly very unpleasant, didn’t any of you point out to your son how nasty that was for you?

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HaloTRI · 12/02/2025 19:10

HomeTheatreSystem · 12/02/2025 16:10

Were you late arriving or something? Is there back history as to why they would treat you like that?

No, we arrived at the agreed time, text them along the way too so that they knew when we would be arriving. They obviously knew we had a long drive. I wouldn't care, we sat ages when we arrived, politely awaiting the good ( my DH eating his own hands) before he even asked his son, quietly, when we would be eating!

No real back story. We were navigating different expectations within families (DiL going to bed one afternoon when we visited so we didn't see her, DiL the only one not to join the family for breakfast when we all stayed in a house together) but nothing major. We are quite easy going and accept that different families have different expectations. These are not necessarily wrong ( apart from eating the party food before we arrived and sending us to the shop…😉).

They had invited us to the ‘birthday’.

I still can't believe how quiet it is on here, given that ‘in-laws’ get such bad press. 😂

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MoonWoman69 · 12/02/2025 16:24

That's awful @HaloTRI I'd have wandered back out with the presents and gone for a nice meal on the way home!

HomeTheatreSystem · 12/02/2025 16:10

Were you late arriving or something? Is there back history as to why they would treat you like that?

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HaloTRI · 12/02/2025 15:55

jannier · 12/02/2025 15:44

How awful not even to feed you ....I'm sure a mil hater will be along soon to blame you.

Interesting how quiet it is on here…😂

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jannier · 12/02/2025 15:44

How awful not even to feed you ....I'm sure a mil hater will be along soon to blame you.

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HaloTRI · 12/02/2025 15:28

pinkyredrose · 12/02/2025 15:20

You go first

Mine was my step son and daughter in law inviting us to our DGD first birthday, a two and a half hour drive away.

When we arrived at the venue, armed with gifts, our DiL announced ‘this isn't her real birthday or party, that is next week’. Clearly we weren't invited.

We sat with DiL’s family, waiting for the birthday tea and the cake with candles to be lit/cut, and when my DH asked DSS and DiL what time everyone was eating, we were told ‘everyone has had the food, M&S is across the road if you need to buy anything!’.

Quietly we went and bought a sandwich and drove the two and a half hours home!

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pinkyredrose · 12/02/2025 15:20

You go first