To not give her a lift?

If none of these parents are your friends, who gives a shit about their reactions.
Take your kid, collect your kid, ignore the adults

Did you miss the bit about the other child being aggressive and rude and the OPs dc being autistic.

Tell them you will be charging by the hour. Say no

I'd say "Your child kicked my seat the whole way back despite being asked not to, there's no way I'm taking them food shopping with me! Also, who wants to take someone else's kid food shopping?! You're being ridiculously cheeky"

Its stuff like this that makes me glad I'm not a "Mum friends" person. I'd definitely leave the group!

What's the activity? They really shouldn't have let you take the other child without you having confirmed that agreement.
I would have left the child (as mean as it sounds) and said to the activity leader that you knew nothing about the arrangements and did not feel comfortable taking a child without having made arrangements.

In the situation now, I would again contact the activity leader and say you are not giving lifts. That way if the child is dropped off and the parent says you are picking up they can say you aren't.
Do not back down to this, child doesn't even sound grateful and it does sound worrying no parent was home either (I assume they wanted a nice evening out)

To be honest to really annoy her, if she can drive, I would suggest that she does one week and you do the next or she just does drop off and do collection and see how she gets on with that. If she flat refuses, then I will do the same too. It may take a village but it can be your village too if that’s the way she wants to play it.

Yes your reply should have just said I gave your child a lift home the other night but it was a one off,no need to give a reason.

I had an acquaintance message me saying they knew I was still doing a hobby every Wednesday night in another town so they had signed their child up to a club nearby and I could take their child and collect again for the lift home.
The message said but but due to timings you will be a bit late for your hobby and also have to leave early also.
My reply was NO...thats all I put
Never mentioned again

Surely nobody is this wet in real life?

Just say it doesn’t suit me to be tied down to this. I very often have other plans straight after the class so I cannot commit this unfortunately but if anyone else would like to step in and do it then they are more than welcome. This does not suit me end of story.

how does she get her child to the class?

Are people really this selfish?

Just tell her: your kid hit mine, then kicked the back of my seat all the way home last week. I don't give lift to rude kids. And it was the height of rudeness to assume that I would give your kid a lift. Don't do that again.

They all sound batshit.

Then reply excellent, you can take turns taking that child home!
CF the lot of them by the sounds of things

Just reply: sorry but I'm not taking your child shopping with me, you'll need to arrange your own lift otherwise your child will end up stranded at the end.

Don’t make up anything. Just tell her no. You don’t have anything to lose because she’s not even your friend.

We had a mother who started doing this. Felt sorry for her, so we all helped out a couple times, it then she started messaging us 10 mins before school started, then starting asking everyone else to do pick ups too. Nothing wrong with her - we later saw her posts of Facebook talking about the all nighters she was pulling “and just how exhausted she was” to do the school runs. Just told her “sorry, not available” every time she asked.

Exactly this. In fact I've done this before to stop any pattern or expectation (on their part) that this will become a regular thing. Sit it out today, or collect early!

I agree. I can't believe you even did it to begin with OP. Not in a million years would I agree to put a child in my car and take them to an address given only by the child, without speaking to a single guardian.

Can't believe other people are even getting involved in the chat! Tell them all to do one!

@DreamingOfHotPotatoes

I'd start with messaging this child's parent directly with the basic truth "Your child pushed my child, demanded the front seat, and when I refused she kicked the back of my seat all the way home. I will not be giving lifts". If you felt like bringing out the big guns you could add "I consider this an end to the matter. But if you feel you must 'make this public' I will post your child's behaviour publicly as my response".

Is this child a 'star player' or something? Otherwise I can't see all these parents getting so involved.

This is a level of CFery that is quite staggering

Not rude. Just very firm.

Dear CF, there seem to be crossed wires here. I need to make it clear to you that I am not available to give Little CF a lift home this week, or in the future. Nor am I available to give Little CF a lift to the activity this week, or in the future in case you imagined I could.

Why should OP's kid miss out on the lesson or have to leave early?! That's crazy!

Or today even - I'd not take my child there later, either that or collect early.

🔥

Hope you have your hard hat on 😂

#Cancel the check

After making it clear I couldn't give the child a lift home, the next time class is on I'd either keep my DC away from class for a week, or turn up early to collect.

Surely those insisting you should give child a lift could do it, if they're so keen that they get a lift home.