To not give her a lift?

Perfect!

Hold firm OP - NO.

Because I don’t want to and it isn’t convenient. Please can we draw a line under this now - I’ve made my position clear that I’m not willing to take responsibility for someone else’s child.

What an absolute brass neck she is!

Reply, "Oh good, there you go, a couple of volunteers. I'm glad you got it sorted."

Ignore completely.

She's obviously a CF but honestly couldn't get upset about giving a child a lift home once a week if it's in the same direction. Seems such a pointless thing to get worked up about. I'm also curious as to how this child kicked your daughter out of the front seat and still managed to kick your drivers seat?

Or they call social services. When she arrives tonight tell her you're not taking her child home and that if she leaves her there you'll report her. Only thing these people understand. No excuses, no I'm sorry I can't, they read that as weakness. And next time a strange kid kicks the back of your chair pull over and tell them your not driving while they're kicking you. Yes you have to be rude, nothing else is understood by people like this.

I wouldn't feel safe being involved with such a person.

It really is a safe guarding issue that needs reporting to the Leader.

Do you have a phone number for the Leader?

If so inform them exactly what happened and that you were put in a terrible safe guarding position.
That you need them to know formally that you have no involvement or responsibility for ANY child bar your own.
Tell them you are texting so that YOU have a record of this for safe guarding purposes.

No more polite excuses or reasoning. This is a CF who isn't just cheeky, she is a bulldozer.

"No, it is not 'fine'. I am not able and not willing to give a lift to your child. You will have to make other arrangements. I will not be doing it."

Don't worry about not seeming nice, that's what she's banking on. My blood is boiling just reading it.

If you need some motivation think about your poor child being shoved and hating the journey home! And the little shit kicking the back of your seat. I bet you didn't get a thank you either.

This op you don't have to supervise her child or drive around.

Tell the parent straight and stop being a doormat.

I thought you’d left yourself open with that reply.

Text her back right now.

“ Hi CFer, I really dont know what’s happened here. I ended up being responsible for your DD totally out of the blue, with no communication from you whatsoever. It’s not convenient for me to take/ drop back your child from XXXX due to my own family commitments, and I won’t be able to do it again so please make alternative arrangements. Thanks Dreaming

Just reply 'thats not possible please make other arrangements '.

YANBU

Message her directly, and the group chat, and state clearly that you never offered or agreed to give her DC a lift home and you won't be doing it again. No more excuses or fudging the issue Op. It sounds like her DM goes out for the evening and doesn't care who looks after her child as long as it's not her

And don’t be guilted by a sad abandoned child at the end of an activity. That’s on their parent not you. If the other parents make you feel bad, suggest they start a rota and drop this kid off themselves rather than making it your problem. You’ve done your slot.

Message. To be clear - this arrangement (that was thrust upon me without my consent) doesn't work for me or my dc.

Just respond, this does not work for me. Please make sure your child is collected.

This is perfect. And notify the staff at the activity of what’s been going on and that you will not be taking her DC home.

You have to be super firm with people like this.

“I mind though. I’m not available to give lifts. Please don’t ask again (not that you asked the first time).”

unless you think that being blunt will impact your child’s experience in class. In which case - “it’s still not possible. You need to make other arrangements to transport your child to and from this class.”

Spell it out.

I AM NOT BRINGING YOUR CHILD HOME.

Tell the Leader the minute you arrive.

I am truly shocked that a parent has left there child at an activity assuming you will drop them off! They didn't even ask you?

If I was you I would refuse as you are not their personal taxi driver. You don't even need to give an excuse... the audacity of some people leaves me astounded.

Yes, just say "that doesn't work for me. You'll need to organise your own child's journey home."

OP, do NOT respond to any attempt to argue the point with you.

You are not available.
But tell the group leader the minute you go in what happened and that you were put in a shocking position of responsibility by a parent who never contacted you.

Make it clear this is a serious safe guarding issue and you will not be put in that position again and that THEY need to take action to protect the child and other parents from this.

Make sure you say there was no parent home nor an address.

Kindly meant OP but many parents wojld have walked that child up to the leader and refused any part of this.

Huge red flag.

Fucking hell OP - just say it doesn't suit you. That is insane. Cheeky Fucker

So the kid is horrible to your kid, and the mum is horrible to you (by the pure CFery nature).

Well done on standing up for yourself and sending the message that you're unable to give lifts! Stand strong and don't change the stance.