Who is the poorest person in your family and why?

Currently hard to know. My elderly relations have money behind them and cousins and their wives both have good jobs and work full-time.

DH and his brother took early retirement (in DH's case for his own well being). Both odd the odd bit of part-time work and wives work part-time. His sister and DH both work more or less full time. They've all benefited from inheritance, which helped them all pay off their mortgage.

Turning the clocks back, DH's brother and family had it hard for many years. They chose to have three children, but lived in a house that needed doing up, no heating, rarely had gas fire on when we were there. My sister-in-law would often call me into the kitchen for inspiration and what she could do with what she had in the cupboards. Wasn't worth having their fridge on, as only thing in there was milk - no spread, veggies keeping fresh, jars or things like ketchup. The whole family used to miss lunch time, unless the DC had something at school.

I think it's me. Both DC have complex needs and I can therefore only work very part time hours in low pay as I could never establish a career. Both are teens, one is severely disabled. I either work or provide care and feel a bit cheated by life.

My cat just moved himself in. £1000+ at the vets within a couple of weeks. I don't think it's technically his debt though.

I don't know anyone as poor as me. I wouldn't swap places with any of them.

Me. Despite being the only university educated one.

One brother owns his own very successful business and married someone who came from a very comfortable family.

Other brother married someone from a comfortable family, plus she is very well paid and his job is above average pay, and they only have one child.

My parents are now retired or semi retired and have ok pensions, are now mortage free and had a healthy inheritance from my great uncle and my grandmother

I had four kids and married someone who is on minimum wage and I own my own small business. We do ok, but compared to my brothers, we're by far the poorest.

Me. I’m no longer able to work so only receive benefits. I was never a high earner, but it was more than this. I hate it.

My sister.

She lives alone and has a mortgage and car to pay for by herself. I really feel for her so try and help out when I can, but she literally lives Hand to mouth.

Depends on how you view it:

My DGM - state pension but no mortgage etc.

My DS - higher income than me but very high outgoings because of where she lives in the country and the fact that she's single.

Me - lower income but also live in a comparatively cheap area of the country and have a partner to share the bills.

The one who is workshy who married someone who is workshy. I wouldn’t mind, but they never stop whingeing about how hard up they are. If they would put their backs into some work, they wouldn't be hard up. Too late now at turned 60 but it's notable that one of their children only works p/t and games, one started a job, moved away, and gave up the job because it was too hard, the other has stuck an apprenticeship but now it's complete needs to find themselves by doing something creative.

Me - I don’t want to be a supervisor let alone a manager so turn down promotions. I tend to pick jobs with job satisfaction over pay. I don’t do overtime or work through lunch. I choose my time and peace of mind over money. I couldn’t imagine having a job like some of my family where they are always stressed, under pressure and logged on still at 9/10pm (but earn ridiculous amounts of money)

I have one bio sibling, neither of us went to uni. Earn 40k/80k respectively. I am lowest earner.

Inc stepsiblings, the ones who had kids before they were 20 are lowest earners.

Inc stepsiblings - 3x went to uni but do not work in an area relevant to their course and they would be no worse off (they worked their way up in a field that didn't need a degree, e.g. work in supermarkets at a high level). They earn upwards of 100k each.

Another went to study a niche to a level below degree and now does sales in the field so earns bigger money from that (estimate 80k)

Me because I married someone who has a prestige career rather than a money career.

I make great money, mind, but as the practically sole earner with three kids, it doesn't stack up compared to my siblings - One is a child-free medical expert, one a very high earner married to a high earner (two kids), one married into serious money (one kid).

Definitely the oldest cat. He's run up a small fortune in vets bills and has never once offered to start paying us back

Me, not poor in a wider sense, just got the least wonga in my family. I work public sector, partner’s disability not sufficient for benefits but enough that he can’t really work FT. No complaints there, we do fine and he’s a better than decent house husband which suits me down to the ground. Mum retired on final salary pension plus the part that comes my dad’s (he died a while ago), mortgage paid off decades ago. Sister has a decent private sector job and her husband does some kind of fancy finance thing (uses his bonuses to buy houses) so they do very well thankyouverymuch.

Ficking hell. You’re a judgy pants aren’t you

For a very long time,it was me

Single mum,on benefits and a very low paid job

I went back to college,worked hard to learn a trade and went nc with the lot of them

They all have good jobs but spend every penny they have on tat/credit

I own my own home (paid for in cash),have an ok-ish job and a happy life with my dp

No longer am I there to be looked down at and made fun of for being lower than pigshit and a sponger (not my words at all)

And they hate it

With a parent that writes you off like that... Well, the world's your oyster!

I don’t like this at all.

Is article fishing still a thing on here?

The sibling who didn’t really lean into their career and spent a lot of time abroad ar5ing around doing low level teaching jobs that were going to go nowhere, including by way of qualifications. That it was teaching isn’t the point, it’s the fact that they have no qualifications and now can’t even teach here. They are now mid 40s still not settled job wise, renting with one kid and partner in tow, and haven’t even started to think about pension. The fact that they’re going to be working until they’re 75 is starting to sink in.
The other sibling should probably be a lot wealthier than they are, but they have a spending habit

Me?😂
DH and I both have decent jobs but we prioritise family life over working/careers. We had two children fairly close together whilst I was still in my 20s so obviously now in my early 30s we’re just building back up from that. We own our home (mortgaged but have paid off a decent chunk) and DH runs a successful business so we’re by no means destitute. Just don’t have a massive amount of spare cash.

DBrother and his girlfriend live abroad and have well paid jobs with no kids. They have a lot more disposable income but also don’t own their home so it’s swings and roundabouts really.

My parents obviously benefit from being of a different generation and having run a business in the right industry at the right time. They aren’t super wealthy but they are perfectly comfortable, mortgage paid off, good savings etc.

DHs parents are in a similar position to financially. His siblings are older so a bit more established than us but not wildly better off by any means.

Well, I’m in most debt despite a good job. But I’m a homeowner, have car and holidays etc.

DB works minimum wage and topped up with UC. Rents and no car, no holidays. But also no debt.

Why do you want to know such a personal question

My adult DC, who are 25 and 23. They rent and barely get by.

I've no idea really, no one my side of the family could be considered poor. DH family more so but in complex ways