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Bridezilla- wedding accommodation.

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Bloodybrambles · 12/02/2025 12:57

Inspired by another thread which was heavily in favour for accommodation being split by PP not per room.

This is going back a couple of years and I actually fell out with a friend. I’m now wondering if maybe she wasn’t being the CF I originally thought she was after reading a similar thread.

A friend was getting married in Scotland and the venue included a B&B. Originally we declined the offer of staying in the B&B (£350 for the two nights) as we were on an extremely tight budget, and was planning on staying in premier inn in the nearby town. After some persuading from the Bride, how she really wanted the ‘bride squad’ to stay in the B&B and after paying for taxi’s we’d not be saving that much money anyway… I felt pressured into agreeing.

Fast forward to a couple of months before the wedding, a text on the group chat says to make it fair, the cost of the B&B would be split per person, not per room. DP said immediately that he’s just drop out as logistics to getting to rural Scotland, especially midweek was less than ideal and it now being £500 for us both to attend was ridiculous. He always thought they were being CF for charging us going rate for the room anyway as they were technically included in the wedding package...

The Bride had also planned a meal the night before for the wedding party that DP wasn’t included in, and we were told that we had to help the day after the wedding to clear up meaning that we would probably not get back home to the early hours.

I called the bride to explain that I was paying for the room myself as I felt it unfair to spring £250 onto DP when he was only really attending as my plus one and there was no way I could afford the £500. I then said that I could bunk in with another bridesmaid (DP staying home) leaving one room free for another couple/attendees to occupy. This was out of the question as the vibe would change and it wasn’t fair to expect the younger bridesmaids to subsidise DP.

OP posts:
ComtesseDeSpair · 12/02/2025 13:48

Snowmanscarf · 12/02/2025 13:13

I think the difference here is that the goalposts moved. You accepted the accomadation invite on the premise that it was going to cost £350. However, weeks before the price increased by £150, which then made not feasible for you.

I think in the other thread, the price was being discussed at time of booking, not later.

Agree that the unreasonable bit is the goalposts changing once everything had been agreed.

Splitting between people rather than rooms is fair because it balances negatives with positives: if the whole property costs £1,000 a night and 5 people go it’s £200 each. If 10 people go, the property becomes more crowded and it might be more difficult to find a bathroom slot - but now it’s only £100 each, so people don’t mind.

Otherwise, your DP is there taking up bathroom time, kitchen space, living space etc from everybody else, but nobody else sees any benefit from him being there in terms of reduced cost for everyone, they only get the negatives of his presence.

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Bloodybrambles · 12/02/2025 13:48

BlueMum16 · 12/02/2025 13:01

If this was a B&B then surely they set the rates when booking and not the bride.

You book a room at 350 it up to you if one or two people are in it.

It's not about splitting the cost of a full house. Two different things.

The B&B would charge £350 for the room. However, during weddings the venue was closed to the public meaning that the B&G paid for the sole use of the B&B as they were included in the cost of the basic wedding package.

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MissScarletInTheBallroom · 12/02/2025 13:39

Nah she was being a bridezilla and a CF.

If you're going to insist on the wedding party staying at the venue, you subsidise it.

A couple of my close friends got married a few years back and they asked a certain number of guests to stay with them at the venue. They asked us to contribute roughly what it would have cost for us to stay in a local cheap hotel and they subsidised the rest.

jellyfishperiwinkle · 12/02/2025 13:36

God, I didn't make any of the bridal party spend money on accommodation. They stayed with DH's parents or at our house or just arrived on the day.

toomuchfaff · 12/02/2025 13:35

Hold fast, she was a CF. You were right.

PricklyLikeCactus · 12/02/2025 13:34

If the rooms were included in the wedding package, presumably they were trying to recoup as much as possible and the 350/500/700 options were arbitrary and just decided by them according to what they thought they could get away with? Cheeky fuckers indeed!

Snowmanscarf · 12/02/2025 13:13

I think the difference here is that the goalposts moved. You accepted the accomadation invite on the premise that it was going to cost £350. However, weeks before the price increased by £150, which then made not feasible for you.

I think in the other thread, the price was being discussed at time of booking, not later.

sweetpickle2 · 12/02/2025 13:10

Agree with PP this is different to the per person/per room discussion on another thread. The room costs what the room costs. The bride was a CF.

(Also why would it be 350 for one and 500 for two, if anything surely it gets doubled? Not that that's the point...)

Ablondiebutagoody · 12/02/2025 13:08

I agree with PP. This is rooms in a B&B, where you pay on a per room basis.

When you rent a villa, everyone needs to pay their share of the whole thing because presumably they will be using the facilities of the whole house.

BlueMum16 · 12/02/2025 13:01

If this was a B&B then surely they set the rates when booking and not the bride.

You book a room at 350 it up to you if one or two people are in it.

It's not about splitting the cost of a full house. Two different things.

Notgivenuphope · 12/02/2025 13:00

Some women become pathetic when it comes to weddings OP and reckon the money fairy comes to subsidize their day as a fairy princess.
She is one of those…

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