To not give her a lift?

As someone who used to run a children's activity you have done the right thing. The group leader driving the child home is a MASSIVE red flag. It was drummed into me by our safeguarding advisor and insurance people that I must NEVER do that. I even had to declare driving my own neice home from the activity.

Um, O.K. Fascinating.

The 'other woman' giving her kid lifts home?
Yeah. Right.
Did none of them think that sounded like a giant pile of steaming bollocks?

obvs you haven't even read all the OP's posts!!

I haven't read all of the posts, but me personally I would purposefully miss just one session, and take daughter elsewhere (i know its not ideal for my own child but as a one off to prove a point), but NOT tell the group chat ANYTHING .
Then when the session starts and you're not there, the CF mum will either clock that you arent there, and realise she will have to collect her own daughter (as you're not there) or the activity leader will have to call the mother to TELL her to collect her own daughter at the end of the session.
The next day week I would make a point of saying no lifts from me guys, thanks.

What a hard face cheeky cow to just dump that responsibility on you in the first place.
I would have been livid.

Wow. That escalated. 🙄

What are you replying to here? The thread has significantly moved on since the first post

I've suggested this before. It ought to be possible to set up something that makes posting a message impossible unless the last message left by the OP has been opened by the new poster. But it would need some kind of whizzkid programmer IT expert to set that up, which I'm not. But I'm sure it's possible.
Failing that, the message box should include a box to tick before posting to confirm that the poster has read the OP's updates. Still might not work, but at least they might stop and think.

So does MN review these "reported for trolling" posts or just delete them?

Because tone can be inserted by another poster where not intended by the writer.

@FuckoffeeBeforeCoffee made a very valid point earlier....
My comment was, I think, "this is too much". It could be in reference to anything - the story could be too much or the CF could be too much

Someone obviously reported it, did MN review it or just delete it? Who read Fuckoffee's tone? Maybe she meant the cf of too much and OP is much better off knowing ....

Anyway, I'm going off track - and don't want another ban. It's just a genuine query.

Also, who can be arsed to report someone for saying that?? Seriously, get a life!

Non answer which doesn't explain why some posts were deleted and others not. Could you explain the inconsistency please?

nip it in the bud!

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Well I'll go to the foot of our stairs.

There should be a law that you cannot post without hitting 'see all' of the OP's updates. THe law is, you have to read the first two and the last two at the VERY LEAST. So tedious wading through suggestions based on first post only.

Mmmmmm well goodness me.

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Well that's quite an update.

Ps. it's 'affair' not 'affaire'.

Who made you overlord of mumsnet? I can express my views however I please( on a public forum). Freedom of speech and all that. If the OP/Mumsnet or whoever else takes offence to me querying this post, report me. 😘

Going back a step. Why would any of the group believe you were the OW yet the CF was insisting you gave her child a lift? Surely she would be ostracising you rather than giving you access to her child?

OP, if this activity group is part of a larger organization, PLEASE expose this to the management. This is beyond simple CF'ery. The manipulation, black mailing and defamation of character she has put you through, as well as the ramifications for both your daughter as well as the daughter of the other mum are serious, and this does need to have real consequences for the activity leader in terms of termination of employment. If it's a small activity and the activity leader is self employed there's probably not much you can do except rise above and take care of yourself and your daughter.

And thank you for posting your updates. This was an outrageously good one!

My brain can't even comprehend how can parent leave child without arranging for their lift home. She didn't even speak to you, that is just absolutely INSANE! What on Earth. Mental.

Posts like this baffle me, one because some of it doesn't make sense. If you were the "other woman" why would the mum be wanting you to give her child a lift? Surely she'd want you nowhere near her child or anywhere near her home.

Also, this is Mumsnet. I'm pretty sure every Mum (and plenty of non-parents) I know use or read MN. Surely at least one person from your group would recognise this scenario?

It reminds me a bit of another one where CF bought child to a birthday party without RSVP'ing and then kicked off about not getting the special party bag. I'm now convinced that was just some very unsubtle advertising for a TV comedy, given that that OP had used the same moniker for her CF.

I am shocked not to have been deleted, though I did word carefully... As mentioned up thread I'd love to see a screenshot of these whatsapps the OP is having.

This comment will be deleted but I do wonder if some aims are to make it into classics...

I have no idea whether the post is real or not. What I will say is that twice in my life I have experienced similar very real scandal in the village situations. Once I was a bystander and once my late DH was said to be the OM....he wasn't.