To not give her a lift?

if you are unable to directly inform the mother, you can just tell the child that you are not returning home/on that route because you are going elsewhere, but they can tell the teacher to call their mother to pick them up. it's a bit harsh on the child but it's the mother's fault.

Did you speak to the child’s mum when you dropped them off? Have you got their number?
’Sorry, have plans going forward after this activity to won’t be travelling directly home so
won't be able to bring xxxx home again’ if you don’t want any kind of confrontation.
Personally, I’d tell the mum that they were out of order & I’ll not be bringing their rude, badly behaved child home again - & to have been asked would’ve been nice! I get that that approach isn’t for everyone though!!

Don't worry! The Activity Leader can just bring the child to her mother on his way to meet her for their secret affair!!

YANBU! Horrendous behaviour on behalf of the other mum who has clearly and unsurprisingly raised a brat. I can't get over the cheek of it! I would tell the leader of the activity that you have not agreed with that child's parent that you would take them home. It will then be up to the activity leader to ring the child's parent and tell them to come and collect them.

OMG please don't quit the group! This is gossip solid gold! I thought it was strange the way the other parents were treating you but now with this update its imperative you continue just so you can feed me more gossip.

What a wild ride. Sorry you were chosen to be the guilty party but I'm sure once all the crap comes out your name will be restored. (and I can't believe they thought they'd get away with such an incredible lie)

But if the child's mum is having an affair with the group leader, then surely driving the child home is fine?

I meant you were right. It turns out YOU were right about someone spreading lies about you.

Nobody wondered why CF was insisting on husbands affair partner to give rides for her child

This is shocking behaviour, is there any way you can contact the dad?

So the wronged woman wants her husband's suspected mistress to drive their child home and leave her in the house with a stranger, and there is no written proof that she ever requested the OP to do this? What could possibly go wrong? This has all the hallmarks of a Harlen Coben TV thriller. Be careful OP, I think she might be setting you up so she can accuse you of something terrible and get you arrested and have your autistic child removed from your care. Did you not watch Play Nice?

I mean you did say, several pages back, when you were bewildered over why everyone was on your case 'I wonder if someone has been spreading things that aren't true.' And it turns out they were right! Your spidey senses are strong.

Lately it seems that every third or fourth thread that gets any traction is some wild story which is, in parts, so erm..surprising, or maybe baffling and scant on logical detail that it's hard to erm..not believe, that's not the word I am looking for. Understand. Let's plump for hard to understand how in heaven's name those events came about as described. I've been interacting with human beings for 59 years and I've seen all sorts, but I don't recognise the behaviours or conversations in some of these stories. I mean I believe they are true if the OP says they are. I just don't recognise them and have never experienced anything remotely similar myself. Or know anyone who has.

I'm never sure whether posters just go a bit heavy on the hyperbole, lending their posts a fantastical quality, or whether they just move in circles where the human beings behave very, very differently from the ones I've been interacting with.

I would not wish to cast aspersions on any thread, I give every poster the benefit of the doubt including this one. Because I don't want to get deleted. But gosh some of these threads lately do push my credulity to its limits. Again, not this one. Just some.

Some days MN reads like those clickbait Bored Panda or Buzzfeed stories that pop up on my facebook feed.

Why? People do these things.

Wow. Shark well and truly jumped there.

I believe the expression is 'jumped the shark'.

‘Yea if you need me to drop them off I will. Although, your kid is a as-hole, so I’ll have to do two trips. Ask the leaders if they’re ok to stay with your kid while I drop mine home. It’ll prob be about £20 though for extra fuel etc.’

also ‘dunno if you’re aware of the times, but the village is dead’

This is the bit I really don’t get.

Hopefully the group leader will be binned now if he's part of a wider organisation. No wonder he was so stroppy when he had to take the kid home!

So when does Shirley Carter find out where Phil really was then? I’m gripped.

I don’t believe that update for a minute

Sorry but the mother put a message on the group chat saying you would take the child home. No direct message request to you? Did you respond or did you miss the message? I personally would announce on the group chat that you were not actually asked and how rude it is. Embarrass her.

As for the ‘update’- so this woman is leaving the child with the lodger whilst she has an affair with the activity leader. How do you know this for sure? Seems far fetched

Whoa what a turn up for the books. I am impressed with your digging skills.

Exactly! I honestly don't understand the mentality of reading the first post on a thread with 100s of comments and thinking 'yeah I won't bother reading anything else I'll just respond to that'

Share this on the WhatsApp group. The suggestion that you were having an affair, that it is wrong etc.

I often think this (some people can't be bothered with that), you could always read the last couple of posts in the thread..... this will usually give a good indication of how far the thread has moved.

You dont need to read ALL the posts but surely you'd read OPs posts before offering your advice?