To not give her a lift?

Child WANTED the front seat, didn't get it, got sat in the back and kicked the front seat.

I'd make it clear that wasn't happening, and I'd also clearly say that I will leave the child at the activity. And then I'd follow through. Otherwise you'll be doing it all the time.

I'd kindly suggest if they are so concerned, they take the child home!

I'd say

That doesn't work for me. However, if you are happy to commit then let tge cheek fucker know.

(Tag the mum) it looks like x and y will be taking over with the lifts".

Can see the village deminishing as I read that.

She didn't pick the child up! They were left at the activity for her to take home.

From the first post:

on discovering that I drive past her house, has decided that I will be taking her child to and from the activity from now on

Don't pick the kid up to begin with - problem solved!

I'd also be concerned that as the parent hadn't directly asked for a lift if, god forbid there was an accident or the DC decide to run off then cheeky parent would put the blame on you saying she'd never asked you to fetch her DD home you just took it upon yourself to do so.

Definitely a CF.

Sounds like it will have to be a super firm - no, sorry, I can't give lifts. Just repeat and repeat, without excuses that they can then twist. Just 'Sorry, I can't' or 'That won't work for me'.

Sorry they're pressuring you like this.

You reply saying "Because I don't want to, but since you clearly feel so strongly I guess you will have no issues doing it instead. (Tag the mum) it looks like x and y will be taking over with the lifts".

That old chestnut.....
Usually sprouted by parents who refuse to accept any responsibility for their own kids....
Why put your child into an activity if you aren't prepared to take and collect them?! Oh yes, a CF....

You could just repeat....I will not be taking or collecting anyone else's child. And then say nothing else at all.

If specific people ask you at the activity, you could just say you were gobsmacked that a parent would abandon their child to a total stranger without even asking. And that you are not taking anyone else's child because it impacts on your child's welfare. As demonstrated last week by said child shoving yours.

What a CF

No you don't. Whoever is running this club,calls the parent and gets them to collect said child. How dare they just make assumptions like that?!?

Honestly, I would push back and say, "well, I might have been happy to provide a lift if I'd ever been asked. But I haven't been asked. It was just assumed and in fact, it is NOT convenient for me, especially considering Mary's additional needs and how distressed she got with Penelope's behaviour last time."

But then, I am one of those people who is polite, friendly, helpful (I often give lifts etc for example) but I'm also one who doesn't have any problem standing up for myself and if people push back and I'm cast as the bad guy, so be it.

this. stay out of it completely. safeguard yourself!

@DreamingOfHotPotatoes I think you need to be upfront to this rude woman, and say that the last time you gave her child a lift without her having the courtesy to ask, her child was extremely rude and badly behaved and it made your child who has autism extremely distressed, so you are not willing to subject your child to her disruptive child when in her safe space.

Report it then.

I'd ignore no point in engaging any further you have said your piece. Get there ten mins early and mention to the leader instead

Let the other parents ferry the kid around then! They sound like a bunch of CFs. You are not unreasonable! Don't get me wrong, I'd help anyone out in an emergency but wouldn't be used like this! Sounds like you're being taken for a mug in this instance. Just politely say it won't work for you and that's that. They are very cheeky to just assume you'd do it.

Honestly these people are not your friends just say as I have already stated, I am not giving lifts

Then I'd nominate one of those..

Just send a message saying...
Perfect the job is yours as I WILL NOT be responsible for another child.

I'd also mention it to the class leader so they're kept in the picture.

Go back onto the group, say it’s a no to lifts, that you were trying to be diplomatic but the child kicked your chair the whole ride back and this isn’t an experience you’re going to repeat.

tell the group that the ‘village’ isn’t ONE person shoved into it, it’s normal to ASK but be prepared that the answer is no, but they are welcome to volunteer their own cars/time for this child if they’re so inclined. You don’t appreciated being coerced/tricked into taking responsibility for someone else’s child.

be firm. Be clear.

"I will not be giving any lifts from this activity going forward, under any circumstances. Please do not ask and do not expect this."

^

This

Or,

No.

If this post is real

Then yes, op, you need to grow a pair, say no, and not give a fuck what the villagers say

For that reason alone you can say you’re not going to give lifts.

child was badly behaved - keep that one up your sleeve for when the entitled parent pushes back

A simple - that doesn't work for me.